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writes:hi aunts, i really need your help.my mom and i dont get along at all and sometimes i feel like she wants me out of her house. am 23, married with a son, my husband is abroad, making preparations for us to go there too. so until then, he left us to stay at my mom's place. the problem is that my mom is difficult to live with. she hates me with a passion and cant wait for me to leave. once she comes back from work, she criticizes evrything i have done from the way i have cleaned the house to the way i have cooked supper. i never do anythng right in her eyes.she keeps saying that she is tired of having me live with her and that she'l leave the house for me coz shes tired of me. she is a clean freak so i try my best to keep the house clean. i do housework two times a day.in the morning, and in the evening just before she comes from work just to avoid conflict but it is never enough. she finds dinner on the table but still there is no peace. i go to college and come back before four to pick my son from school so i dont just stay home and do nothing. am equally tired at the end of the day, but i stil make an effort to clean the house and cook like she wants. but she says am lazy still. she says that if it werent for her, the house would stink, when she only does the housework on sundays only and i help her. am just tired of her criticizing me and yelling at me infront of my 3year old son. today she threw away some of my stuff becoz according to her, they were making her house look untidy. the stuff was in my room. i just feel like an intruder in my own home. i feel she doesnt want me here. its okay though, its her house but it hurts like hell that shes treating me like this. i have no option but to live with her til my husband teks me with him. But how am i supposed to live like this.am so stressed i dont know what to do anymore. please help me. its emotionally draining me. Reply to this Question
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reader, groovymoving  +, writes (20 June 2010):
You need to tell her how awfully she's treating you! The next time she starts yelling at you, stop her before she gets finished with her first sentence and tell her straight in the face that you are attending college, raising a kid, cooking the dinners and - last but not least - cleaning the house twice a day every day for her sake only. You are the one who's trying her best while she simply ignores your efforts. After you've managed to get it out of yourself, carry on by saying she's been impossible to live with and you clearly wouldn't do it if you had a choice. Tell her, that you are a daughter some mothers can only dream about and if she cannot appreciate all the effort you've put into trying to keep her happy, you mind as well quit being her daughter.My advice might sound harsh but she has undoubtedly been at least twice as harsh with you and a doze of reality would do her good. Which would do good to you yourself.Best of luck!
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