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writes:I'm going to try oout some tips on giving my boyfriend a blowjob even though I don't really enjoy it. If this doesn't work, what other ways are there that I can pleasure my boyfriend. Other than handjobs obviously. I dress up a lot for him and we try out karma sutra together. We even have handcuffs and a whip. We give each other massages. I just feel like there ought to be something more I can do to pleasure him?
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reader, happy140  +, writes (23 June 2010):
 "To pleasure him" is not always about the sexual contact. The easy access clothes with out underwear both inside and outside the home is great. It allows for feels and that pretty much it (if you stop him or course), the talking through out the day such as, when we get home I'm going to.... or skirt with out underwear (many a mans favorite, allows you to "flash" him all day when your away much less the thought your in the mall with him and whispering in his ears what you do or don't have on. The constant caresses during the day with the promise of "tonight". The “write down' a fantasy basket. This is were you both put fantasies in and pull one in the am and tease each other all day about it! Take him to an adult store (out of your town if your concerned of others)-lots of imagination there!
Tips on giving a BJ are good but its part of his body and if you ask he will tell eventually. Like licking here, is this what you like of (pick another spot) here. Men love to watch; yes we do so let us. Variation is great HOWEVER the difference between good (is there a bad one? Try telling a wife she only “good”) and FANTASTICALLY ORGASMIC is caring. Ensure he can see that your doing at that moment what you want to do. The most pleasure is in seeing it in her eyes and to see her smile because she understands the control she has and truly, truly enjoys doing it. She truly deep inside wants to pleasure him, not herself, but him. The difference in you enjoying it or not, you have to find. Think about the control you have, you have the power to make him beg (in a good way), you can see on his face the place he is in while you pleasure him, and he is soon to be “there”. The woman I have been with who truly enjoyed oral pleasuring me did so because they knew they had me and was taking me somewhere no other woman tried to. (Equate that to the look on a mans face when we do it to you and our efforts and determination pay off, it is winning the orgasmic lottery! She does not have that are we done yet, how much longer, my arms are tired, my feet hurt, blah blah. We see those things in your eyes or the way you try to hide your face. Men are very visual-always remembering that and you will have a happy man--PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE--do not get to be known as a "rain check" girl. (PS When we try cashing one of those rain checks in and we always get later, maybe, tomorrow, not now, got a headache, tomorrow I promise and I make it even better, blah blah.)
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reader, groovymoving  +, writes (23 June 2010):
My girlfriend used to get turned on when I gently licked her back. You may try it with your boyfriend, see how he reacts. I have always liked being kissed on the neck, so you may want to try it out as well. Other than that, I think you have a pretty healthy sex life. :)
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