In love with my best friend. What should I do?
Q. I am in love with my best friend and it's starting to tear me up. I'm mostly all for truth and confessing, but this case is a bit different, so I'm going to start with the back story. We've known each other since summer 2012, after meeting on...
A. 23 March 2014: Sexuality is not an issue here. As said, we met on a dating website. He's gay, I'm bi. Both are open about our orientation.
And the thing is, I'm really not sure if either one of us picks up anything. The first time I confessed my feelings... (read in full...)
I want sex but I don't like it!
Q. I am a bisexual guy who's attracted to both genders and has had sex with both of them. Trouble is, I don't enjoy sex, even though I do want it. I currently have a boyfriend for whom I have fallen head over heels and we do engage in intimacies fr...
A. 12 November 2010: That was a really helpful answer, Cerberus! I think that's exactly what I'm going to do, ask him if he'd like to turn it into something twice as special. Thank you very much! :)... (read in full...)
This all just seems too good to be true!
Q. Hey, My question might not be too clear because, truly, i'm really worried and I just want advice on what to do next. So, I'm a guy, i'm fourteen and I just started year 10 today. For a few years now I have known that i'm gay but I am still in the c...
A. 5 September 2010: Yay for followups.
See, we told you it'll work and it did. I am happy for you, as well as I am for him. All the best for the future!
(And you're welcome!) (:... (read in full...)
This all just seems too good to be true!
Q. Hey, My question might not be too clear because, truly, i'm really worried and I just want advice on what to do next. So, I'm a guy, i'm fourteen and I just started year 10 today. For a few years now I have known that i'm gay but I am still in the c...
A. 3 September 2010: He is into you. That is a definite fact. And you are into him. Let's sum it up: you are into him and he is into you. Obviously, this is your chance and instead of saying, "Take it or leave it", I'll simply say, "Take it!"
You may feel awkward ... (read in full...)
Is he gay?
Q. So right now, my mind's been thinking about a situation that happened not too long ago. Well as it turns out I am gay, and very few people know about it. About a year ago, maybe a little more. I had a really big falling with a former friend, but ...
A. 3 September 2010: It is hard to tell whether he is gay or not, for you can never be completely sure, unless you have a great relationship with the person in question and they tell you.
But I would suggest telling him about your true feelings, though. If your fri... (read in full...)
Should I come out to her or not?
Q. I've been giving advice on this website for a while now but eventually figured I need some help myself. To start off, I am an 18-year-old bisexual guy and my sexuality is not really the problem in this case. I've been bisexual my whole life, star...
A. 29 August 2010: You hit the point, watsername23. What I need is someone I can talk to about my sexuality. You're probably right about not being ashamed, too. But I can't help the latter just yet.
I've actually known her since the age of 7, tennisstar88. That's m... (read in full...)
First time same-sex attraction, and we're not sure what to do about our feelings
Q. I'm curious about developing a romantic relationship with another woman I know. How do we proceed? Neither of us have experienced this attraction for another female and don't know what to do with our feelings. We've known each other for awhile, and ...
A. 16 August 2010: Oregongrl1, no one has mentioned love yet. It's still on the level of mutual attraction and needs time to develop into love, assuming it will happen.
As for what to do, anonymous writer, well, I'd suggest walking up to her when the time is right... (read in full...)
Did he like me? What should I do?
Q. Dear aunts, I'll try and be as brief as possible (unfortunately this will be very longwinded), but I am looking for some advice and I really didn't know where to turn to, so here I am. Well I am a gay male, and a few months ago I was not scouting...
A. 13 August 2010: Well, you obviously have nothing to lose if he finds out you're interested in him, for you don't have a friendship that might get ruined and in case he decides to tell the whole world you're gay, well, people already know. But if he has feelings for ... (read in full...)
Seeing a younger man but worried by the age difference
Q. Hi all, I’m hoping for some sensible insight on this situation. I’m a 33 year old gay man, very quiet and academic most of the time, though I do sometimes enjoy the odd party. It was at a social get-together that I met another man, and we b...
