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writes: Hi,I'm a 22 year old girl and in a relationship for 13 months now with a guy of 22. We had an initial rocky 6 months but since then it's been going really well as we seem to be able to avoid fights as we know each other better. We are much happier these days. My problem is that when we first met, he had just bought an apartment which I stay in with him at least 3 nights a week. He is now selling his apartment and looking to buy a house, which he is on the verge of doing. The problem for me is that the nights apart don't make any sense for me anymore - I'd love for him to ask me to move in with him. But I know him really well and know that if he wanted that, he would bring it up. It's not that I don't see this going anywhere - it is as we spend every weekend together and I trust him completely. I just need to know how to be more patient and feel happy with taking things slowly especially since we had a volatile first 6 months. I want to be with him properly but it's definitely something that I know he's capable of bringing up himself if he wants that to, so just need your advice as to how to relax and stop fretting so much. Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, LucidCupid +, writes (18 October 2005):
You seem to be with a man who has his head screwed on the right way!I'm sure part of his reason and motivation for moving involves you.Your man is wanting a house because it is a more appropriate place to bring up a family.He is thinking long-term.You're both young,and kids may be years away yet,but he is securing a future for you both,and it's commendable that someone so young is doing that.Hold onto this one!!He'll ask you to move in when he's good and ready.It's a big step in a relationship,and not something you should rush into.I don't know how you can be more 'patient',but just enjoy the nights that you do spend with him,and see it happening every night as something to look foward to.
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