Shall I walk away, or take a very big risk???
Q. I have Just started some part time work after getting my life back together from an abusive relationship. A man in my work place has for several weeks been friendly but until recently didn't realise he was attracted towards me. He has now made it ...
A. 27 October 2012: It sounds to me as if you know you are vulnerable at the present time hence why you told yourself not to get involved. He could be a player or just someone who gets in too deep too quick. Perhaps you should consider just being friendly but allowing ... (read in full...)
I really like this guy, but we're both leaving, can our relationship work?
Q. okay so Ive been dating this guy for awhile now. since begining of april. I have never been so into a guy befor. I know we love eachother. Only thing is this fall he is leaving for school, and I am leaving for a 9 month program were i cant come hom...
A. 17 July 2008: I like the Buddhist idea on this. Try to just enjoy each day as it comes and do not plan for the future. If you make plans and have hopes you will only suffer if it does not work out. If you like each other then why not keep in touch as friends, but ... (read in full...)
I really like this guy, but we're both leaving, can our relationship work?
Q. okay so Ive been dating this guy for awhile now. since begining of april. I have never been so into a guy befor. I know we love eachother. Only thing is this fall he is leaving for school, and I am leaving for a 9 month program were i cant come hom...
A. 17 July 2008: I like the Buddhist idea on this. Try to just enjoy each day as it comes and do not plan for the future. If you make plans and have hopes you will only suffer if it does not work out. If you like each other then why not keep in touch as friends, but ... (read in full...)
After a four year long distance relationship..he dumped me the 2nd time we actually met up!
Q. I have been in a relation for four years. It was long distance relationship. He used to call me more than once a day. The second day we met, he said he can't continue on this relationship anymore. and he hated himself. This hurts me a lot. how can ...
A. 31 December 2007: It may not be that he has changed, but realized that maintaining that kind of a relationship is too complicated and traumatic. He hates himself because he has obviously found finishing the relationship extremely difficult, but on balance less ... (read in full...)
My fiance went to the doctors for a check up. According to him this 'hot' female doctor smiled when she touched his penis! The nerve!
Q. Am I being unreasonable? My fiance told me that this summer (before we got together) he went to a female doctor to get things checked out down there and he said that she was hot and she put her hand around his thing and smiled. Just picturing it ...
A. 3 March 2007: Even if the female doctor did touch his penis and smile it doesn't mean she was being inappropriate. She may have just been trying to keep him at ease and being a man he looked for more into it?... (read in full...)
He's 27, I'm 18! What do you think?
Q. I've fallen for someone older then me. I'm not yet sure if he feels the same but I will know soon...he's 27 and i'm 18..do you think this is too much of an age gap?...
A. 3 March 2007: I think chronological age is irrelevant. Yes, I think life experience counts but it is how a person learns and responds to those experiences that matter. I remember thinking at about age 16, as a cadet nurse, that wisdom does not come with age but ... (read in full...)
I feel like her spare tire and like I'm losing everything. Please help.
Q. Hi again to all and thanx 4 the answers.Please read the rest of my story and give me some answer.I am really getting crazy about this thing.For those who 'missed'my previous posts it is about a woman I am in love now that was supposed to have a ...
A. 3 March 2007: From what you describe, her marriage is on the rocks and she needs someone to boost her low self-esteem. I am sorry you are caught up in this but you are only destined for heart ache with this relationship. Hard as it sounds, try to break free from ... (read in full...)
Sex for the first time and we used a condom..can I still get pregnant?
Q. Me and my boyfriend had sex for the first time.. It was the first time for both of us. We used protection and the condom didn't break or anything like that. I'm scared I can get pregnant from this time. ...
A. 3 March 2007: No, as that is why you used a condom. You could only get pregnant if any of his sperm entered your vagina.... (read in full...)
I feel she's too young to have as a gf - how do I handle this?
Q. 16 year old in love with me? I'm 26! Hi, I need help on one particular and delicate issue. I'm 26 years old. A girl of 16 seems to have fallen in love with me - These feelings are cannot be reciprocated since I am 26. An age gap...
A. 22 January 2007: My mother was 16 when she started going out with my dad who was 26. They were married for 64 years until he died aged 92!... (read in full...)
I feel she's too young to have as a gf - how do I handle this?
Q. 16 year old in love with me? I'm 26! Hi, I need help on one particular and delicate issue. I'm 26 years old. A girl of 16 seems to have fallen in love with me - These feelings are cannot be reciprocated since I am 26. An age gap...
A. 22 January 2007: If you genuinely are not attracted to her as a long term mate then just be firm and sensitive. Gently disregard her advances with a smile and keep a sensible distance. If it is just the age putting you off, keep friends with her for a year and see ... (read in full...)
