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My name is Indie and I'm 16 years old. I guess I don't have any qualifications to help people but I hope to be a psychologist when I finish school and go to Uni. I like listening and giving advice to my friends, so this site is really great for me.
I've had depression in the past and I guess I know what it's like to be lonely, so if I can help someone feel better then I know all my pain has been worth it.
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She is so perfect I wimp out and can't talk to her!
Q. I have been falling for this girl for a little while now, she is everything a guy could ever want. pretty like drop dead gorgeous funny smartest person I know even if her grades don't reflect it and she has an amazing voice for singing. toda...
A. 24 October 2010: Your story made me smile, it's just the sweetest thing. You obviously really like this girl and don't feel like a wimp for being afraid to talk to her.
Every time you get nervous about talking to her, just remind yourself that she is a person t... (read in full...)
I guess this is how heartbreak feels
Q. eh I guess I should start with the story first before going straight for the question, seeing it will be confusing if I don't. I have this crush. I have a crush on my teach for two years, he's 26 and I just turned 18, last month. He's always so k...
A. 24 October 2010: Honey, I'm really sorry I can't offer a quick fix for heart break. If I could I'd probably be a millionaire by now.
What I can say is that it will get better. Everything will get better, you just have to give it time.
I know you probably don... (read in full...)
I'm so unhappy about the way I look and how my life is going...
Q. hello, don't know where to start, before writing my problem, I would like to describe about myself, i am a b.tech graduate , after marriage never worked. I gained weight after giving birth (85kgs) never imagined myself in this shape, i look ugl...
A. 24 October 2010: If you are feeling bad about your weight the best thing for you to do would start eating healthier and exercising. I know the thought of losing weight will seem daunting but just eating healthier food will make you feel so much better.
It so... (read in full...)
I'm really missing my ex-girlfriend after breaking up with her and realise how good we were for each other.
Q. I'm really missing my ex-girlfriend after breaking up with her and realise how good we were for each other. Here's my story. I met my girlfriend at 18, she was quite out of my league but we were at university together and just had an amazing chem...
A. 24 October 2010: It sounds like you guys had a really great relationship but I guess I'm a little worried about why you found it so easy to find a reason to break up with her.
As long as you're sure you want to get back together with her you should tell her exac... (read in full...)
HELP! My girlfriend says it hurts to have sex
Q. Hi, Me and my gal have been together just short of a year and have been fairly sexual for the majority of that time as well. We are both around twenty and she was my first, well, everything. girlfriend, kiss, sex, ect ect. Well we have a problem....
A. 20 October 2010: Well, I think you're right about her building up the sex in her head. She's probably making herself so anxious she's not able to loosen up and enjoy sex. It definitely has something to do with her ex using her like that and I think you're a really ... (read in full...)
So lonely with no friends
Q. I'm finding life a little lonely and sad at the moment without any friends. I'm 21 and live with my partner of 2 years. I can imagine you are probably thinking now "Of course you have friends, EVERYONE has at least one good friend". But I really a...
A. 20 October 2010: Firstly, about the issue with children, my uncle is in a relationship with a younger woman and they have two children. He is older than forty and I think he is a great dad, so I personally don't think you have anything to worry about.
I also kno... (read in full...)
I think I've falling in love.. but he lives so far away.
Q. So I've known this boy a year... and after a few months of talking we discovered we liked each other more than friends, but due to distance we both agreed to just stay friends (he lives in Scotland i live in Ireland) i know pretty much everything ...
A. 20 October 2010: I'm really sorry you're so uncertain about all of this, it's really not an easy situation. I read in your reply that you're going to see him soon and I think this is a good idea. Try to take your mind off him until then and when you do get to me... (read in full...)
Girlfriend left me saying I was controlling
Q. my girlfriend and i have been dating for a year now she moved in with me and things were good for awhile then a girlfriend of hers needed a place to stay i let her stay here a few weeks until she started stealing from me any way i kicked her out ...
A. 19 October 2010: In a lot of relationships, girls will nearly always choose their friends over their boyfriend.
Honestly, I think she completely over reacted and she should have let you explain why you kicked her friend out. Unfortunately that didn't happen, ... (read in full...)
Do I need to clarify or just let it be?
Q. Today i was talking to a girl that i like via email. We were exchanging notes for close to four hours. We got into a conversation about a friend of hers who loves to talk about her ex husband on facebook. we both think its funny. but then she said ...
A. 19 October 2010: I don't think what she said was 'bringing up' her exes, it sounded like she was just making a joke.
You really shouldn't have flown off the handle like that, she probably thought you two were just having a nice conversation and then you got all ... (read in full...)
How to overcome social anxiety?
