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writes: ok here goes..went out on somewhat of a blind date that was set up by a mutal friend..it wasn't so much blind b/c we exchanged pics and there was a mutal attraction. the date went great..we laughed and really hit it off..when i got home, she texted me and said that i was an amazing guy, great looking and that she was pleasently surprised by how well it went..the next morning she was still texting me how she was thiking about me and really was excited about getting to know me..we texted back and forth all day..that night i went to work, she asked if i was having a good night and we sent a few nice texts back and forth..i asked if she wanted to do something on the weekend and she said lets play it by ear..i called her when i got home and she called me right back and we talked for a few minutes..it has been two days and i haven't heard anything from here though except a generic text that she sent out to all of her friends saying happy new year..what exactly is going on here? she was like really really into this before we met b/c we had great conversation, she was really into it the day after we met..now it seems like she is really not intrested..how should i take this? we spoke for about a week before we met and this girl swore up and down that her honesty and bluntness about how feelings were her best trait..we both said NO GAMES..I feel like im in a game a little and slightly confused
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (2 January 2009):
 How about a good old fashioned phone call. Call her up and ask her out on a date. Girls still do want the guy to initiate things. Maybe she is waiting to see just how much you are into her before she puts out any further emotions...
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reader, Gem86  +, writes (2 January 2009):
 Hello, I think she's just playing it cool. I see you made reference to you saying something about preferring phone calls to texts. I think she's just thinking 'I shouldnt text him too much, he's not into tetxs'. Ive been the girl in this situation, my bf said he wasnt a texty type, so I resisted and stopped texting him as much. She probably thinks she's doing what you want lol.
So as everyone else has said, dont panic! Maybe you should leave it another day, then casually ask her out again sometime? You could it either by text, or phone call, whichever you think she'd prefer (I dont know this girl so I couldnt say which). Her reaction will show if shes lost interest.
I think sometimes people read too much into texts etc. I think you really know how someone feels about you when you're with them. If she was into before, Im sure she still is. Just relax a little bit :) I hope I have helped bit, all the best! x
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (2 January 2009):
don't panic! it just sounds like she is playing it cool and not making herself look desperate.
it's kinda like what some guys do, one min they are always texting and calling and another min they just stop for a few days.
whatever you do don't pester her by keep texting her. that just gets annoying and comes across like you are too needy and clingy. just maybe drop her a text saying how r u, was wondering if you are free at the weekend. then wait for her to get back to you, even if it takes a few days. if she likes you she will respond.
remember you are only dating at this point, you are not official, so she does not have to reply to every text,call you make.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2009): I do like her alot..I am a little worried maybe i came on too strong..after our date, she opened up and said she really liked me, she was really thinking about me during the day, ect..i responded with the same, which maybe i should not have done..we had the conversation about jumping in too fast and we both agreed..however, the strange part is that before we met and the day after the first date she was so talkative..asking me about my day, my plans, how my day was going..i think i might have messed up b/c at one point i told her in a joking way that texts are so impersonal and i'd rather get a phone call if she's thinking about me..well , after that, i really haven't gotten many texts lol..and she somewhat bought it up on new years b/c i texted her happy new year, don't be a stranger and how come i haven't heard from her like i did in the previous days..she somewhat made a little joke like well you said you didn't want texts ..which is not what i said, but guess she took it as such..i dunno all in all i kinda feel like maybe a few little things said here and there she might have lost some intrest
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reader, shiraz +, writes (2 January 2009):
dont panick, i thnk she really likes you. your going to have to take into account its new year, a busy time where you have to jam everything in, family friends parties etc everyone has a lot on and although you may think shes lost interest i get the impression shes just not had time. theres two ways of looking at in, the negative and the positive- take notes off each and add them up. its obvious she likes you and given time i think shell get back to you, and maybe you can make something of the new year...? she may be worried she came on too strong too soon or that your not that interested you both need to talk and get to know each other more. youve been honest and open so far and both of you should keep that up in order to gain a relationship (you both seem to want).
dont give up straight away, i understand your worried about it all being a game but sometimes you have to look at both sides and its not always the same! play it off a little like wait for her to call and see how she is with you take it from there dont jump in too deep.
i know you may be thinking its a waiting game but you seem to really like her so the wai might be worth it. play it from here and see how it goes,dont give up unless you feel its over. you deserve happiness so go get it! xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2009): That has happened to me and i've actually don't that too. It does seem like you hit it off and both like eachother. Give it another day or two and then see what's up with her. But from what I see... She's in to you. Some people just don't want to seem like they're coming on too strong. Things take time. Don't give up yet.
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