How do I meet a loving man after years of no dating? Any advice or tips?
Q. Ok, approaching another birthday. Single female. Single parent for 10yrs after last partner went to work after 11yrs and 2 kids and didnt come back (another woman involved).Im over that long ago, but put kids first and work too. In the last 2yrs ...
A. 21 January 2007: I think people come along when you are least expecting them. If you look specificaly for a partner, you may look depserate or be too critical, seeing everyone as a potential mate. Perhaps you could join a class at college, go to a culture group such ... (read in full...)
I'm 21 and married! But My mind tells me I'me too young and missing out! What should I do?
Q. Hi. I am 21, and have been married nearly a year now to the first love of my life, whom I met when I was 15! I have always had eyes for her and only her - until three months ago my mind told me that I was too young and missing out! I have me...
A. 21 January 2007: This sounds so familiar and it destroyed my first marriage because my husband made me feel so insecure he had married too young. We are still in touch 30 years later and regret our divorce and he has married 3 more times since!
Now he has had plen... (read in full...)
During sex..wife get headaches and feels like she's having a heart attack! What can we do?
Q. my wife feels like she is having a heart attack and gets a severe headache every time she gets really aroused during sex. what can we do? ...
A. 21 January 2007: I agree with Dr Pete. It would be interesting to know what her blood pressure is, as when she gets aroused it could be going up too high. If she is too embarrassed to say when it happens she could at least go and have her blood pressure and ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and having Quads ..please help !
Q. i was with my boyfriend daniel for 1 year. and last year when i was 13 we decided to have sex. we used the pull-out method but it obviously didn't work. i kept on being sick so dad took me to the doctors. that was when they told me that i was ...
A. 21 January 2007: You need to ask your GP or midwife for social services to assess you urgently, maybe to go to a safe house such as a hostel. It isn't ideal, but that way you would be safe from physical abuse whilst you get your thoughts together and have access to ... (read in full...)
Ready for divorce?
Q. How do you know when your ready for DIVORCE? Both financially and emotionally?...
A. 21 January 2007: It is too much of a bland question as although I appreciate there has to be some financial ability to make the break, I would say there is that time when you know for certain that you cannot stay with that person to whom you are married for ever. As ... (read in full...)
After no contact from him for awhile, he texts me! Should I not bother replying, or give this a day or two? What on earth do I do?
Q. Your thoughts please... (this is a follow up question to a previous dilemma)! We went on 2 dates in the space of 1 week - both driven by him. Of course, he seems keen to get me into bed, but I'm not ready until I get to know him / know what he's a...
A. 13 January 2007: I like the 'go with the flow' idea. What have you got to lose? But I agree not to sound too keen by acting as if you were just waiting for his call. Just bear in mind that you may become even more attached to him and he may be someone who has a girl ... (read in full...)
I know it makes you blind, but is this another side effect?
Q. Is it true that when you masturbate it kills thousnads of brain cells?...
A. 12 January 2007: Ponoangalub,
Sorry, cannot find the source of the circumcision thing. It was a different article and the reason it gave was that that some men who are circumcised needed a lubricant in the absence of a foreskin. Anyway, it isn't supported anywhere... (read in full...)
I think his idea of 'love' means just convenient sex. What should I do?
Q. For over 2 years I have been involved with a divorced man my age. We had met a year before that but I was still in a very troubled marriage (5 years, no children)so all we did was talk, like pals, and then I didn't see him again. I had no other ...
A. 12 January 2007: He said "You are my real wife". To me that implies he has an 'unreal' wife. I suspect his divorce was a lie or he has found someone else who he maybe spending his free time with and he didn't know how to let you down. Hard as it sounds, you are ... (read in full...)
He ex told her 'it's me or him'..now she wants space to decide! What should I do?
Q. hi, im just after a bit of advice. i am 23 and ive been going out with a 20 yr girl for about 3 months and we have been spending most of our time together since meeting, but she is originally from stockport so has gone home to stockport, about 10...
A. 7 January 2007: It is a difficult situation for you but you have to realise this girl has been thrown into a dilemma where she has been forced to choose bwteen you and her ex. Rationally, she would be better out of his way but then he may not have realised his ... (read in full...)
Can a woman fancy you without you knowing?
Q. Can a woman fancy you without you knowing or not telling you? thanks for your help folks!...
A. 7 January 2007: Yes because I am doing it!... (read in full...)
My mum told me that if I didn't settle down with someone now-I never will. Im only 23! Any thoughts?
Q. My mum told me this morning that if I didn't settle down with someone now then I never will. Im 23, single and at the moment Im happy just focusing on my job. I have lots of friends who I go out with every week and have a really good time but I ...