Q. How does one overcome anxiety from socializing with others?...
A. 19 October 2010: I used to have, and occasionally still do, the same problem. I think you need to go and see your doctor and tell him how you're feeling and he'll either refer you to a psychologist or prescribe you medication. He might even do both, whatever it ... (read in full...)
Crushing on my cousin
Q. I have a crush on my cousin and i'm not sure what to do. I'm feeling pretty depressed at the moment, as there was a family party last weekend, and unfortunately, i couldn't go to it because i went to London the week before last, and i'm going away ...
A. 19 October 2010: This crush is seriously not appropriate and I don't think your cousin likes you romantically. I have several older male cousins and they treat me exactly like this and there is absolutely nothing romantic going on between us.
I think the reason y... (read in full...)
Engaged guy wanting me to do hot yoga????
Q. My co worker who is engaged asked me to do hot yoga with him and told me we would be sweaty and probably be stepping to our underwear or sports bra. He also said I make him blush. I turned him down with the yoga. He pays special attention to me too. ...
A. 19 October 2010: This is sexual harassment. The things this guy are saying to you are making you uncomfortable and confused and this means they are not appropriate.
You don't have to put up with this, talk to one of your superiors about his behavior and hopefull... (read in full...)
I think I've falling in love.. but he lives so far away.
Q. So I've known this boy a year... and after a few months of talking we discovered we liked each other more than friends, but due to distance we both agreed to just stay friends (he lives in Scotland i live in Ireland) i know pretty much everything ...
A. 19 October 2010: It sounds like you really like this boy and I think you need to give a long distance relationship a chance if you are feeling this strongly towards him.
Love is different for everyone but I think you may be falling for this guy. Long distance... (read in full...)
My boyfriend danced with and texts another girl!
Q. Having problems with boyfriend and another girl he just met? Me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 years. Were both college students, only 45 minutes away. But the other night, my family was up for family weekend so i couldn't see my ...
A. 19 October 2010: I really don't think dancing with another girl is cheating but if that's what you see as crossing a line then you need to explain that to your boyfriend.
I really think you can trust this guy, he turned this girl down when she asked him to kiss ... (read in full...)
I don't understand why she wont even talk to me!
Q. So this girl Taylor seemed into me. I had a girlfriend but we weren't doing good and it ended. So i was going to ask Taylor out but then she said it would be best if we stopped talking. i'm confsued. she wouldnt even tell me why. she just bye. she ...
A. 19 October 2010: I think maybe she's confused. I don't think talking to her will help at this point, just give her some space and be prepared to move on if she doesn't call you again.
Indie... (read in full...)
How To Flirt With A Shy Boy?
Q. So this question may seem very primal and maybe obvious to some, but I'm a girl who normally rushes in and pushes a little to much when it comes to her affection with men. I met someone how I really enjoy getting to know and am trying really hard ...
A. 18 October 2010: Don't freak him out by coming on too strong, but don't stop being yourself just to get him to like you.
I suggest just casually talking to him. Ask him questions about himself, try to get a conversation going and find some common interest... (read in full...)
I don't understand why she wont even talk to me!
Q. So this girl Taylor seemed into me. I had a girlfriend but we weren't doing good and it ended. So i was going to ask Taylor out but then she said it would be best if we stopped talking. i'm confsued. she wouldnt even tell me why. she just bye. she ...
A. 18 October 2010: Maybe this Taylor girl didn't know you broke up with your girlfriend or she may have a boyfriend you don't know about.
You need to call her or talk to her in person and tell her that you have broken up with your girlfriend. Tell her how you feel... (read in full...)
I like three guys but I don't know which one to pick!
Q. So I like these 3 guys and i think they all like me. But 1 part of me tells me that the guy I like the most wont be right like no chemistry.another guy I dont want to like but kinda do and that part of me tells me it is just making out thats all. ...
A. 18 October 2010: This is a tricky situation you're in. I suggest you make a list for all the guys and write down the things you like about each of them and the things you don't like.
If one of these guys has a lot of things you like about him and not many things y... (read in full...)
I cheated on my LDR
Q. hello there. i'm here because i cheated. it's killing because he's a great person with a great heart and amazing intentions. about a day ago, i cheated on him. i've one of those people who have always said "i'll never do that!" but i did, and now ...
A. 18 October 2010: I think you need to have a drink of water and then take a few deep breaths. Obviously you are the one in the wrong here, but the fact that you have acknowledged that and feel guilty about cheating means that you're not a bad person. Everyone makes... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to other guys but I don't want a relationship with one
Q. So, I'm now 16, and I realize I am attracted to other guys. But, I don't want to have a relationship with one. As for girls, I now am starting to get less turned on by them, and yet, I still do like girls too want a relationship with girls. Am I ...
