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writes: I'm a 27 year old male whom seems to come too soon. Could it be psychological or health problems? I have tried a spray to help me not come as fast. It did help me not to come but the side effect was that I didn't get hard enough. Please send me any advise!!! thank you so much! Reply to this Question
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reader, LucidCupid +, writes (11 October 2005):
Experiment a little(if you aren't already)Try different positions.This will keep you aroused but also focused on pleasing your partner rather than worrying that the dam's going to burst any minute if your just going at it in one position.The 'pinch and hold' technique also staves off the urge to ejaculate too.Just squeeze the base of your penis between your thumb and first finger for five seconds when that tingling starts.You'll be good to go for another few minutes!
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reader, married but lonely +, writes (9 October 2005):
Slow yourself down. Caress her more. Think baseball!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2005): Get a C ring to place at the base of your shaft. It's supposed to help delay the ejaculation (while simultaneously intensifying it). They have them at any kinky store. And it's not that bothersome to woman really, so long as you can do two things....1. convince her that you are so aroused by her you couldn't hold off.....and 2. continue pleasing her until you are re-aroused for round two. (if you are a dead fish after your quick ejaculation, you'll be the worst lay ever...you need to ensure that she gets off, which could ultimately lead you to your second orgasm of the encounter...just don't forget about her, even if you feel completely out of the mood, you must 'act as if' you are still randy enough to see her through it.) Good Luck, and have fun with it. Actually, early ejaculation can make for much better sex if you just follow through with things after you've gone limp.
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reader, schlottjl  +, writes (8 October 2005):
 I can't necessarily directly help but can tell you what worked for my bf when we had a spell of the same.
First, try to relax. What you think is not long enough might be different than what the ladies think is long enough. If you go 5 min, you are fine. Just ensure that you increase foreplay so she gets off first.
Next, if you have a reg gf, increase the frequency. We found that once a blue moon make you guys trigger happy. If this is not possible, get together with Rosie palm a few times a week to ensure you pipes are clean. This alone has worked for a lot of guys that I know (at least they tell me even when I don't want to know.)
Try the gel under a condom. Even double glove if you want. And as a last resort, do kegle exercises. This is the lift your package (or stop your pee two to three time every time you do).
Technique wise, don't start with bjs as they will render you unable. Agter entry, stop all movement till you have control and grab the base if you think it might help.
Finally, if you are with a gf, go ahead and come quickly and consider the encounter just begun. Get a bit kinky to get you back up or wait a bit just focusing on her. But most important, every guy I have ever known has had this at one time or another. Those who laughed it off got over it quickly. Those who felt humiliated no matter what we say to calm them, sometimes didn't for ages. That is the worst because, when you know your guy is getting frazzled even before batter up, you know the problem is in the expectations. What is worse is that no matter what we say, all guys seem to think we think like you. WE DON"T. If you listen, relax and make the whole thing romantic we can get off just thinking about it (if we don't have hang ups too.) Make her feel sexy and desired (consider the early ejaculation proof) and she will probably not even think twice. We tend to worry if you can't get up. That is because we worry you are not turned on by us.
If you don't let this get to you, and you increase the times per week you ejaculate (with or without the gf but often with her), she will be just fine- please trust me. If you are in a solid relationship, talk to her about it and jik she doesn't already know, tell her this is when things need to get creative.
Good luck to you. Now breath in and breath out...
oh yeah, if the above does not help, you should see a doc jik. Some health conditions might cause this. So do some meds (though usually they cause the opposite.) But is you are on anything new or (jik) if you do any street drugs, that also could be to blame. Even if you have been doing them for awhile. Sometimes a resistance builds up and odd effects arise (no pun intended!)
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