A. 7 January 2007: It sounds like a bit of a generation gap view on expectations of life. I think you 'settle down' if you have a desire to be a mother and wife, but not everyone sees that as their lot in life these days. Anyway, who says you have to settle down even ... (read in full...)
I know it makes you blind, but is this another side effect?
Q. Is it true that when you masturbate it kills thousnads of brain cells?...
A. 6 January 2007: Also, Dr Pete, masturbation is healthy for men and should be done at least twice a week. A study done in Australia and men who ejaculated on average twice a week have less prostate problems when they get older!
Interestly, circumcised men may find... (read in full...)
I'm a 47 year old male and cannot under any circumstances gain an erection. What can I do?
Q. iam a 47 year old male and cannot under any circumstances gain an erection.i have tries pills and pumps but to no avail..........what can i do??...
A. 6 January 2007: There are lots of reasons why you cannot get an erection, psychological, physical or a bit of both. From a physical point of view, the first thing is to check your cholesterol (heart disease risk), prostate, male hormones, glucose (for diabetes), ... (read in full...)
Does no contact really work when trying to get someone back? I'd like to hear some experiences please!
Q. my partner dumped me,and i want her back so im doing the no contact for 2 reasons,1 in the hope that with time to think she may feel differently,and 2 if that fails it will mean im on the way to recovery,my question is has anybody done the no ...
A. 6 January 2007: I think there is no straight answer and it depends on what went wrong in the relationship, the personalities involved, the aspirations and hopes for the future of the individuals. There is the old saying 'absence makes the heart grow fonder' and you ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my best friend's brother and might be pregnant! I have no idea what to do!
Q. Im a 16 yrs old and Im in love with my best friends brother who is 25. Im so scared because I lost my virginity to him. I am freaking out. I think Im pregnant. I cant talk to my mom or dad because it will hurt them that I had sex with a 25 year old. ...
A. 6 January 2007: I can see how the possible preganancy may be scary and and your parents will probably be the ones to help you if it turns out to be true. The relationship is questionable in respect that the potential father may not have been at least a loving ... (read in full...)
Whats the difference between infatuation and love?
Q. Whats the difference between infatuation and love?...
A. 1 January 2007: I think that infatuation is a short-term obsession probably based on lust, desire, but without knowing that person to any great depth. There is an attachment that feels like 'love' but infatuation can be overwhelming and destructive as it may be to ... (read in full...)
I got sick and now that I'm better-my husband says he can't stand the sight of me! What can I do?
Q. i got sick for about 2 years better now have been married 51 years my husband says he cant stand to look at me we were always real close. i dont wont to lose him. thanks lonley...
A. 1 January 2007: He sounds a jerk, but you would need to give more information as to his reasons. Whatever his reasons though, if he really has truned against you like that, you are better off without him.... (read in full...)
New bf doesn't respect my boundries..should I cut him loose?
Q. Am I over reacting or is this a warning sign? My new boyfriend spanked my bum last night. At first it was just along to the rhythm of the music in the pub and it made me a little uncomfortable but I didn’t want to say anything while we were in...
A. 31 December 2006: I think your new boyfriend is being disrepectful to your requests and it is a bad sign that he is not taking you seriously. It is reasonable to get to know someone well before such advances are acceptable. It is a form of sexual harrassment and no ... (read in full...)
I'm 48 and I have trouble achieving orgasm! Any suggestions or advice?.
Q. I am a 48 year old male in good health. For the last several years I have had trouble achieving orgasm. It just gets harder and harder to climax and sometimes I just give up. The only way I can orgasm is by tensing up my body and stiffening my ...
A. 31 December 2006: Perhaps you are trying too hard. It may help if you abstain for a week then your body may respond more urgently. If you are using porn to orgasm this is also showing to have the effect you are talking about. You can end up in a vicious circle where ... (read in full...)
My periods have stopped!
Q. I had taken birthcontrol for two in a half years and i stopped taking it about six months ago and still haven't had a period. now i'm scared i can't have kids what is wrong with me?...
A. 31 December 2006: It can take up to a year for normality to return though it is unusual to be so long. My daughter took 7 months but remember you can still get pregnant as you could have just ovulated and not be aware of it.... (read in full...)
Did he leave me because he thought life would be better without him?
Q. Is there anything I can do? My boyfriend of 6 years broke up with me 8 months ago and as you can probably guess I've had a tough, very depressed time trying to get on with my life. I thought he was the man I would spend the rest of my life with but ...
A. 31 December 2006: From what you describe I would tell him. You have been close enough to him for all those years and perhaps he needed to see if you gave up easily. If you are right and he is depressed and feeling unworthy then you would have done the right thing. If ... (read in full...)
