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writes:My girlfriend and I have been together for about 8 months now and we both love each other but she lives about 30 mins away and until a couple of months ago she didn't drive so she usually just spends the night about 3-4 nights a week. I'm 20 and she is 18, I live in my parent's house but they don't seem to mind that she stays. Do you think it is unhealthy for the relationship that she stays over? Sometimes I think I appreciate her less. She comes to my house from work and usually just wants to go to bed or well watch a little TV but that's all and since we're just hanging out in the bed doing nothing but watching TV I want to have sex but she's never really in the mood and doesn't initiate sex any more, but sometimes she gives in and then after I give her some she wants more. We started as a sexual relationship but we both wanted more. We use to have sex about 2-3 times a day and she would beg for me but now about 2-3 times a week and she is never in the mood. A couple months ago she got pregnant and she says that has a lot to do with it, she is now also on birth control, yasmin and I have read that that significantly decreases the libido. She says that sometimes she feels all I want from her is sex, but that is not true, however of course I do like it and would do it every chance I have but I really do love her. I will admit though I'm kind of a hypocrite, I don't really like girls who are are nymphos because I can't trust their faithfulness and am I trying to make my girl a nympho?.. any advice for me? Also she gets along with my parents very well and they like her.
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reader, wayblonde6 +, writes (19 November 2008):
What happened to the pregnancy?? That could affect a lot of things she is feeling
And somethimes even if shes not in the mood get her that way kiss he love on her do things that she likes focus on her a lot. ..
Your parents could be causeing her strtess..
I don't think it ruins someones relationship when they move in. I have a boyfrriendd and like after we became offical I pretty much lived with him. We had tons iof fun. So I guess it depends on the couple
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2008): REPLY..
we decided to get an abortion, and i was there with her through it. i do try to understand but i dont feel what women go through. this was about 4 months ago, and i think the yasmin is also affecting her libido and also she forgets sometimes and double doeses at night and she gets nausea and heacahes. i think i have made the relationship too much of a routine and do need to step some game up.
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reader, Gem86  +, writes (19 November 2008):
 woah! I think youve just glazed over a very important fact - she was pregnant?! what happened to the baby? Have you ever thought this may have had a big impact on her? Whether it was due to abortion or miscarriage, shes going to be distressed.
Shes telling you this is the reason, because it is. You need to give her lots of understanding at this time. She might need to see a professional too, to talk through it.
She probably wont want to have sex much lately, but you know 2-3 times a week is pretty normal. But as already said, you need to be very reassuring and understanding. Her sex drive will improve if she feels happy. I really hope you sort it out! Good Luck x
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (18 November 2008):
 Is she still pregnant? What happened with that?
I think that you have settled into this routine that is creating a total rut. It seems like neither of you are courting each other anymore. You need to up your game here, buddy and get her excited and sauced up again. This means being spontaneous and taking her on dates or buying her a flower just because. She probably feels like you're not even putting in any effort anymore, just hanging out and asking for sex when you get horny (which seems like often).
I'm not saying that your needs aren't completely normal and just as important as her needs, but it takes a different approach to get a woman into the mood. Give it a try.
Good luck!
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