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writes:I dont really know if this is something thats just me or if people actualy have the same worry.I'm 20 and have a baby of one year, me and the babies dad have broken up, i've met someone else but havent had sex with them. I've only ever been with babies dad so I dont know what its like with other people. I worry that being a mum, my vagina won't be like the other girls (and theres a lot) that this new guy has been with. I'm also a size 18. and the girls hes been with were all slim. Its making me feel really self concious, and im normally a confident person. Also, which do guys prefer, shaven or not? and whats the best way to shave? not keen on waxing!Sorry if this is a bit over the top!
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reader, HoneyEyedLatina  +, writes (14 June 2011):
 Don't let his exes make you feel any less beautiful and most men like girls that are curvy. I'm sure there are skinny girls out there with no butt or boobs and they long for a curvy body. If you are concerned about your weight then you could do some exercises that are more fun than brutal. For instance, there is belly dancing exercises, pole dancing, strip tease dancing, hip hop etc etc I'm sure your vagina is perfect. I have two kids and my vagina is still just as tight as ever. In fact, I have been told by my fiance that I'm tighter than some of his exes who haven't had kids. A lot of people assume that girls with kids aren't as tight as girls without kids but let me tell you this, once you have a kid the sex becomes better!!!!!! I don't really know why that is but it just is! Before I had my daughter I would hurt all the time but now I'm wild. If you are concerned about your size down there you should insert your finger and check the tightness of your vagina. If your walls hug your finger then you are still tight. If you don't like what you feel then you can easily tighten it with a kegel master. Google it. It's an exercising device for the vagina that adds resistance when you do kegels. It's very popular and one of the ladies of the show "Desperate Housewives" mentioned that she loved the product on Jay Leno! In fact, one of my friends was soo loose that her husband could not feel a thing even when she squeezed her muscles. She used the kegel master for about a couple of months and now her husband says she feels like a teenager and he won't dare enter her without lube.I know that it's scary to sleep with someone new after you have a baby and you feel that he will be comparing you to his exes but keep in mind that he chose you. He likes you and he wan'ts your body. Men absolutely love women with kids. I read that the #1 type of porn that men look up is "milfs". You've got the power darling now all you have to do is use it. Work your moves and he will be crawling at your feet!
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (13 June 2011):
 It is normal to be nervous about becoming intimate with another person again after you had a baby:)
If someone is interested in you, they need to accept you for who YOU are. You and your baby are a "packaged" deal. You and your BODY are a packaged deal.
Lots of men LOVE Curvy girls, and if he is dating you..guess what HE LIKES IT!
Your vag is fine! Do not worry about it not being the same like other girls-it would be rude for him to compare and bring it to your attention anyway! :)
As far as personal grooming, that is exactly what it is..PERSONAL. What do you PREFER? Go with that.
If you become intimately involved with him, talk about it as lovers if you want to play with areas of your life to make sex more interesting.
If you want to shave, there are plenty "directions" online, just do a search. Keep in mind, that you DO need to keep it up, and sometimes you can get a painful razor rash/bumps if you do NOT do it right.
Do things at a pace YOU are comfortable with and be honest with the guy if you are a bit nervous. Anyone who really cares about you, is going to be sensitive to that and not rush you or push you into anything you are confident with:)
Best Wishes.
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