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writes:i posted a question to you yesturday asking if 6-8 bottles of alcohol a weekend,every weekend was too much.firstly i would like to thank everyone who replied to my question,your advice was very much appreciated.i shown my husband the question i posted to you in an attempt to make him realise how much it was upsetting and frustrating me and he wasnt very happy with me.he said i made out that he was drinking big bottles of alcohol every week end so the advice i recieved did not apply to him as he doesnt drink big bottles.i would like to ask the question again,this time stating that he is drinking 6-8 standard bottles of becks at the week end,every weekend,usually at home starting late afternoon.is this still to much?? or is it just me because i dont drink? i would appreciate any advice. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2007): Thats not too much but you have a right to be concerned as it can lead to alcoholism, if he builds a tolerance up and then has to keep drinking more and more to feel a buzz. Then you have a problem. I just watched that happen to a good friend of mine and she almost died twice from alcoholism.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2007): Personally I don't think it is a high amount, he obviously likes to drink a little and it takes him that many bottles to get feeling how he wants to feel.
If you want to get technical about it, each bottle is what, 2 units of alcohol? The government recommends that a man shouldn't drink more than 20 units of alcohol a week (1 Unit = half a pint of beer). However, binge drinking is classed as drinking 10 units in any one session.
I took these stats from BBC News
. Over 90% of British adults drink alcohol
. One in three men drink more than they should
Maybe your husband enjoys using alcohol to relax after a week and it is something to have over the weekend? He's far from alone.
I have to say, I'm not surprised your husband wasn't too happy with you for posting about his drinking on the Internet. I personally think there are far worse things a husband could do than drink "6 - 8" bottles of beer at the weekend. The only bad thing about drinking that much beer is that it is pretty fattening, but at the same time it is probably relaxing and de-stressing him from his week so can do him a lot of good. How would you feel about being a nice wife and the next time you notice his bottle is running low, instead of complaining on the Internet about him, instead offer to get him a beer from the fridge. It'll do far better for your marriage.
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reader, kaylaaarg  +, writes (18 July 2007):
Are you kidding?! 6-8 bottles a week is nothing! I can understand you feel uncomfortable since you have never seen him drink often before, but come on. I'm from Australia and your husband sounds like he is acting like a typical Australian bloke, even though he isn't one.
Both of my parents came from the UK to Australia and I have to say, they drink more than 6-8 bottles a week! I have never viewed it as an issue because they pay the bills, provided well for their children, held down their jobs, never got violent or abusive etc. Am I right to assume he is still being a good husband, a good provider for the family?
Have you considered joining him in a few drinks? Perhaps not 6-8 bottles, but you should enjoy 1-2 of something girly.
Kayla
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reader, chrissy32789  +, writes (18 July 2007):
 I dont think that 6-8 bottles a weekend is bad at all. And honestly i would not worrie about it as long as he is not very angry when he drinks, if he just sits back and drinks and you all have a good time then i wouldnt bother with it, but if he is mean and angry then i would def. tell him about it..My husband drinks from 10am to 12am stright, friday night and sat. it upsets me that he does because i dont drink but he is not doing anything wrong so i just let it go..if it bothers you so much talk to him about it.
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reader, forgetmenot +, writes (18 July 2007):
 I'd be inclined to think that's a reasonable amount but clearly you're uncomfortable with it so maybe you guys could have a compromise of maybe one weekend a month or so where there isn't drinking.
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