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writes:I love my boyfriend. I'm 16 and he's 22. I told him I wasn't ready for sex until I'm 18. He said he feels the same way and would never force me to do what I didn't want to. Well, that was a lie. He got drunk one night when I was over at his house and he threw me to the floor and forced me to have sex with him. He kept saying he "loved me so much". I screamed NO, but he wouldn't stop.I don't know what to do. He doesn't seem to even remeber it happened (also I haven't comfronted him either). I love him, but I'm terrified that he might do it again. I don't want to get him in trouble, I'm sure he didn't mean it. What should I do?
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reader, willem  +, writes (15 June 2007):
 hi girl ,sorry to hear this. listen if he he did this once the change for a second time is 100%.... i feel sorry for u and this for your first time .he did rape u and this makes him a rapist ,my advice would to talk a adult that is close to u - that u can trust. this oke is a crimenal and u must get away from him and never trust a word he tells u............. he violated your personal body and nobody that loves someone will act like that .GET AWAY - FAR AWAY .trust me this oke will hurt u without thinking about it............................. GOOD LUCK AND REMEMBER NOT ALL PPL ARE LIKE HIM
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2007): no way can you stay with him tell someone, your 16 just like me and i no when your young its so hard to think the guy you love doesnt love you, ive bin going out with this guy and last night he asked me to have sex with him because i love him i said yeh but in morning i woke up and thought noway so i rang him and said sorri i cant he just 2months older then me but still losing your virginity is a major thing especially if your a girl, when i told him he said i have let me down but he didnt say your dumped which makes me feel as though maybe there is something there but im not ganna get hung up on him cause nothing lasts for ever so plz tell someone what has happned because he is going to take advantage of u. tc xxx
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reader, Straight Up  +, writes (15 June 2007):
 Leave him asap his dangerous. plz leave him i fear for your safety. i heard that you love him but you will get over him. take all of are advice and get out of there
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reader, Gem86 +, writes (15 June 2007):
 PLEASE get away from this relationship. He has raped you, plain and simple. There is a reason why youre scared. Please follow mine and everyone else's advice on this matter, tell someone and make sure youre safe. Take care xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2007): I feel so sad reading this. Your boyfriend has raped you and you appear to be sticking up for him. This man does not respect you or love you. No one could ever do that to someone they loved. Please please tell someone, he will do it again, if not to you, to someone else xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2007): He meant to do this, 100%. When you're drunk your true feelings show, and what he wants you for is sex. He raped you, & he kept saying he loves you so that you didn't stop him or do something afterwards. I bet after he came, he held you & said he loved you right? He is using you. He thinks of you as a little niave child. You're only 16. He's 22. That says something about him right there. Why did he go after a 16 year old & not someone his own age? Because he knows a 16 year old is an easy target, easier to manipulate. And he is lieing about not remembering anything. I have drank a fifth of liquor, and remembered having sex that night. If he is blacking out while drunk that just makes him an even more dangerous man. But I doubt that he didn't remember it. That's his easy way out, and it just prooves that he thinks you're a stupid kid. And you are...because you're putting up with this. And you haven't even confronted him about it. You're just going to let him do it again, what if he has an std, aids, or gets you pregnant?? You know what he'll say then "I never had sex with you, you must be screwing other guys" Get the hell out before something really bad happens to you. If I were you, I would have stabbed him with a butcher knife after he raped me. Then I'd have him thrown in jail. But that's me. Don't let him use you, don't let him get away with RAPE!! Please, for the sake of other girls out there, have him punished!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2007): Listen carefully, if this guy loved you like he says he does he would never have done that. He would have respected ur wishes, this a relationship u really need to get away from, ur so young!! I agree with the other response, i don't think u will get this man into trouble, u should though. Don't excuse it because he was drunk, it's totally unacceptable behaviour. do the right thing, don't let him pull the wool over ur eyes, find a man who will treat you with respect, i'm sure u deserve better. xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2007): The bare fact that he got drunk and does not remember is a cause for concern you should let him know what happened as well as how you feel about what happened. You should never be disrespected by someone who loves you drunk or sober.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2007): You need to tell someone asap. This boy, whether your boyfriend or not, has raped you! Being drunk is NOT an excuse. You said no and you weren't ready, but he forced you to have sex against your wishes. This is rape! It is very convenient for him to pretend his doesnt remember anything, he got what he wanted. You have every right to be terrified he will do it again, because he probably will. I know you don't want to get him into trouble, but you must tell someone before he hurts you again. He used emotional blackmail (telling you he loves you) to get what he wanted - sex. This is not love, and I doubt he loves you, just used you for sex. Yes, he meant it. He knew exactly what he was doing. Please get some help, tell your mum, an adult friend or teacher and tell them NOW!
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reader, NuVu +, writes (14 June 2007):
Lets call this what it is. Rape.
You may not be the first person he's done this to. He belongs behind bars, and frankly that would be the best thing before he does this again. However, it sounds like your not going to get him in trouble, so at the very least you need to stay as far away from him as possible.
I cannot be more clear about his.... STAY AWAY FROM HIM.
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