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writes: Hi again to all and thanx 4 the answers.Please read the rest of my story and give me some answer.I am really getting crazy about this thing.For those who 'missed'my previous posts it is about a woman I am in love now that was supposed to have a divorce when we met but then suddenly the hsuband was back home.I met her and still see her at the office of one of my customers ( I work in IT)We have mutually agreed to minimise our 'chatand touch' in the place she works to avoid problems arising with the management and stuff.Nevertheless she is telling me that she wants me when nobody else is close to hear it.The other day I was walking down the street and she was driving home with her two daughters.She pulled over immediately and after I had some fun with the daughters -who both like me-she told me that the husband will be away for a week and so she will call me to have some dinner at home and then when the girls go to bed 'maybe we go out or smth'.But the husband was back in 2 days ( she says) so this did not happen. Last Saturday came to my place 8:30 in the night ,she was vey upset she said ''I was driving around and I thought I should go to the only person in this world who understands me''.Unfortunatelly I had some other arrangments so we left after 30 mins, with just a goodnight kiss.She was there again Sunday morning but this time her daughters woke up and called her so she left again.She insists that she will not give me her celphone number as long as the husband is home because she is afraid that I may call and he finds out about it.Now she promised me that she will suprise me again this weekend when she will manage to escape from home and come to my place.I am afraid she is just playing with me or just keeps me interested just in case she will need somebody sometime.I her spare tyre maybe.I am loosing it, I am lossing her, I am loosing everything... I am taking antidepressants now.Please Please Help
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reader, sadman +, writes (5 March 2007):
sadman is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanx for the answers,I rahter agree with you that she is not the one I should go for.I had to go at the place she works today and she walked with me to the parking lot,as I was leaving, telling me that she has so many problems with the husband and all the relatives (both sides)at the moment that having a relationship on top of all these should only add to the problems allthough she admitts she has feelings for me and thinks of me as the only person who understands her and she would very much like to be with me.She does not want to throw the husband out in any case, she'd rather ignore his presence until he paks his stuff(something that she is shure he will do very soon)Do you read between the lines? Please tell me what you understand of all this.I would very much appreciate it.Please..
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reader, chachacha  +, writes (3 March 2007):
This woman is damaging to you and she does not care about you.
If I were you, I would stop seeing her immediately, and avoid all situations where you might see her. Do not answer any of her telephone calls and just hang up if you inadvetently do. Do not answer the front door to her.
It will hurt, no doubt, but only for a while and you'll survive, and you'll be able to move on to someone more suitable.
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reader, Juliette +, writes (3 March 2007):
 From what you describe, her marriage is on the rocks and she needs someone to boost her low self-esteem. I am sorry you are caught up in this but you are only destined for heart ache with this relationship. Hard as it sounds, try to break free from it, keep your distance from her and try to keep cool. You are perhaps lonely yourself and do not want to miss an opportunity of love and a good relationship, but it does not sound as if this woman is the one to give that to you. She wants you to play with at her convenience and for your own dignity you will have to take a step back and try to divert your energies to something that will distract you away from thinking about her.
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