A. 9 August 2010: The age difference isn't that big and it seems that you really like each other's company. If the only thing that's bothering you about the possible relationship is the age gap, forget it! He may the THE right person in your life and it would be a ... (read in full...)
I have a boyfriend but am very interested in touching another woman
Q. Hi, I am in a very loving relationship with a wonderful man. But recently I had to travel and was away from him for a while and meanwhile I met an old girl-friend and there has been some feelings and we discussed perhaps to to explore the touch of...
A. 8 August 2010: The thought of trying out your own gender will probably not leave you so easily, so trying it out would be a good idea. But if you feel it would count as cheating your boyfriend and that's something you wouldn't want to do, you're indeed facing a ... (read in full...)
Do boys like big girls?
Q. dear cupid i know that this has nothing to do with relationships but i need advice. i am 14 and i have 38dd breasts, is that normal? i really want 2 lose weight what exercise helps? and i have 42 inch hips and i am 5 feet tall. do boys like big ...
A. 8 August 2010: It's wrong to ask whether boys/men (or girls/women, generally one sex) like this or that. Preferences are individual. I personally often find bigger girls - by which I mean plump ones, the ones whose whole body is bigger than "average" - much more ... (read in full...)
How do I help him? No matter what we tried he couldn't stay hard
Q. I'm in a LDR with my boyfriend of 5 months. The first time we had sex, he had trouble getting it up at first but was eventually able to get up and stay up multiple times after. I figured maybe he was nervous because it was our first time or ...
A. 8 August 2010: Might be several things. He might be under a lot of stress, causing his body to disfunction. He might not be into women in the first place, even if he denies it. Eventually, he might simply find you so wonderful and dazzling that his body ... (read in full...)
I get no pleasure from sex at all
Q. i have had sex with my boyfriend a number of times and no matter how long we have sex for i feel no peasure what so ever, at first it just hurts for about 5 minutes then after the pain goes i dont feel anything? if i try use anything else to ...
A. 7 August 2010: Taking what others already mentioned in consideration, there's also the possibility that you're not attracted to your boyfriend. It's just a thought, but think about it. Do you find your boyfriend attractive? Do you actually feel attracted to him? ... (read in full...)
Can I get past the fact that I'm dating a man that has a feminine voice?
Q. [Mod Note - OP's own title] About a month ago I started to talk to a guy that I met online. When we talked on the phone, we really hit it off. When we finally met, our conversation flowed really well and we really have a lot in common. I have nev...
A. 5 August 2010: If you mention it to him, he'll either become really complexed about it or tell you he knows and carry on living a normal life. I'm afraid though, that the first situation is more likely to occur.
Now, no matter if you mention it to him or not, ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my mom I'm gay, not doing drugs as she thinks?
Q. hey, right, i'm a girl and i'm gay. i have a gf who i've been with about 6 months. ive only recently come to terms with being gay myself really, and this is my first serious gay relationship. i really love my gf and have come to a stage where i ...
A. 2 August 2010: Before I carry on, LLindy87, homosexuality IS NOT a lifestyle choice. People do not choose what appeals to them and what doesn't.
Getting back to you, anonymous writer, people react differently. If the relationship with your mum is healthy,... (read in full...)
I know that men look at porn so why does he claim not to? I'm not the jealous type.
Q. Why do guys lie about watching porn? My boyfriend and I have been together for several years and at the beginning of our relationship would look at it together quite a lot, usually just for fun (i.e. trying to find the weirdest stuff we could) but ...
A. 28 June 2010: Good point, Tisha-1!
But yeah, I agree that your boyfriend might be telling the truth. Not all men watch porn. And I'm not talking only about the majority of asexuals. Seriously, there are guys who don't like porn, don't have access to it or simpl... (read in full...)
Is it bad that I've never masturbated?
Q. hies all, friends i'm a 19 year old male, and you may find it shocking but it's truth that i've never masturbated in my life. is something really bad,,? i've a few times(2or3) tried to masturbate by shaking my dick, but the white fluid won't co...