I am gutted by my parent's divorce...Are any other adult 'survivors' of parental divorce..if so, how did it affect you?
Q. I am asking this question as I am now at the end of my tether (and it has been a long one). My Mum and my Step-dad (who I adore) are splitting up after 22 years together! I am gutted. Mum left him for another man because basically all the love ...
A. 30 December 2006: I am breaking up my marriage after 27 years and I am amazed at how OK my three adult children seem to be about it. My youngest is 21 and cannot wait to move to our new, but downmarket house. I find myself feeling sorry for my ex to be and concerned ... (read in full...)
My wife is having an emotional affair. How do I save my marriage?
Q. my wife is having an emotional affair (non physical)with a man who also happens to be an obese 30 stones in weight! He also owns the shop from which she operates her flower business. This affair has developed over the last 3 years! as I understand. ...
A. 30 December 2006: I am sorry about your situation but three things stand out to me from what you describe.
First, you have to share people and cannot possess a wife so completely to exclude them from emotional connection with other people, although I concede what... (read in full...)
I am 13 and got drunk at a party..did this older boy take advantage of me? Any advice?
Q. By the way, I'm a girl, and I'm 13. Yesterday I went to a friend's brother's birthday party, and had a little too much to drink. I can remember that a guy who was 15/16 kissed me, before pulling away and saying that he thought the host would kill ...
A. 30 December 2006: If you are sure he didn't go near you 'down below' and he only touched your back and under your bra then no, you cannot be pregnant. However if there is ANY uncertainty, get a pregnancy test. Also consider getting some contraception by attending ... (read in full...)
Is it strange that my soon to be ex-husband and his mother are at my familie's Christmas dinner, without me? Am I right to feel this way?
Q. I have a question. My husband and I are seperated because he can't stop cheating on me. For Christmas we were together till lunchtime to share it together with the kids. My brother is having a huge Christmas dinner for our family this year and my ...
A. 25 December 2006: I agree with you that it seems dysfunctional and strange. I am in a similar position though not as direct as yours and I think 'in laws'have a difficult problem letting go of a person they like and do not want to cast off just because you are ... (read in full...)
Does masturbating make you sterile when you're older?
Q. If you masturbate a lot when your a teenager, does it make you sterile whe your older(i.e. you can't have kids)?...
A. 24 December 2006: It is fine. Masturbation is normal, but try to not get involved in pornography to help you as that can taint a future relationship. If you need to masturbate too often, maybe you should just try to get involved in something else as a distraction. ... (read in full...)
I feel so alone at Christmas
Q. I’m so lonely this Christmas. I’m a 44-year-old guy living in The High Peak, Derbyshire, UK. I’m a nurse at the hospital in the next major town. I split from my fiancée 3 years ago and I’ve been on my own since. I’ve made sure that I’ll be at ...
A. 24 December 2006: It is a sob story, but that doesn't mean it is justified. You are just being honest about how you feel and that is where sites like these really help you vent your feelings. Yes, there are always people much worse off than ourselves but that doesn't ... (read in full...)
I'm 16 and I have clinical depression. What effects could anti-depressants have?
Q. I'm 16 years old and I have clinical depression. I'm not on anti-depressants yet but there's a strong chance I will be next month, right now I'm on beta-blockers to deal with anxiety and stress. I just want to know, what effects could ...
A. 23 December 2006: I am really sorry you feel so bad, but anti-depressents do not resolve life's problems. On the other hand, the ones currently in use are not like the old ones of a few years ago and they can help when we are struggling to cope. The old ones used to ... (read in full...)
Can you guys tell me how this 'friends with the ex thing' works because it has me baffled!
Q. Can you guys tell me how this friends with ex things works because it has me baffled!!! How can you truly be friends with an ex when one part of the couple has rejected the other or both parts have? What are the reasons that an ex would want to be ...
A. 23 December 2006: It is too soon to know about being 'friends with your ex'. Things are way too confusing right now for both of you. In my experience, which is probably not everyone's view, is that you have to sort out the baggage first. You said you both had issues ... (read in full...)
Did he or did he not get me an christmas present. How can I shake the expectation that he should get me an xmas present?
Q. Hi, I feel like a really bad person but here goes. I've been sort of seeing this guy for about 6 months. It's nothing official, just a casual thing. For my birthday back in August he got me a very nice present and it was a complete surpris...
A. 21 December 2006: Martini, I identify a lot with what you say and female reader age 30-35 I don't think you are being selfish. You are mixing up the idea of a gift being materialistic whereas in reality, as Martini states, you are hoping for a sign of being thought ... (read in full...)
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