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writes:hey, right, i'm a girl and i'm gay. i have a gf who i've been with about 6 months. ive only recently come to terms with being gay myself really, and this is my first serious gay relationship. i really love my gf and have come to a stage where i want others to know. so far ive managed to tell my best friend, who took it extremely well and fully supports me.however, i really want to tell my other friends and possibly my family. it makes me feel sad that i have a wonderful part of my life which i can't even share with anyone. my mum is also getting pretty suspicious of me, not surprisingly because i keep sneaking out the house to spend nights with my gf! she actually thinks im doing drugs instead, giving that as an explanation for my shifty behaviour.i want to tell her the truth about me and my gf, i have no idea how she'll take it - i think most parents might be initially disappointed but i can't keep living a lie.so i guess the question is how do i even begin to tell her?! it's all very well to say, "just sit down and say it" but it's not really that easy. any tips on how i can break this to her and my other friends? thank you :)
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reader, groovymoving  +, writes (2 August 2010):
Before I carry on, LLindy87, homosexuality IS NOT a lifestyle choice. People do not choose what appeals to them and what doesn't.
Getting back to you, anonymous writer, people react differently. If the relationship with your mum is healthy, you probably know what her views on life are. If she's mostly open-minded, she'll most likely be the same around you, although not necessarily.
Maybe you can approach her by saying you're not doing drugs the next time she's suspecting it. Then you can carry on by saying that it's actually something rather beautiful. If you'll have the guts or simply the right feeling to carry on at that point, say you're seeing someone. Your mum should be rather relaxed at this moment and if you feel it's the right time, say that that someone you're seeing is a girl. Maybe it'll work, maybe it will not. I am probably not the right person to be telling you all this stuff, for I myself am a bisexual who hasn't told his parents about his orientation yet. But it's always easier so advice others, isn't it?
How did you tell that friend of yours? Rethink it and maybe you'll find that being the best way to come out to other people as well?
Anyway, I wish you luck abd hope you'll keep us informed. All the best!
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reader, LLindy87  +, writes (23 July 2010):
 maybe make small talk before hand about gay culture, like say you have a friend who is gay and see how she responds. That way you'll get an idea of her opinion of that lifestyle choice a bit. By that, you'll be able to tell if she'd take it well, ok, or badly.
I don't know how you can intially tell her about you, but I hope that helps you get an idea of how to approach her
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