A. 28 June 2010: The "white fluid" - also known as sperm, semen, cum, jizz and whatnot - will not start pouring out of your penis after shaking it once or twice. It takes time when having sex as well as when masturbating. The stimulation may last from a few minutes ... (read in full...)
How do I tell them I'm not a virgin?
Q. Hi, I would like to know your opinions and what I should do, I am 15 year old girl I am secretly engaged to my boyfriend and we have had sex many times, i am finding it very difficult to tell my parents that I have had sex so how would I tell them ...
A. 27 June 2010: I have never told my parents that I have had sex because it is none of their business. They tell me nothing about their sex life (in fact, I wouldn't want to know either) and I'm assuming your parents haven't been telling you much about what happens ... (read in full...)
Gay friend wants to be straight!
Q. My friend is gay and we have had intercourse in the past with no problems (I am Bi). But the last time we had sex he cried afterwards and said he no longer wanted to be gay. Since then he has shut me out of his life and I no longer get to see him. ...
A. 27 June 2010: I'm assuming the same thing pancakes rule and some other of the answerers already pointed out. Chances are, he might have realized he wasn't gay and it may confuse him if he was already completely accustomed to his sexuality. It's the same as when... (read in full...)
I'm gay but I think I might miss having sex with women! Help!
Q. Hello, Re:- Gay man who longs for straight sex I am 34 and live in East London but originally from a small town in the Borders. When I was at School I used to fantasise about men and woman fairly equally. However, I was never any good at...
A. 27 June 2010: You're attracted to both genders. You are not gay, you are bisexual! You're willing to know how to satisfy your need for straight sex. Well, there are lots of adult dating websites on the internet and I'm pretty sure there are women who are lo... (read in full...)
What's the point of giving him oral sex when he doesn't cum?
Q. Hey I asked a question before about being nervous of giving oral sex http://www.dearcupid.org/question/fear-of-fellatio.html Okay I got over my fear and gave him a blowjob last night. He had his eyes closed through out and was moaning. My fear...
A. 24 June 2010: Listen, you do not have to bring him all the way through. Even though he did not come, he enjoyed it while it lasted. In other words, you did make him feel good and that's what really matters.
Besides:
a) You may not even like him to cum into you... (read in full...)
My best friend doesn't ever want to talk to me again! Help!
Q. over the last three years i have had the same bestfriend. he was there for me through everything, even helped me out of depression, helped me through all my family problems. I have never been that close to anyone in my entire life, he was my only ...
A. 23 June 2010: Well, you simply can't. Maybe there is something left between the two of you that you can still save, though?
If he changed his mind about you being friends overnight, someone might have made him leave you. It might have been someone else's i... (read in full...)
What else can I do to please him?
Q. I'm going to try oout some tips on giving my boyfriend a blowjob even though I don't really enjoy it. If this doesn't work, what other ways are there that I can pleasure my boyfriend. Other than handjobs obviously. I dress up a lot for him and we ...
A. 23 June 2010: My girlfriend used to get turned on when I gently licked her back. You may try it with your boyfriend, see how he reacts. I have always liked being kissed on the neck, so you may want to try it out as well. Other than that, I think you have a pretty ... (read in full...)
Am I finally going to find someone who wants me for me?
Q. Hullooooo Just a little curious is all... I've only ever been in two relationships. One went for two years and the girl I was with never wanted to be physical (not sex, lol, I don't plan on having sex for a whiiiile yet), but just cuddling, ...
A. 23 June 2010: I think you will find someone eventually. I have no suggestions or advice to give, just hope. Because yes, I really think you will.
Just out of curiosity though, why are you not willing to have sex as of yet?... (read in full...)
Did I shave myself incorrectly?
Q. Please please help me! It's stupid but everyone said they shave their vagina, so I decided I had to try it. I look under other questions on this web and used the answers eg use a razor and the lips the hardest part .. So I've done it now, and I ...
