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*exxiylove
writes:hello there. i'm here because i cheated. it's killing because he's a great person with a great heart and amazing intentions. about a day ago, i cheated on him. i've one of those people who have always said "i'll never do that!" but i did, and now i'm so lost! I told him about the cheating and what not. he said he is very upset with me, but he saw it coming because we're in a long distance relationship. he doesn't know weather he wants to be with me anymore and is thinking about the whole thing. of course i'm upset about it and it's killing me, but i'm more upset i cheated then anything. mostly the fact i cheated on him! he did not deserve this, at all. so now i'm paying for it i guess. but i need a little help on what i should do. i know most people just get over their cheating scams, but i can't. it's way too much for me. i suffer from ocd and it's like it messed up all the relationship's i'll ever have, and i'm sure it will. so what should i do. i've just been in tears, upset because i can't keep myself together. i feel like it's eating at my stomach! i can't eat or i get sick. all i want to do is cry, and sleep. how do i get over this? if i don't get help, i don't know how i'll get by with life knowing that i'm a cheater. i already hate myself for it. Anyone out there, could you please help?
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reader, Lexxiylove +, writes (19 October 2010):
Lexxiylove is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you both so much. I understand i'm young and all, but i'm pretty happy with him. Indie, you've really helped, a lot! we talked about the situation and he said he still wants to be with me. which is what i wanted. I know i'm not as bad as i'm making myself believe i am. But i've always been this way. I'm learning to let go of it, because if he's willing to forgive me, then i should forgive myself. Thank you guys so much!
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (18 October 2010):
 Look even people who always say I'll never cheat end up doing so. Not all, but quite a bit. I did it, but I learned my lesson and never did it again. If your boyfriend said he saw it coming, then it means you're not cut out for a LDR. I suggest you break off this LDR and work on forgiving yourself. It's best for the both of you. All you did was cheat, it's not like you committed a crime. It happens one way or another to everyone. No one is perfect, we're human and we make mistakes. It was an error in judgement..you went with this guy because you were missing the touch and attention that lacks in your LDR. That's why I say you're not cut out for one, plus you're too young to be in one.
So let your boyfriend go, time will heal for the both of you. And forgive yourself, what you did is not that bad at all!
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reader, Indie23  +, writes (18 October 2010):
 I think you need to have a drink of water and then take a few deep breaths. Obviously you are the one in the wrong here, but the fact that you have acknowledged that and feel guilty about cheating means that you're not a bad person.Everyone makes mistakes, especially if they are involved in a long distance relationship. This isn't going to ruin your life, it doesn't make you an evil person and just because you did it once doesn't mean it will happen again.If you want things to work out with this guy I suggest you give him a few days to calm down and then call him. Apologise for what you've done and discuss with him the reasons why you cheated. I hope if this is what you want, you can work it out. If you don't want to be with him anymore than you should tell him right away, no matter how hard it is. There is no point wasting your or his time. I hope everything works out for you and that you realise you are some awful creature, you're just human. We all make mistakes.Indie
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