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writes: i got sick for about 2 years better now have been married 51 years my husband says he cant stand to look at me we were always real close. i dont wont to lose him. thanks lonley Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2007): I don't know your situation, however, if you had a life threatening illness, there are some psychological fall outs for the spouse which often include anger at the ill spouse for possibly leaving them.....it could be that your husband is just angry and a deep sense of sadness is always at the oore of anger and in some ways being angry is a coping mechanism to avoid depression...which is not a healthy state of being...
My suggestion is that you talk to your husband and tell him you understand how he might be upset and angry over the threat of almost losng you to illness and urge him to seek some counseling with you...if he refuses to go, please get some yourself from a psychotherapist, it can help you cope and if you can't change him, you can change yourself which will force him to react differently to the changed you.
Good luck and God Bless!
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reader, Juliette  +, writes (1 January 2007):
 He sounds a jerk, but you would need to give more information as to his reasons. Whatever his reasons though, if he really has truned against you like that, you are better off without him.
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