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I'm a 28-year-old female that resides in Sacramento, CA. I currently work in the legal field as a Paralegal and when I'm not at work I enjoy helping others with their relationships and/or problems. I am currently engaged to a "almost" wonderful man whom I love every now and then. I have two children that are 8-years-old(daughter) and 5-months-old (son). I was one of the lucky ones who didn't suffer a single battle wound or stretch mark from having children. I thank God everyday for that.

Other than enjoying my “almost” wonderful fiancé and beautiful children I also love yoga, pitbulls, The Beatles, food, UFC fights and of course….shopping! I have a weird addiction to kegels but I guess that is a GOOD thing. Some of you may love my advice and some of you may hate it. However if you are the 1% that hates my advice then please don’t bash it or me because everyone is entitled to their own opinion.

I think I have herpies, and don't know the long term effects of it! What will happen to me?

Q.   I'm really worried and concerned. I had unprotected sex over the weekend and now i have a big spot down bellow. It looks a bit like an ulcer. Their are three other tiny spots by it, but, they don't look like ulseres, they just look like tiny ...

A.   27 June 2011: Well? Did you get the results yet?... (read in full...)

Trouble at home and a new girl has come onto the scene....what should I do?

Q.   I have been with my girlfriend for 3 years. We have a 2 year old son together. We have not been getting along well and she has not turned out to be anything i thought she was. I've found that she drinks alot, started smoking, and has been smoking ...

A.   21 June 2011: Annalisa couldn't have said it any better when she said that you need to distance yourself from this other girl. I understand you are having problems at home but what you need to understand is that women often stress once they become mothers and ... (read in full...)

Do I ask? Or pretend I never saw it.

Q.   I recently (not serching for) found a list of my girlfriends of sexual partners and realize im number 48. I myself am not a saint and have had 29 partners and understand the past is the past but it is eating at me we have been together for allmost ...

A.   18 June 2011: Dang! That's a lot of guys! I'm 28-years-old and I have only had 10 guys but those were long relationships. Why on earth would she have a list of guys that she slept with? That's strange to me but either way the past is the past. I'm #39 on my ... (read in full...)

How can my gf get bigger breasts without surgery?

Q.   I just got a girlfriend and i love her. We were talking one day and she told me she wanted bigger boobs. I was shocked to hear this. She wears like a 40C and she is kinda cramped in it. I stayed over her house that weekend and tried to convince her ...

A.   18 June 2011: http://www.natureday.com/ Go to that site and read their testimonials. They are out of this world! I've never taken them because I'm a 30FF but a few of my smaller a/b cup friends used natureday and they are now a full C and a D. It sounds l... (read in full...)

Why doesn't my girlfriend get angry, is she normal?

Q.   I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for the last two years. She is very nice and has sparkling sense humor. In those last two years, I haven't come across a single moment when she was angry at me for anything stupid I do once in a blo...

A.   18 June 2011: I hardly ever get mad or raise my voice. My fiance has upset me to the point where I started shaking and I wanted to bite his head off but I went in the other room and screamed in my pillow and I was fine after that. Some girls (like me)are just ... (read in full...)

I just can't help being jealous and worrying that he was lusting over those girls....

Q.   I'm in a really great relationship with a guy who I'd been friends with for years. We've been together two years, we're both 19 and live together. About a month ago, I asked if I could use his laptop to go on the internet, he said yes. Complete...

A.   14 June 2011: I hate to say this but you are lucky. lol The only reason I say this is cause my fiance is addicted to porn. Porn has actually gotten in the middle of our relationship. See I have no problem with porn because it's absolutely normal for men and ... (read in full...)

Self-conscious about my size and sex!

Q.   I dont really know if this is something thats just me or if people actualy have the same worry. I'm 20 and have a baby of one year, me and the babies dad have broken up, i've met someone else but havent had sex with them. I've only ever been wi...

A.   14 June 2011: Don't let his exes make you feel any less beautiful and most men like girls that are curvy. I'm sure there are skinny girls out there with no butt or boobs and they long for a curvy body. If you are concerned about your weight then you could do some ... (read in full...)

Is this mom interested in me?

Q.   Hey guys. I'm a married dad with two sons. One of the mom's at my son's school has asked me for a play date with our kids. What does this mean? Could she be interested in me? Don't the moms usually ask each other? Should I say yes? Just wondering ...

A.   13 June 2011: lol I highly doubt she is interested in you. I'm a mom with two kids and I arrange play dates with the mothers and fathers all the time. If you feel uncomfortable about this let your wife handle it. I have a questions tho. Since you are concerned ... (read in full...)

