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Should I tell him I kissed another guy when I thought we weren't official?
Q. I have just started seeing this guy for just about a month, we weren't official and the other week I kissed a guy. didn't enjoy it as thinking shouldn't do this as seeing other guy. Had discussion with the person I'm seeing and we said we are now ...
A. 18 June 2009: Nah I wouldn't tell him! I've been in similar situations, just not worth the hassle, you've done nothing wrong so don't beat yourself up over it :) Good luck x... (read in full...)
How can I force my girlfriend into dropping some weight?
Q. Ive been dating my girlfriend off and on for two years. We are both in our 40's and she is a couple of years older than me and has two grown up kids. We get on really great and spend a lot of time together, although we don't live together. She is a...
A. 21 May 2009: I seriously hope this question is a joke.
I have been on the receiving end of a boyfriend who thought i was a 'little overweight'. He would tell me frequently how he thought I needed to lose weight (I feel I should add here that I was a UK size 12).... (read in full...)
Is this normal for a period?
Q. Hi.I had my last period,i think,about 3 weeks ago.It started on the 26th of April,and finished exactly a week later,and yesterday,i got the signs of another one starting.I usually get a brown discharge for a day or two before my period starts,then ...
A. 17 May 2009: Hey! I think the first you should do is go to your doctor regarding this. If you are repeatedly suffering from thrush they can help, I know as I have had similar problems in the past. They will also be able to offer some advice regarding your irr... (read in full...)
Do women find men drinking beer on a date unattractive?
Q. Hi, I'd like some advice from the ladies, please! Very simply - do women generally find it unattractive if a man's drinking beer on a date, or even at a social event? My female friends tell me this is the case, and that I should switch to wine...
A. 5 January 2009: Hello! Im a 22 year old woman, and if I went on a date with you and you drank beer all night I wouldnt care less! What a man drinks does not determine the way I feel about him (unless he gets that drunk I have to carry him home lol). I would ... (read in full...)
Would stretch marks and odd-shaped nipples put a girl off me?
Q. I'm not large or what ever term you want to use for being heavy.However I do have small stretch mark scars on the underside of my arm and on my shoulder. 1)Is that odd or bad? 2)Would a girl be turned off entirely? Well this question will soun...
A. 4 January 2009: Hello,
I personally would say no to all your questions!! I honnestly think that when you care about someone enough you dont care about their flaws, you look past them because you care so much about that person!
Without going into detail, I went out... (read in full...)
Love at first sight - do you believe?
Q. do you guys believe in love at first sight? ...
A. 3 January 2009: Personally, no I dont. I believe (as some others have said) that it is LUST at first sight. The little butterflies in your tummy come from the sexual attraction to that person, not out of love.
Love is something that can definately grow from this... (read in full...)
Guys, girls, I need your insight on my situation with my longtime crush.
Q. Hey. I'm a common 18 year old girl that has been plunged into the depths of lovesickness! I'm in desperate need of love advice - so please help me if you can! Here's my question... Ever since I was 7, I've really REALLY liked this guy tha...
A. 3 January 2009: Hello, thank u for the follow up here, I was interested to see what kind of contact you still have.
I suggest you start with baby steps here, like maybe you could just send him a casual message on facebook - Hi how are you doing these days, feel... (read in full...)
Guys, girls, I need your insight on my situation with my longtime crush.
Q. Hey. I'm a common 18 year old girl that has been plunged into the depths of lovesickness! I'm in desperate need of love advice - so please help me if you can! Here's my question... Ever since I was 7, I've really REALLY liked this guy tha...
A. 2 January 2009: Hi hun!
Well, I have read everything here, and I would agree with another's opinion that you are a shy person. Nothing wrong with that mind!
Ok, you're 18, studying to be a barrister, it sounds like your really achieving the things you want - I... (read in full...)
Mixed signals after first date
Q. ok here goes..went out on somewhat of a blind date that was set up by a mutal friend..it wasn't so much blind b/c we exchanged pics and there was a mutal attraction. the date went great..we laughed and really hit it off..when i got home, she texted ...
A. 2 January 2009: Hello, I think she's just playing it cool. I see you made reference to you saying something about preferring phone calls to texts. I think she's just thinking 'I shouldnt text him too much, he's not into tetxs'. Ive been the girl in this situation, ... (read in full...)
Can women and men just be friends?
Q. does anyone think men and women can just be friends?...
A. 24 December 2008: Yes they can!
I have many friends who are the opposite sex (actually, most of them are). The problem can arrise if one person thinks that it is more than a friendship, or has feelings for the other and is unable to keep them in check.
I would... (read in full...)
Is he justified in making my life hell because he 'loves' me?
