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writes:[Mod Note - OP's own title]About a month ago I started to talk to a guy that I met online. When we talked on the phone, we really hit it off. When we finally met, our conversation flowed really well and we really have a lot in common. I have never clicked so well with a guy before. We think the same way and want the same things out of life and I think that I have found a good match for me. But there is something that is a little bit of a turn off for me and I have a problem getting past. He's a good looking guy. He's muscular and dresses well. But he has a very feminine voice. I didn't notice it when we were on the phone. But I notice it when we are face to face. It's strange talking to a man that looks very manly and hearing a soft feminine voice come out of his mouth. I don't know if I should talk to him about it, ignore it, or move on. I wish I could just ignore it because he's a really great guy, but I'm a little embarrassed when we go out and he talks. What do I do? Is this enough of a reason to pass over a really great guy? It's not everyday that you find someone who you click with and have good chemistry with. What do I do?
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reader, natmarie  +, writes (5 August 2010):
 You will get used ot it. if he is lovely - keep him. xx
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (5 August 2010):
 It really isn't that big an issue, but it depends on your tolerance levels. Just a reminder : guys worth keeping are hard to find.
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reader, groovymoving  +, writes (5 August 2010):
If you mention it to him, he'll either become really complexed about it or tell you he knows and carry on living a normal life. I'm afraid though, that the first situation is more likely to occur.
Now, no matter if you mention it to him or not, he seems to be just about perfect for you. If you like his personality and even his looks (which is actually of secundary importance), forget about the damn voice, for it is a completely pointless thing to be embarrassed by. If you dump him because of that, you'll keep regretting it.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (5 August 2010):
 Get over it...it's a dumb reason to ditch someone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2010): hmmmmm... every man has some turn downs in them... this one has "this".
i dont think, its very important point to take him off love..
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2010): If that is the only problem that he has, then ignore it. It might change over time, he may be uncomfortable speaking or something. You won't find a perfect person on the face of the earth btw
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