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writes:I've been giving advice on this website for a while now but eventually figured I need some help myself.To start off, I am an 18-year-old bisexual guy and my sexuality is not really the problem in this case. I've been bisexual my whole life, started realizing it when I was 15 and came out to myself when I was 17.For quite a long period of time I've never actually thought of coming out to anyone, for I've always seen my sexuality as something that should stay between me and my current partner.Recently, I've started thinking of coming out to a friend of mine, though. That friend is a girl, if it makes any difference, and we are really close. She's one of my best friends. Heck, we even dated back when we were 12. And she might be bi-sexual herself, although that piece of knowledge has a question mark above it.We have many inside jokes, but it turns out we have no shared secrets, so I don't know if I can really trust her all that much, because what I don't want to happen is other people finding out about my sexuality, for I'm simply not ready for that step yet. Just to make it clear, I come from a rather intolerant society, so that's where the problem lays.So, my question is, should I come out to this friend, who is really an awesome person and knows almost everything about me, as well as I know almost everything about her, or rather not, for I'm afraid of other people finding out just yet?
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reader, groovymoving +, writes (29 August 2010):
groovymoving is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou hit the point, watsername23. What I need is someone I can talk to about my sexuality. You're probably right about not being ashamed, too. But I can't help the latter just yet.
I've actually known her since the age of 7, tennisstar88. That's more than 10 years. So I should trust her, and mostly I do, but...
About my preferences changing down the road, well, that's also something I'd like to share with someone, so not coming out only because of that is actually silly.
Thanks for the help. More advice is welcome. :)
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (29 August 2010):
 So you've known her for 5 years, but would you say you really know her? If you're a little wary with trusting her then I would listen to the part that is saying no. Reason being another guy on here came out to his best girl friend and she told everyone even his crush whom happened to be his best guy friend. But then again you can't hide who you are forever..You haven't been bisexual for very long, and your preference may change down the road...For now your partner and you are the only ones that need to know!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2010): If you say shes an awesome person and you know everything about her and vice versa, then I thnk you should tell her, especially if you need someone to talk to about this. You shouldnt be ashamed of your sexuality. And when you are ready to come out to more people, be proud, there are many closeted gays out there that feel all alone and if you come out you could help other people as well. Some people will hate you for being gay, while others will love and accept you for who you are. People shouldnt be labeled just because of their sexuality. Remember this and im sure you'll be fine. Good Luck:]
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