A. 23 June 2010: The two times I've shaved my pubes, my skin ended up being covered in red itching spots, too, so I've sticked to good old scissors to simply keep the hair short and trimmed. This is what I would suggest you to do instead of torturing yourself the ... (read in full...)
My best friend doesn't ever want to talk to me again! Help!
Q. over the last three years i have had the same bestfriend. he was there for me through everything, even helped me out of depression, helped me through all my family problems. I have never been that close to anyone in my entire life, he was my only ...
A. 23 June 2010: You ought to ask for the reason he did this and decide what to do after you receive an answer. At least it seems to be the right first step to take.... (read in full...)
My mother is a nightmare to live with!
Q. hi aunts, i really need your help.my mom and i dont get along at all and sometimes i feel like she wants me out of her house. am 23, married with a son, my husband is abroad, making preparations for us to go there too. so until then, he left us to ...
A. 20 June 2010: You need to tell her how awfully she's treating you! The next time she starts yelling at you, stop her before she gets finished with her first sentence and tell her straight in the face that you are attending college, raising a kid, cooking the ... (read in full...)
I'm 25 and a virgin, I don't want to abandon my morals but I'm feeling so frustrated!
Q. I'm 25 and still a virgin I'm so fed up really feel like i'm going to die this way. I don't go out much so I find it really difficult to meet someone. I've chatted online to some guys and some I really like but they seem to be after just one t...
A. 18 June 2010: If you really don't want to meet someone for sex only, I guess you'll really have to wait until you find your special somebody.
There is one thing you can do to get to know new people without having to go out clubbing or anything among the line... (read in full...)
He says he's 100 percent straight but I love him
Q. Hi, i'm Alex, 17 and gay. I met my now best friend about 8 months ago in collage. He is the most amazing person i have ever met, And i fell completely in love with him. For 8 months i have had intense feelings for him, and would do anything to b...
A. 16 June 2010: If he was okay with you being gay in the first place, I'd suggest he wouldn't have too much trouble finding out you have feelings for him. I kind of think he would react the same way he would react if a girl told him she has feelings for him.
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Its very upsetting to me that I can't satisfy my partner the way he does me
Q. I am gay and my boyfriend and I have been together for almost over 2 and a half years now. I love him with all my heart, so much it hurts when I have to be away from him. As corny as it sounds he completes me, just thinking of him makes me happy, ...
A. 16 June 2010: It's just a guess but there might be something wrong with your hormone levels or something among the lines. Maybe you should see a doctor? If it's a health problem, I'm sure it can be solved.
PS: You are uttermost lucky to have a partner as under... (read in full...)
I know he loves me, but because he is bi-sexual he still wants to sleep with women! How should I handle this?
Q. hi, i am a 22 yr old guy, deeply in love with a classmate, who is 21.he is bisexual, for i know he had girlfriends and was physical with them.he is extremely caring, affectionate and i know loves me very much. but problem is, he still wants to have ...
A. 16 June 2010: What I suggest doing is rethinking some aspects of life.
In other words, are sex and love tied to one another unconditionally? I don't think so. The way I look at the world, sex should be part of a relationship based on love. However, love doe... (read in full...)
I'm newly bisexual. I'm sure he likes me back, but he's already with someone...
Q. Hi, I'm a 21 year old male, I've been heterosexual all my life, but just recently I've become bisexual, almost purely because of one of my closest friends, who I've completely fallen in love with. I'm absolutely sure he likes me too (he's also bi)...
A. 16 June 2010: I'd suggest telling him how things really are. Make sure he knows you have feelings for him and then it'll be his choice whether to stick with the guy he's already dating or to start going out with you. If there is a real friendship between the two ... (read in full...)
If I was open about liking girls and boys with my classmates, will I be a target?
Q. If i tell everyone at school i like girls aswell as boys would i be brave or stupid? i cant decide all these questions are in my head and its confusing me i just want to be myself for once i have too pretend to be someone am not and i hate it i have ...
A. 16 June 2010: I agree with what most of the people said. So, to sum it up, if you really feel like coming out, come out to your closest friends but definitely not to everyone you know. Good luck with that!... (read in full...)
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