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writes:I'm really missing my ex-girlfriend after breaking up with her and realise how good we were for each other.Here's my story.I met my girlfriend at 18, she was quite out of my league but we were at university together and just had an amazing chemistry. After chasing her a while we got together and were together 3 years. We helped each other through some really tough times and enjoyed some really great times too. We became inseparable and would see each other most days and were one of the closest relationships I knew of.After almost 3 years I decided to end it for three reasons. I was moving away the year after (only 2 hours away) for one year for graduate school, I freaked out because we'd been together so young and I wanted to know what the other side was like and because our sex life was not quite what it used to be, in my opinion, not her's.A month after the break it was not working, we were still really close and she was having a rough time at journalism school. I then went away travelling. For another few weeks we continued to be really close. Then two things happened, I slept with someone new and was honest about it and she finished journalism school and got a new intensive job. She then slept with someone new too. All of a sudden things changed. She insisted that we remain friends but said that she would not rule out us getting back together one day, but not while I was away. I soon began to realise what I had lost and one day when I saw her got quite teary. Since then I have tried to remain calm and we have remained in fairly regular contact. I think in our hearts we both like each other.I don't really know where to go from here. I still like her and I know being friends will be tough. I think she would be a fantastic girl to be with. Is there any realistic chance of us getting back together one day? How should I act to keep the door open? Is it healthy to try and be friends?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2010): i think you can try to get her back...tell her to give a once and last chance for your love....if she has no feelings for you that means you have to wait till death
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reader, Indie23  +, writes (24 October 2010):
 It sounds like you guys had a really great relationship but I guess I'm a little worried about why you found it so easy to find a reason to break up with her.
As long as you're sure you want to get back together with her you should tell her exactly how you feel. Explain your reasoning behind breaking up with her and tell her why you want to get back together. Tell her that if she wants to be friends until you move closer than you'll wait.
I think you guys could make this work but only if you're honest with each other. I don't think pretending you only want to be her friend is going to help when you feel more for her. Just be honest and see if you guys can work your relationship out.
Indie.
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