I think I have herpies, and don't know the long term effects of it! What will happen to me?

Q.   I'm really worried and concerned. I had unprotected sex over the weekend and now i have a big spot down bellow. It looks a bit like an ulcer. Their are three other tiny spots by it, but, they don't look like ulseres, they just look like tiny ...

A.   10 June 2011: I honestly don't think you have herpes but that's just my opinion. For one, doctors are always assuming the worst, when in doubt it actually isn't the case. The reason I don't think it's herpes is because there is a incubation period from the time ... (read in full...)

As an American woman, is it possible for me to find a Mexican man to marry?

Q.   I`m feeling blue and I don't see how I can ever be happy. I don't want to date or marry someone just to be dating or marrying someone, I want to share my life with someone I really love. Being lonely is horrible but I won't settle for someone I ...

A.   7 June 2011: I seriously understand where you are coming from. I'm hispanic and I'm not attracted to hispanic guys. I love white guys! My fiance is white and he has brown hair and blue eyes and he's not really into white women. Don't get me wrong, there are lots ... (read in full...)

Why does he prefer to masterbate instead of have sex with me?

Q.   Can anyone tell me why a man would rather masturbate than be with a woman? I'm attractive, I'm maybe 10 pounds over weight which I don't think is a big deal...I go up and down 10 to 15 pounds every year, in summer the weight comes off. It's not as ...

A.   7 June 2011: This may sound lame and please don't get upset but has he been talking to anyone else lately? The only reason I'm asking is cause he is frequently jerking off without porn and is doing it in the shower while using his imagination over and over ... (read in full...)

I am 17, in love with a 47 year old married man, my parents don't like him, what should I do here??

Q.   I am in love with a married man. He loves me back but we have never been physical and he has not cheated on his wife except for being in love with me. He has wanted a divorce with his wife for a long time, even before he met me and before we were ...

A.   4 June 2011: I am sorry to say but your parents are right and he is a pedophile. Even though you haven't gotten physical, it's still illegal to carry on a non-sexual relationship with a minor. Trust me this is not the ideal man for you. For one thing, he's way ... (read in full...)

Why do women date the bad boys but marry the nice guys?

Q.   Dear cupid, i was wondering why women date and sleep with bad boys through out there youth but run to marry nice guys in there 30's when there less attractive and are looking for stability and safety for a guy who has worked hard, being dumped for ...

A.   24 May 2011: Women don't necessarily look for nice guys or nerdy guys or push over guys when they are ready to settle down. It's not like we are trying to get something out of our system before we grow up and get married. Honestly, were not even thinking that ... (read in full...)

Found naked pics of a guy on my wife's camera. I'm not sure how to handle this...

Q.   My wife and I are married 4 years this summer. Everything seems to be great, my problem is something from the past. I just bought my wife a new laptop and digital camera last Christmas. Her old camera she had when we met and was about 5 or 6 yea...

A.   24 May 2011: Dear Mandy couldn't have said it any better. ... (read in full...)

Said he wants to marry me, but he also said he had the perfect girl and he lost her. I need some advice about this relationship

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months and we have both fallen for each other "in love". Currently I notice that all of the women in his previous relationships have started to pop up. Giving him phone calls questioning our relation...

A.   20 May 2011: Dump his sorry ass! First off, his exes shouldn't be calling him up and asking about his relationship as it is none of their damn business! Just like the other reader said "you are not his first choice". Imagine having that in the back of your mind ... (read in full...)

Hate myself for feeling jealous at my gf's success

Q.   This is gonna sound like I am a jerk but I am gonna be honest because I need help, if you can help. I am dating this girl, she's real pretty and an aspiring actress. I am a regular guy with an office job. I encourage her but truthfully I am ...

A.   19 May 2011: Yeah I agree with the other readers on here. If this chick truly loves you then she will not leave you. In fact, if she was smart she would definitely stay with you because the type guys in her "field" are not really the..... commitment type I ... (read in full...)

He promised he'd never cheat,

Q.   my boyfriend and i have been together for almost 9mths now, and he has recently cheated on me. the whole time we were together, he always promised that he would never ever cheat on me, and if so then he would break up with me first. since he has ...

A.   19 May 2011: He is soo not worth it. There are other guys out there that will worship the ground you walk on and treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Not all men cheat and there is absolutely no good reason to stay with this guy. Sure he could do ... (read in full...)

