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writes:My husband and i have been married for about two and a half months now, our wedding night was my first time being with anyone. for the first like two months our sex routine was the same. sex every night missionary, sometimes in the morning but it was always the same position. however i guess my husband decided we were ready to try new things because with out getting into too much detail we started doing different things and its amazing. but when ever he's "doing it" from behind i cant control my bladder its like i have to pee really bad. and this weird clear liquid comes out but its only like a little bit like a sprinkler. and also i tend to cry a bit im not sad but i cant help crying but it only happens when hes behind me. is this normal? and not to use up another post, is there anything i can try now he's going out town for 3 weeks to japan to help with some red-cross relief and id like to surprise him by doing something special when he gets back, so any tips would be gratefully welcomed!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (9 May 2011):
 if you empty your bladder before sex and still get the urge and still "sprinkle" then you are "squirting" and that's pretty cool. I've done it once or twice and yes always in the rear entry position.... must be the way everything hits the right spots.... nothing wrong with it... just put a towel or a wee-wee bed pad down under you to catch any run off and save the bed....
as for when hubby gets home... I'm in an LDR and the first thing we do when we've not seen each other... we get comfy and get into bed and we cuddle and love on each other... he's not expecting new or exciting at this point... just that wonderful connection that two people in love have and need after time apart....
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2011): Hi thereThat feeling of wanting to pee is not very nice, I know, and it is because of how he is positioned, and everything pushing down on you. If you are kneeling with your legs open, and him between them, gravity is pulling your tummy and everything down and frontwards, and it can rub against you in such a way that you get that slightly uncomfortable sensation.There is a much better position, which is that you lie with your legs together, tummy etc. supported by, eg, the bed, because you are lying down, and he puts his legs either side of yours, and/or kneels or crouches with his knees/feet either side of your legs. This way you will get very deep penetration, but very comfortable. No unwanted sensations.Personally I really don't like the wanting to pee sensation. The position I describe above is one I was introduced to later in life, and to be honest, I really was amazed and thought what have I been missing.As for the crying - it is a natural response in situations of what you might call extreme contact during sex. By that, I mean when your husband and you make love in an intense, deeply-connected way. It is not that you feel humiliated or degraded, as one person suggested, but more that you are giving yourself up completely to the experience with your husband - it is like the most intense openness and bonding. This act is something very special and will bring you very close, but it will also sometimes give you a very strong emotional reaction, and one of those is feeling like crying. Yes, it is linked to the physical reaction in your body of complete surrender. However, so long as it is willing and in a close loving relationship, it is not something to be ashamed of and it is not a bad thing. It is just utter closeness.Let yourself go with these emotions and experiences. And try that position I said - it really is a winner.By the way, missionary can also be intense and close and really great, but you do have to be careful that things don't get routine in sex, because they can lose their effect.You are just at the start of your journey discovering your and your husband's sexual soul together. Go with it, but if anything is ever painful or uncomfortable, try something different.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2011): Ignore these female posters. I'm a man, and I've been away from my wife for months at a time at one time in my life.This is what I wanted when I got home, and what any red blooded man wants when he comes home like this to someone that he loves.He wants you, rested, smiling, welcoming, clean and warm and happy to see him.He wants you like he remembers you, not something different.He wants you naked after he has caught his breath.If he's hungry, feed him, but not to much, you need him to be able to enjoy the sex and he won't if he is to full.If he's tired, then go right to the sex and make sure you let him know that you are hungry for him and have been thinking about this day and waiting for it. Wear him out, then sit up and caress his hair and body while he sleeps, or snuggle into him and sleep with him.Forget the underwear and maid's outfits, heck, if you get a bunch of that stuff he may very well begin to get paranoid about what was going on when he was gone. Once he's back, and settled in, then you can tell him you need to be going shopping for some new underwear that you'd like him to take a look at later.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2011): Just rip his pants off and suck him, without saying anything. No words, just action. That's sexy to me, and my personal recommendation.
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reader, ashleyA +, writes (7 May 2011):
Sounds to me like what is happening is a thing called "squirting". Google it sometime. But this is what would be causing the feeling of having to urinate. Its nothing abnormal in fact many women wish they could do it. But if it is any way uncomfortable for him all you have to do is tell him. He should understand.
As for trying something new have you tried taking control of the situation and being the one in control. A lot of men like a woman that will take control and this may be something fun to try. or when he comes you could be waiting in some sexy underwear....
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reader, HoneyEyedLatina +, writes (7 May 2011):
 It sounds like you are a squirter. Men love that. It's when a woman squirts fluid out of her vagina whenever she climaxes. Whenever you feel like you have to pee during sex it's because he is close to your G-Spot. Most likely you are releasing vaginal fluid (not pee) when he is behind you. As for the crying, maybe you feel degraded when he has you in that position?During his trip you should buy a costume like a nurse, school teacher, maid or a school girl outfit. You can find them in stores, online or at Fredericks of Hollywood. I'm sure he would love to see the house clean while you are wearing your sexy maid outfit in heels. hint hint
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (7 May 2011):
 You just need to tell him that it is slightly uncomfortable for you when he is behind. If you want to try other things you simply need to initiate it, you don't have to wait for him to do something first.
I think that when he comes back home, simply seeing you again will be more than enough. Just have the house nice and homey, and have a warm meal ready. That will be all he needs. No need to go over the top unless you naturally think of something personal that you want to do. But if it doesn't come by itself, just having a warm meal ready for him to eat after a long travel will be all he needs, and perhaps a shower. He might be too tired for cuddles or anything sexual.
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