Q. Well theres this guy I work with hes 30, I'm 19, was 18 at the time. He kinda manipulated me into a 'relationship', making me feel sorry for him, etc. He used to accuse me of sleeping with guys, having AIDs,go through my bag and my phone, he was ...
A. 22 December 2008: Hi, this sounds like an awful situation hun, it must be really hard for you right now! Firstly, this is NOT your fault. This is a man who's clearly a little bit unhinged (thats the nicest way for me to put it!!). He's the kind who wants to possess ... (read in full...)
Me and my boyfriend constantly have arguments about facebook!
Q. Basically me and my boyfriend always have arguements about facebook because he thinks I have loads of 'random' guys on their which i don't, they are all people I know from work or school. but he got really annoyed yesterday just because i accepted a ...
A. 18 December 2008: Hey, This kind of behaviour would worry me personally. Guys like this are insanely jealous, and will convince you that you're doing something wrong. I dont think having old school/work friends on facebook is wrong in anyway. Everyone does it, its ... (read in full...)
Looking for contraception that will stop me bleeding all the time.
Q. Please help me... I am 31 and have 2 children age 8 and 4. I am trying to find a contraception that will stop my constant bleeding. I tried the injection for 9 months and bled all the time, so I am now on the mini pill and this is even worse!! Any ...
A. 10 December 2008: Hello,
First of all, I would reccomend that you head down to the doctors and ask them for some advice. Obviously they are qualified to give this advice, and are probably used to these kind of problems. If they havent already, Im sure they will carr... (read in full...)
Period pain/cramp.
Q. I'm 16 and I started my period when I was 12 and every month I have unbearable pains I think it's geting worse every time. I always miss a day off school if I start on a school day. I cry out in pain and throw up all day. I've taken (at different ...
A. 6 December 2008: Hello,
I used to have this exact problem as you when I was younger. Eventually the doctor put me on the pill when I was 14. To be fair, it really worked for me. The pain was so much less than before. It might not be the choice for everyone, but it m... (read in full...)
How can I break his heart into tiny little pieces?
Q. Hey I'd really like a male perspective on my problem but would also appreciate female feedback as well... I've been in an on and off again realtionship with my daughter's father, during one of our "breakups" he decided to go and have another ...
A. 4 December 2008: Hello,
Im sorry you're having to go through this, must be very painful. But Iam going to pass on some advice that a close friend once said to me:
"The best revenge is your own happiness."
If you want to get revenge and break his heart I suggest yo... (read in full...)
Are guys like wolves on online dating sites? It's unbelievably hard being a woman!
Q. I tried an online dating site. Out of curiosity I set up a fake female profile to see what it's like from their end. It's absolutely ridiculous! What an eye-opening experience. I got bombarded by messages. The guys were almost like wolves. It...
A. 28 November 2008: Haha! Being a female who has recently joined a dating site, I laughed a lot at this post!! Yes men are really like this on dating sites. I actually dont bother to read much mail now, and I go looking for them, and I message them. But to ... (read in full...)
I think about him every day and I can't move on....
Q. First let me appologise because this may be long but i really need advice because i don't know what to do anymore!i was in a relationship with guy i met in college, we were together for over a year and it was the best time of my life i really cared ...
A. 23 November 2008: Aww hun Im sorry you're going through something like this. Unfortunately I dont have a miracle solution to this problem. The only thing that works in this situation is time. I know its been a year, but there are no rules as to how long it takes to... (read in full...)
Does the fact my girlfriend sleeps over a lot bad for our relationship?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for about 8 months now and we both love each other but she lives about 30 mins away and until a couple of months ago she didn't drive so she usually just spends the night about 3-4 nights a week. I'm 20 and she ...
A. 19 November 2008: woah! I think youve just glazed over a very important fact - she was pregnant?! what happened to the baby? Have you ever thought this may have had a big impact on her? Whether it was due to abortion or miscarriage, shes going to be distressed.
S... (read in full...)
The past is the past... why does he want to know?
Q. I have been dating someone for almost 8 months. I have never been unfaithful to him, nor in any of my other relationships. I do not carry myself in a classless manner, and I have respect for myself. However, he has been asking how many men I h...
A. 18 November 2008: Men are a bit pathetic about this sometimes (im sorry guys, you are lol).
A friend of mine once told her bf how many guys she'd been with and it pretty much ended up the relationship as he couldnt handle it was more than him.
I dont think you shou... (read in full...)
In school I love History, and now I'm thinking about career choices...
Q. Hello. I am currently a first year university student in London studying History. I love history and am really passionate about the subject but have lately been thinking I might like to go in to either police work or social work. What would I ...
A. 18 November 2008: Hello, I would suggest you visit your careers department (im sure every uni has one!). To get into social work you need to have a degree in it. I know this as a friend spent 3 years doing a criminology degree, and has spent another 2 years doing th... (read in full...)