Why would photo of a girl in underwear be seen as porn but photo of a girl in swimsuit is ok?

Q.   only real detail you need: I'm 17, shes also 17 and she never sent any pictures like this. so i don't understand something, about having pictures of my girl friend. Ok basically my friend said that if she ever sent me a picture to me through e-mail ...

A.   19 May 2011: hahaha the male anonymous couldn't have said it any better! lol... (read in full...)

Why would photo of a girl in underwear be seen as porn but photo of a girl in swimsuit is ok?

Q.   only real detail you need: I'm 17, shes also 17 and she never sent any pictures like this. so i don't understand something, about having pictures of my girl friend. Ok basically my friend said that if she ever sent me a picture to me through e-mail ...

A.   17 May 2011: Your friend is a complete moron. I work in the legal field (District Attorney Prosecution Unit)and it is not illegal to receive pictures of your girlfriend in her panties and bra if you are both underage. If you were over the age of 18 and she was ... (read in full...)

I'm thinking about a threesome but am worried it will ruin what we have.

Q.   My boyfriend and i have been together for 3 years now and we have a 3 month old baby. We have talked about having a three some with a girl i used to party with and occasionally mess around with. I had problems trusting him in the past but after our ...

A.   17 May 2011: Don't do it! I have many friends who did a threesome and it caused problems in their relationship. Who wants the threesome? If he wants it then he is basically asking for permission to cheat. If you do decide to do the threesome, you will constantly ... (read in full...)

My friend that I like has a mystery girl but I don't think its me!

Q.   im 18/f hes 19/m okay so i really like my bestfriend, alot. and for the last 6 or so months we've been extremely close. he got out of a 5 year relationship 7 months ago, and he wants to enjoy singledom. but at the same time he told me of this ...

A.   16 May 2011: You are very welcome!... (read in full...)

I can't live without him but can't live with him either!

Q.   Me an my bf been having alot of problems. Im super jealous but i have reasons to be. He has been caught talkin an texting other woman in the past but i never saw anything crazy. About two weeks ago i saw a number with no name in a text an asked him ...

A.   14 May 2011: Yes you can live without him. You will find a better man that will want only you and will not desire talking to any other woman. In fact, he will forget every woman he had except you. That's way true love works and that's what you deserve. If you ... (read in full...)

My friend that I like has a mystery girl but I don't think its me!

Q.   im 18/f hes 19/m okay so i really like my bestfriend, alot. and for the last 6 or so months we've been extremely close. he got out of a 5 year relationship 7 months ago, and he wants to enjoy singledom. but at the same time he told me of this ...

A.   14 May 2011: This is was the most interesting post that I've read today. To me it sounds like he is talking about you. The reason why he is so hesitant in telling you is because he wants to enjoy being single before he jumps into another relationship. Plus he ... (read in full...)

I am getting anxious when we go out due to his constant looking at girls in summer clothes

Q.   I have raead a couple of problems from women whose boyfriends seem to look at women way too much when they are out together. I have just this problem. It has got to the point where I don't want to get engaged to my boyfriend because when he is ...

A.   11 May 2011: Well we all know it's not a crime to look at other men or women, however, doing it in a disrespectful manner is a whole other ball game. Yes my boyfriend GLANCES at attractive women but he would never break his neck to look at another woman while ... (read in full...)

My partner cheated on me but I do see he had his reasons, can the trust be re-built?

Q.   Ive been in a relationship with a man for 11 years now, for the past 5 years i got diagnosed with multiple sclerosis, i have been very ill and over medicated on many meds, and when my partner is home on leave from working at sea, all i do is sleep ...

A.   10 May 2011: "In sickness and in health, till death do you part." Sound Familiar? There is absolutely no reason or excuse to cheat on your spouse. I can't stand those types of women who are willing to carry on a relationship with a married man and I'm pretty ... (read in full...)

I'm a newly wed and need advice about sex.

Q.   My husband and i have been married for about two and a half months now, our wedding night was my first time being with anyone. for the first like two months our sex routine was the same. sex every night missionary, sometimes in the morning but it ...

A.   7 May 2011: It sounds like you are a squirter. Men love that. It's when a woman squirts fluid out of her vagina whenever she climaxes. Whenever you feel like you have to pee during sex it's because he is close to your G-Spot. Most likely you are releasing ... (read in full...)

He wants to marry me because I don't have any 'baggage'! Am I right to be insulted?

