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writes:2 months ago, I met someone at a friends party and we started talking alot the day after and he asked for my number. We started talking literally all day, everyday. He made a lot of effort to make conversation with me as well.Throughout the 2 months, we have seen eachother with friends and alone and we have slept together. I feel that there is a connection and that he may like me.However, for the last month or so, the talking has been less and because of my insecurities I fear for the worst and worry that he has lost interest and . But at the same time, I don't want to appear overwhelming. I have left home for university, however I am only 30 minutes away (and I told him this when we started talking) Last week before I left, I met up with a few close friends and mentioned this to him if he wanted to join. He said that despite that there was family events, he would make an appearance and he did.We left at the same time and we kissed goodbye. I later texted him saying how I hope to see him again soon. He replied saying "Yeah absolutely, sounds great!"After reading this, I feel positive and certain that he does like me, but again, I am so insecure about myself I have been getting myself into a state. We haven't spoken about whats been going on and I want to say that I like him, at least. I think that it is too soon for a relationship, but considering how we have been with eachother I like to think that there is potential for dating.So could he still be interested and would it be worth mentioning this to him? And is my extreme worrying really not necessary?
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reader, Indie23 +, writes (28 September 2010):
 First of all, don't send him a long text about all your insecurities and whatever. You like him, you don't want to scare him away from pursuing a relationship.
When you are first getting to know a person, it's really exciting to chat and find out more and more about who they are. But after a little while you become a bit more comfortable with them and you're not in such a rush to find out everything about them.
It sounds to me like he does like you, so don't give up yet. Just send him a casual text asking to go out for coffee or drinks or whatever. When you meet up, just tell him you like him and you'd like to hang out more and get to know him better. That's my best advice, be honest without spilling your whole life story to him.
Best Wishes, Indie.
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