A survey on family household stuff...for school, and I need your answers.
Q. Hey guys! I'm doing a survey in school + need as many people as possible to take part, it's okay if it's not allowed to be asked on here.. but if it is, could you please answer these questions with who you think should do these things? m = man, w = ...
A. 16 November 2008: All: both
:)
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My new workmates aren't very nice... should I get a new job?
Q. hi, i've just started work three weeks ago at a new place. on my first day, when i was introduced to colleagues, they just looked up from their work and nodded. there are five people i have to work directly with, only one of whom is friendly. the ...
A. 7 November 2008: I have to say, I was in a similar situation a few months ago. So I would suggest a couple of things: I presume from your question that you're a temp? This means that this job is only temporary, so you wont be there forever. You will make friend... (read in full...)
Online Dating Makes Me Feel Sleazy
Q. I recently joined a site called fling.com. I am a very busy person with tons of responsibilities and of course like most women I have complex about my looks. Sometimes I feel unattractive and other times I feel good. Anyways, my sex life hasn...
A. 5 November 2008: Hey, I dont think youre sleasy at all. If you dont want a bf then fine- who says you need one?! I just think that you should be very careful as these guys could literally be ANYONE, so if youre going to have one night stands through the internet ... (read in full...)
Since we moved in together he is never "in the mood" anymore, why??
Q. Hopefully somebody has an original answer!! I've been with my boyfriend for about 19 months now. We moved in together 2 months ago, and since that time our sex life has decreased pretty drastically. I find myself wanting sex fairly regularly...
A. 5 November 2008: Hmmm.. have you tried talking to him about it? Like sitting down and telling him how youre feeling (without any accusations etc) and say youre worried what it means for your relationship. Youre going to have to make sure you do it in a way where he ... (read in full...)
I like a girl in my seminars and want us to be friends but how do I approach her without giving the wrong idea?
Q. There is a girl in one of my seminars in university who I would like to get to know better - but only as a friend. We worked together for the first time on Friday and she seemed really intelligent and thoughtful and a nice person. Unfort...
A. 2 November 2008: I would maybe suggest that you ask her if shes on facebook or something, add her and start talking that way.
Also, if youre in seminars together you could always ask if she wants to go for a coffee afterwards (if you have free time after them).
If... (read in full...)
Why do women rationalise their cheating?
Q. Why do women Rationalise their cheating? Men cheat a lot more than women but at the very least they know what they're doing is wrong. When a man is generally caught cheating, whether he cares or not, he's not going to argue about what he's done, but ...
A. 1 November 2008: Hmmm... well, this may be due to something that society teaches us. Men cheating is something that is almost seen as normal, as you nearly touch on in your question. Society (and women) will almost (I do say almost) expect it. A lot of the time ... (read in full...)
How can I get rid of the excess fat on my belly?
Q. ok. im 16 years old im about 5ft5 / 5ft6? and i weigh 10stone... FAT I KNOW! what is the best way to get rid of my fatty belly, and tone it up if not get a 6pack abs? i dont want to go to the gym. i would rather do it at home or on the park...
A. 23 October 2008: Trust me that isnt fat, I'm smaller and weigh more and I know I'm not fat lol.
But I can understand when you have one bit of your body you want to improve on. I would suggest you cut of the rubbish bits from your diet, and eat more healthier. As f... (read in full...)
It's killing me waiting for her to move on....
Q. My gf and I broke up 6 weeks ago. She hasn’t gotten over it (i.e. she keeps sending me emails and we keep “accidently” running into each other) and I miss her a lot. I don’t think she’s the one (she's not a life partner - too irresponsible, ...
A. 23 October 2008: well, if you really want her to stop contacting you i suggest you block her emails, calls, etc and change your patterns of behaviour so she wont know where u are on which days etc. Thats my most practical answer. But maybe you could talk to her and ... (read in full...)
Should i change myself for him?
Q. I am 17 years old and fell for a friend of mine (23 years old). i just recently found out that he has feelings for me too. i have liked him for a long time and would really like for us to start a relationship together. the reason i fell for him in ...
A. 16 August 2007: I dont think you could behave more maturely even if you were trying, you're seventeen and therefore are bound to behave like a seventeen year old!! It would be very hard to constantly try to act more mature, and in the end you'd be unnatural and not ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I'm happy being with her or not, but she's blindly in love with me! What should I do?
Q. Hi all.. I have a question which i may already know the answer to but reading thru other peoples similar problems i really need to ask.. I am in my mid 20's and i have been in a relationship with a girl who is 19 (im not sure age matters but hey...
A. 20 June 2007: I have been in a similar situation. With me, I went from not knowing how I felt, to knowing I didnt want to be in the relationship anymore but having committed so much (i.e. living together) it was harder. I think you know you need to just be ... (read in full...)