Q.   It would be really great if I could get some responses from anyone who has actually been through a divorce and then remarried. I jokingly asked my boyfriend about three weeks before our engagement party why he’s sure he wants to marry me and he s...

A.   5 May 2011: It is a compliment darling. Since he's divorced and has children it easier for you guys to progress as a family. It can be difficult to start a new family when you have to deal with ex spouses or deal with the baby mama or baby daddy drama. That ... (read in full...)

My whole family is hypocritcal about having sex before marriage!

Q.   My whole life my family told me, 'sex before marriage it wrong and they never did it' now I have just found out my entire family lied to me, literally everyone had sex before marriage. I was shocked about this news because my whole life they ...

A.   5 May 2011: They don't want you to make the same mistakes they made. Point blank. I tell my daughter not to "paint hearts on the wall" (sex) until she is married. Of course I didn't follow that rule but I'll be dammed if my daughter doesn't follow it. I'm my ... (read in full...)

How do I deal with my sadness and frustration at still not being married?

Q.   I envy my friends that are married. Well except for the ones that are in bad marriages. I dreamnt of getting married ever since I was a little girl. I have been engaged a couple times in the past but the relationships didn't last because those guys ...

A.   3 May 2011: Thank you. It wasn't too harsh and I'm glad you are honest. You are right about one thing tho. I'm great girlfriend material. ... (read in full...)

Marriage - why should any man bother?

Q.   Women… why should any guy propose marriage? Full disclosure: I have never been married, but several family members and friends have been hurt by divorce, and I know of only a handful of happy marriages over one year old. My feelings for the...

A.   3 May 2011: If I got married my husband would get lucky every night. I want to be married and I'm willing to take all the drama with it. It's a beautiful experience for most people. Others just turn it into a nightmare with their selfishness and infidelity. ... (read in full...)

How do I deal with my sadness and frustration at still not being married?

Q.   I envy my friends that are married. Well except for the ones that are in bad marriages. I dreamnt of getting married ever since I was a little girl. I have been engaged a couple times in the past but the relationships didn't last because those guys ...

A.   3 May 2011: You asked about my fertile years. Well I'm mexican so I'm very fertile and will probably remain that way until menopause. I do have two kids already. I was engaged to the father and he treated me bad so now I'm alone. I'm a great mother and every ... (read in full...)

Why does my boyfriend insist on masturbating everyday?

Q.   My boyfriend masturbates every single day. We don't live together yet and I understand masturbation is normal but he does it every day and it gets in the way of our sex life. Sometimes he pleases himself before he sees me and he will have no drive ...

A.   2 May 2011: Girl I have the same problem with my man. My body is exactly like yours and to be honest, my body is the type that he likes to look at on the internet. I've done everything I can with him and he still insist on banging himself. Then he wonders why ... (read in full...)

Why do women need to constantly be in contact?

Q.   My girlfriend wants some sort of daily contact, but me I'm fine if a go a week w/o so much as a text. Why do women seem to need to remain in constant contact?...

A.   2 May 2011: You must not like her very much. I would understand if you went a day without contact but couples in a normal relationship do not go a week without contact unless they are fighting or the love is gone. ... (read in full...)

We're married and in love but our sex life is nonexistent

Q.   O.K, So my husband and I have been married for 2 years, we were separated for 3 months however now that we are back together my sex drive is much higher, however before the separation we were not sexually active and now we still are not. While the ...

A.   26 April 2011: I think he has a problem downstairs. Even if he wasn't interested in you, he would still come to you for sex. Are you sure he's not sleeping with someone else on the side?... (read in full...)

We're married and in love but our sex life is nonexistent

Q.   O.K, So my husband and I have been married for 2 years, we were separated for 3 months however now that we are back together my sex drive is much higher, however before the separation we were not sexually active and now we still are not. While the ...

A.   20 April 2011: I just want you to know that it has nothing to do with you. It's all him. My situation is kinda like yours. Hear me out: My fiance and I broke up when I was pregnant because he and I hardly ever had sex because he was addicted to porn/masturbatio... (read in full...)

She's wrong for me and I know it, but I am obsessed with her. Help!

Q.   I have worked to keep a distance from a bad relationship. We broke up, I know it is right, she was sapping me of everything and I became very depressed, and still am. The thing is I have an unhealthy obsession with her. I have not contacted her fo...

A.   14 April 2011: I can relate to you on this one because I've been in a relationship like that with the absolute WRONG man. He was much older than me and had more baggage than the Chicago O'Hare International Airport! I did not want to leave him but my life was so ... (read in full...)

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