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writes:I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for the last two years. She is very nice and has sparkling sense humor. In those last two years, I haven't come across a single moment when she was angry at me for anything stupid I do once in a bloom like me coming late on date and stuffs. I don't believe that someone can be so nice in this world that who does not know how to show anger and being sad. Now I just want to see the other emotions of her especially aggression otherwise I will start believing that she is not from this world. So what fake things I need to do that don't hurt her badly but could get her angry so finally I could see this side of her. Any suggestion from you guys would be appreciated!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2011): @Anonymous 123 : I talked to my girlfriend today... she says that life is too short to be wasted on being angry and also this is something not in her nature.Even if she tries, she can't get angry. She says she loves me because there is a pure heart inside me and even if hurt her she will forgive me thinking that the mistake I have done will make me better human being . I promised her that I will never hurt my angel...!
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reader, HoneyEyedLatina  +, writes (18 June 2011):
 I hardly ever get mad or raise my voice. My fiance has upset me to the point where I started shaking and I wanted to bite his head off but I went in the other room and screamed in my pillow and I was fine after that. Some girls (like me)are just like that. We don't feel it's necessary to act a certain way around people. See we kinda have this soft feminine reputation that we have to hold. Everyone has a first and last impression of other people. If you meet a nice girl and then you see her yelling and screaming then your last impression is that she's a crazy bitch. We on the other hand, don't want to leave an impression like that on people. Or she's on some really good valium or antidepressants. lol Consider yourself lucky to have an amazing girl like that and whatever you do, please don't test her patience. That could end in disaster because we do hold everything inside and it could end up blowing up in your face. Just be thankful and treat her right and she will continue to act like a lady and an amazing girlfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2011): Dude ... she is in love man .... The pure form ... She would just agree to whatever you do. So go enjoy your life ... stop suspecting her .... Girls like her are precious ...
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A wise man ... !
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reader, synchrohobbit +, writes (17 June 2011):
 I know there are already a lot of answers, but I just wanted to add that I am exactly like your girlfriend and for me this doesn't mean that I have no emotions, it just means I don't react very strongly to anything. If she is able to strongly express positive emotions (love, happiness, pleasure) but just doesn't seem to have negative ones she may simply be an optimistic person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2011): She might just not get angry at that kind of stuff. If my bf is late for a date i don't mind unless its over a half an hour and he doesn't have a decent excuse.
Talk to her, maybe she does mind she's just not showing it.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (17 June 2011):
 You don't need to do anything fake to 'test' her, just talk to her about it. Maybe she really is one of those very rare people who are genuinely like that and don't get angry that often.
It is a little odd though, that not once in two years have you seen this other side of her's. I say just talk to her, ask her how on earth she manages to be so calm and sweet...and please share it with us here! I could take a leaf out of her book!!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (17 June 2011):
 What about skipping the tests and just talk to her about it? Ask her about anger/sadness, and emotions, how she expresses them etc. Talk about it, and see if you can open her up.
If the relationshi works like this, then leave it at that. If she's a super nice person, and you're happy with it, then leave it be. However I would be a little concerned that she might get angry, but show it in a destructive manner. Talking about this, and making sure she's ok, would be the way to go. An example of a destructive way to express surpressed feelings is comfort eating, developing other eating disorders, cutting, isolating one self, or have it all blow up in your face months/years later, or the ultimate worst case being suicide. These are all worst case scenarios, she could just be a person who is... shallow or numb in that department and doesnt ever get angry or upset/loves you too much to get upset/has low self esteem and doesn't find herself worthy of getting upset.
But, just talk to her about your concern. However, if all is fine, and she's fine, leave it as it is and continue to have a nice relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2011): Why dont you talk to het about this. If it's been two years and she had an angry side it surely would've come out by now? Maybe this is just her nature? Some people are just naturally gentle, sweet and nice.
My bf is the opposite, he gets angry at everything!
I'm not sure which I would prefer!?
It takes allsorts in this world, hey!?
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