A. 15 October 2010: My guess is you're just curious. You're probably just getting to know what attracts you to people and because you're going through puberty all those hormones can make you feel as if you're attracted to anyone.
Just give yourself some time to ... (read in full...)
He was seeing somebody else all during my pregnancy!
Q. My boyfriend I have been together for almost 2 years. 4 months ago I gave birth to his son and not long after that I found out he had been seeing someone for a year. But he said nothing was going on and she said the same, though people have sai...
A. 15 October 2010: Obviously this relationship isn't working if you can't trust him and he's not making you feel good.
I know people think having a mum and dad together equals a happy family but if your parents are unhappy it's hard for a child to see how a good r... (read in full...)
We had sex, he came in me, and I tried to wash it out. Will that work?
Q. hey i need help well my boyfriend cum in me and i dnt know what to do, im really scard . it happen today and i when in bath and whased it out, well i tryed, so wat i do. xx...
A. 13 October 2010: Okay, what you need to do is go to the chemist and get something called a morning after pill. Even if you did wash the sperm out, there is a chance not all of it is gone. The morning after pill will stop any one it reaching your ovaries and making ... (read in full...)
My best friend's brother seem interested
Q. I have been best friends with this girl since kindergarten, and we are now in 11th grade and I have been getting different vibes from her 9th grade brother, I think he might like me. He has not told me or anything but I just have this feeling ...
A. 30 September 2010: Definitely don't keep it a secret because your friend will find out eventually and it will hurt her more if you kept it hidden from her.
You don't need to tell her anything until something happens for certain. There's no need to cause unnecess... (read in full...)
I told him I love him, but he's making plans he won't commit to, with me.
Q. I'm 19 years old and gay. A little over a year ago I fell in love with one of my best friends. I told him how I felt about him in November and I know he avoided me for a long time. Whenever I would ask if we could get together he would tell me that ...
A. 30 September 2010: I definitely think he's avoiding you and whether that has to do with how you feel about him or how he feels about you is null and void. Obviously he doesn't want to talk.
This is a really crappy thing that he's doing to you, you deserve a straight... (read in full...)
Ow do I cope with the fact that he's back with his wife and I'm having his child.
Q. I'm 23 yrs old and I condon in seein a married man. He is 2x my age, been married for 17yrs and has 3 children. I met him by walkin home one day and we exchange #'s. Our intentions were never to seriously to get involve but somehow we did. We moved ...
A. 29 September 2010: I think this man is pretty much bad news, which you obviously already know. You don't need him back in your life, especially not in the romantic sense.
There are a lot of options out there and being a single parent isn't the end of the world fo... (read in full...)
Has she lost it? I'm so confused!
Q. Hey, well here's the deal, I'm 15 and I going out with a girl who's almost 15 (14 tuning 15 next month). She's pretty awesome, I used to like her before we dated. She used to avoid me, but then she said she liked me because how she states "I'm ...
A. 29 September 2010: The definition of losing your virginity is penetration of the vagina with the penis, so no, she hasn't lost her virginity.
I think the reason she is avoiding you is because she is embarrassed or feels awkward about what happened. She's also pro... (read in full...)
I didn't bleed, and it didn't hurt my first time.
Q. Well im 16 years old nd had sex for the very first time, all my friends were already sexually active and they said there first time was very painfull nd horrible but my first time wasent painfull at all nd i taught u were suppost to bleed but i ...
A. 28 September 2010: First times are different for everyone. Some people experience a lot of pain, some don't experience any at all. The bleeding usually comes from the hymen being broken (the hymen is a thin piece of skin covering the entrance to the vagina) but if s... (read in full...)
Am I just worrying too much about the relationship?
Q. 2 months ago, I met someone at a friends party and we started talking alot the day after and he asked for my number. We started talking literally all day, everyday. He made a lot of effort to make conversation with me as well. Throughout the...
A. 28 September 2010: First of all, don't send him a long text about all your insecurities and whatever. You like him, you don't want to scare him away from pursuing a relationship.
When you are first getting to know a person, it's really exciting to chat and find out... (read in full...)
My asian girlfriend hides me from her family
Q. I have a problem with my girlfriend and its really making me frustrated and confused. We have been together for four months now, i'm white and shes asian. I have brought her around my entire family and introduced her to all of my closest friends. ...
A. 28 September 2010: Please talk to her about this. Don't fume silently and start resenting her, tell her how you feel and what you want. Then work something out from there.
I'm sure she's just scared that she'll have to choose either you or her family. She probably... (read in full...)
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