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*yButtHurts
writes:My girlfriend wants some sort of daily contact, but me I'm fine if a go a week w/o so much as a text. Why do women seem to need to remain in constant contact?
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reader, HoneyEyedLatina +, writes (2 May 2011):
 You must not like her very much. I would understand if you went a day without contact but couples in a normal relationship do not go a week without contact unless they are fighting or the love is gone.
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reader, Eilish  +, writes (2 May 2011):
 Being a female myself, I can honestly say not all girls are like that.
I have a boyfriend, but I mostly wait for him to ring me because I don't wanna come across as annoying. However I do ring him on the odd time.
If this is how you feel about your girlfriends common contact, maybe you should remind yourself what kind of relationship you are looking for?
As she is always in contact with you maybe she is looking for quite a serious relationship.
However, it seems to me like her constant contact bugs you quite a bit, as you said you'd be happy with just texting. Maybe you'd prefer just a more chilled out casual relationship?
She obviously loves you and cares about you, which is why she wants to hear from you everyday. But if this is not what you want or if it bugs you in any way then just tell her calmly. :-)
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (1 May 2011):
 It's what all people do when they are in a relationship with someone they love. Since this bugs you, maybe you should think about how you really feel about her. I suspect you aren't that interested in her, so rather than stringing her on just cut it now so she can find someone who will love and appreciate her, and look foward to hearing from her every day.
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reader, matureflowerx +, writes (1 May 2011):
 I don't think that its more women in general but each specific person. I am like you I would be quite happy with little contact from most people close to me even seeing or speaking on the phone once a week is fine.
It just depends how much attention the other person needs. Most people like to stay in contact with their loved ones more regularly not just females. Infact in my relationship it is always my boyfriend who complains that we do no spend enough time together.
But if it is your girlfriend/wife you are talking about and she needs more attention then maybe you should try and show her more.
I'm sorry if this advice did not help very much but I can't think of any reasonable excuse you would only want to contact a significant other with one text a week?
Unless you are just speaking generally of course.
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reader, Orbiter +, writes (1 May 2011):
Believe me, I know how you feel. Most guys I dated needed daily contact too. A couple would text me around 5 times a day which was really frustrating as I'm someone who likes my own space.
I think we're in the minority in not needing as much contact. I haven't met any guys that are happy to go a week without at least talking (unless in the very early stages of a relationship). I've *guessed* that maybe it's because they're more social and get more enjoyment out of social contact e.g talking with their partner or they're just bored. To be honest I don't really know. I think basically it's just a difference in personality.
Although I do feel that people who get upset if you don't contact them everyday or text back immediately are a little insecure. They seem to need constant reassurance that everything's ok and you're still interested in them.
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reader, SillyB +, writes (1 May 2011):
 Because then she would be an acquaintance, don't you think?
People you call ever so often are friends or acquaintances, not people you love and care about who you want to talk to daily and experience life with.
If she doesn't ignite a desire to talk to her on a daily basis, she's not the right girl for you. In a romantic relationship communication and spending time together is key.
If you don't contact her on a daily basis, sooner than later, someone will swoop in who will.
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