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anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and i have been together for 3 years now and we have a 3 month old baby. We have talked about having a three some with a girl i used to party with and occasionally mess around with. I had problems trusting him in the past but after our son was born i completely trust him now. im thinking about doing it but im worried it will ruin what we have. Any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2011): Let me say your situation back to you OP and you tell us if it's a good idea.
Basically you're saying that you want to give the boyfriend you had major trust issues with in the very recent past, permission to screw your "party girl" friend in front of you.
Okay or I'll put it this way, you've been with this guy 3 years and only in past 3 months have you learned to completely trust him and you're talking about letting him have sex with another woman, one who you occasionally mess around with? Yeah sounds great. Not only will you get to watch your own boyfriend cheat on you, with your permission right in front of you, but you're going to let him do that with a girl such as her?
Something tells me this is his idea and you know what? It's a very bad idea OP. Threesomes are exceptionally hard to pull off if two of those people are a couple, you have to have the strongest long term bond, one you don't yet have, you've only barely managed to trust him and only after the birth of your son. Why are you considering ruining that?
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reader, HoneyEyedLatina +, writes (17 May 2011):
 Don't do it! I have many friends who did a threesome and it caused problems in their relationship. Who wants the threesome? If he wants it then he is basically asking for permission to cheat. If you do decide to do the threesome, you will constantly have all these questions in mind. Observe:Does my boyfriend like her body better than mine?Does my boyfriend like her sex better than me?Does my boyfriend think she's tighter than me?Does my boyfriend think about her now or like her?Does my boyfriend want to have sex with her again?Does my boyfriend want to cheat on me with her?Obviously you will ask him all these questions and he will say no but you will have doubts in the back of your mind. Hey may end up asking for another threesome with her and if he does, that is a big RED FLAG. Not only that but you may end up developing some type of jealousy toward this. Unless you are one of those women who are completely open in their relationship and absolutely have no insecurity. Most girls I know that had threesomes would get extremely jealous. Especially when they ran into the girl and see their man talking to her or staring at her. They felt threatened because there was a connection between their man and the girl sexually. That being said, it is also a bad idea because he may or may not view you as wife material. However, some marriages have threesomes but you already know how that goes-- (refer to questions above)
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2011): Yes it will ruin your relation ship try to just have sex with your partner dont add your friend in your sex life you guys already built a family be happy dont make that three some destroy your life love eachother the way your supposed to love each other :).
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2011):
Who wants to do this? Him or you?
Personally, I wouldn't do it. Nothing good will come of it in the long run.
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reader, Abella +, writes (16 May 2011):
 Very likely it will ruin your relationship in the end.
When people totally adore each other they generally have no need to pursue a three way relationship.
In what way could you enhance you exising relationship and make things more interesting in your existing relationship so that you do not need to pursue this?
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