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writes:Hey I asked a question before about being nervous of giving oral sex http://www.dearcupid.org/question/fear-of-fellatio.htmlOkay I got over my fear and gave him a blowjob last night. He had his eyes closed through out and was moaning. My fear of what would happen came true and he did not come. Afterwards he tells me he had this problem when past g/f have gone down on him. He also said he doesn't masturbate but he did twice in the past week and he only came once (wtf) Anyway now I don't see the point of giving him oral sex, if he not going to come then whats the point? though he argues against my point. I'm also worried he is thinking of someone else when his eyes are closed.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (24 June 2010):
 In my experience, BJ's are usually foreplay, so I try not to cum during them. I've had a couple that were incredible and didn't orgasm. Nothing wrong with either of you, just go on exploring what you can with eachother.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (24 June 2010):
 M husband told me when we first started having sex that he had never cum from a BJ. Ever. It took a LOT of patience and creativity ;) but he sure doesn't have a problem any more.
Also I can recommend this book:
http://www.ticklekitty.com/base/content.asp?section=products&dir=products&page=book-tickle_his_pickle
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (24 June 2010):
 Perish the insecurity. Most guys close their eyes in that situation. They also don't always cum without a little stimulation by hand. Just enjoy giving it - I assure you he is enjoying it too!
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reader, groovymoving  +, writes (24 June 2010):
Listen, you do not have to bring him all the way through. Even though he did not come, he enjoyed it while it lasted. In other words, you did make him feel good and that's what really matters.
Besides:
a) You may not even like him to cum into your mouth or in your face or on your hand. But if he doesn't come, you stay clean while he still gets half of the pleasure.
b) Blowjobs are great as a means of foreplay. You can pleasure each other orally before the actual intercourse. It turns both of you on and you end up reaching a higher level of orgasm afterwards.
To put it short, I see no problem in him not cumming while you're blowing him as long as he enjoys the process of you doing so.
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