What is going on with him? And why hasnt he asked me out?
Q. There is this guy from my workplace who had been showing an interest in me since before Xmas. He would always stare at me and smile when I walked in the room. He would also sometimes rub my shoulder. Although I was always polite and professional ...
A. 15 June 2007: Have you considered this guy maybe shy? Maybe you should just try talking to him more, or even ask him out yourself. Considering you dont talk much right now, you probably dont have much to lose. Take care xxx... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to marry my ex best friend's ex husband?
Q. Am I wrong to marry my ex best friend's ex husband? I was her maid of honor in her weddng 12 years ago.I always been a good friend always giving not recieving.but thats ok.We stop takin 2 years ago. One day he asked me out on a friendly date I said ...
A. 15 June 2007: If Im honnest, no, I dont think youre wrong. Youve met this person and fell in love. Youre not even friends with your ex friend anymore. Please try not to feel bad, thats just the way life goes sometime. You should feel happy youve met someone you ... (read in full...)
Should I have sex with him even although I'm only 15 and don't want to yet?
Q. i have been wiv my boyfriend for about 2 years and we havn't had sex yet because i think am too young (am 15) we're both virgins and i think he wants to have sex do u think i should or not even though i dont want to yet?...
A. 15 June 2007: I think you already know the answer to this. If you dont want to, you shouldnt. Dont be pressured, and dont rush things, take care xxx... (read in full...)
Can anybody tell me why men are such commitment phobes and why they like to lead women on?
Q. Can anybody tell me why men are such commitment phobes and why they like to lead women on?...
A. 15 June 2007: Its not just men, its women too. Im scared to death of commitment! People get scared, thats life. Im sorry I cant be much more help! Take care xxx... (read in full...)
I lost my virginity a couple of weeks ago and ever since I've been pissing blood is this normal?
Q. erm I lost my virginity a couple of weeks ago and ever since I've been pissing blood is this normal? ...
A. 15 June 2007: Erm, I know Im not male, but is pissing blood ever normal? You need to see your GP, just to get checked out. Theres probably a variety of things that could have caused it, but you should see medical attention. Take care xxx... (read in full...)
I cried the day she called me telling me she lost her virginity (during Holy Week, too).
Q. I have a friend who is really pissed at me, and I understand; but she doesn't understand me. I haven't spoken to her since March of this year. She's tried calling me, I avoid her calls... and when I moved away, I disappeared from the world. Now, the ...
A. 15 June 2007: Hmmm... thats quite tricky.
Ok well you have to ask yourself, do you still want her in your life? If no, then move on. If yes, youre going to have to deal with this somehow.
Your friend might simply be the kind of girl who just loves sex, which is... (read in full...)
Would it hurt to lose my virginity when I'm drunk?
Q. I'm almost 17 and am ready to have sex. I'm going to be honest, I'm gorgeous and a party girl - so boys date me under the impression we'll have sex. Of course once they find out I'm a virgin they run. If I have never done anything beyond making out ...
A. 15 June 2007: No lectures here :)
Seriously though, I think you might regret it down the line. My own opinion on this is to wait unitl you find someone who actually cares and wont run off just because youre a virgin. Dont rush things hun, Take care xxx... (read in full...)
My boyfriend forced me to have sex, but Im sure he didnt mean it, what should I do ?
Q. I love my boyfriend. I'm 16 and he's 22. I told him I wasn't ready for sex until I'm 18. He said he feels the same way and would never force me to do what I didn't want to. Well, that was a lie. He got drunk one night when I was over at his house ...
A. 15 June 2007: PLEASE get away from this relationship. He has raped you, plain and simple. There is a reason why youre scared. Please follow mine and everyone else's advice on this matter, tell someone and make sure youre safe. Take care xxx... (read in full...)
The girl used me as a rebound but I am in full denial
Q. hi problem started on the 02.02.06 the girl i like got with someone else. we were close at this point and she was torn between two of us. i slightly messed around with her making my feelings unclear . She was having a party it was my chance to tell ...
A. 14 June 2007: Thats rubbish, Im really sorry thats happened.
I think that you should maybe stop seeing this girl for a while. Yes, she probably was on the rebound. Im going to lie, theres a strong possibility thats all that will ever happen between the two of y... (read in full...)
I want to finish with my boyfriend
Q. I dont know where to start really... My boyfriend and i have been together for 2 years now and sinse i was 16. He was my first boyfriend, love and evrything even though we are both young recently we have started looking to move into our on place, ...
A. 14 June 2007: Honnesty. You need to tell him how you feel and do it before you start getting tied into living with him.
There is nothing wrong with you for feeling like this, even though he's trying to tell you otherwise. You need to simply say what you feel... (read in full...)
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