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writes:I'm a 21 year old male.I've always been attracted to fat girls. The main trouble is, it's more than just a preference, I'm completely obsessed with the thought of them getting fatter, outgrowing clothes, getting stuck, breaking chairs usually ending in their humiliation.I've always struggled to get girls - normal sized girls who've liked me I've always found too slim to arouse me. I managed to get close to one girl who was plump but I'm sure she'd be horrified if she knew that I'd fantasized about her getting fatter, to the extent that I felt really guilty and started 'acting weird round her'. She lost a lot of weight over the course of a year or so and I no longer find myself anywhere near as physically attracted to her.I've never told any of my friends and family of my obsession (I'm a very shy person and my family has a very prudish attitude to sex). My friends have a very poor opinion of fat girls and I could not possibly live with the ridicule if any of them found out.Is there any way of losing a fetish, such as hypnosis or some other kind of therapy, or if not, what do you think I should do about my problem, which is severely stunting my lovelife?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2015): I am a 35 year old attractive, relatively fit, ivy league educated man. My mom was overweight (150lbs overweight) for most of her adult life. That is what I grew up seeing. Weather that is the reason or not, I am physically attracted to big full figured (250lbs) women. I love to go down and give oral sex to large women for hours. Larger women make me hard and horny. Unfortunately everything is not all about sex and it has gotten me into trouble in the past. I am a nice guy and I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. I really don't tell many people about my sexual desires because I don't think they will understand or they will judge me. I also don't think it is healthy to be obese and I have seen it take a toll on my mom's quality of life and happiness. However, I can't change the feelings and excitement I get when I see a large women. I am not attracted to skinny women.
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reader, virtualmannequin  +, writes (12 September 2011):
I know this post is old, but I think I may have some good advice-I think you have the same problem that men obsessed with women being fit and thin and big-breasted do- you should try to think more about a girl having substance rather than just appearence. You will be surprised how beautiful the love you feel for someone can make them. I am a fat woman myself, and I am with a man who loves me no matter if I gain or lose weight because he loves ME, not just the way my body looks right now. I hope you're not offended by what I am saying, I truly think it is endearing when a man can appreciate a big woman, but women are more than sex appeal. There is SO MUCH MORE to love than sex appeal!! And to be quite honest, dear, think about how feeding degrades women. It severely damages their health, turns them into sexual human vacuums, and implies that all they could possibly do to make themselves beautiful is to do these things that damage their bodies and sometimes their minds! Maybe putting things in a logical perspective will help. What I am saying is, it's okay that you have that fetish, but your partner can still be attractive without living out your fantasy. The more far-fetched ideas and concepts in porn and fetishism are make-believe and don't really belong in a close, intimate relationship with someone you love.
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reader, Eurannmmielh  +, writes (22 August 2011):
Man, for the ones that like thin girls ... gotto hell... I love fat girls, I think they are one million times prettier than any thin girl. In fact, I have a massive collection of pics of fat girls that are pretty beatiful.
Do not change things on you, do not force yout self, try to get the best of your imaginery... by the way, I do not get any erection by touching a girl, even if she is fat... I live with that, I only get an erection by watching them dressing...so is life wajajaj
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2011): You know what?? I don't think you should have to change. I have fantasized about being larger since i was little...I think some people are brn with tis fetish...I am an attractive 20 yr. old female, and love the idea of getting larger and having my belly rubbed...don't lose yourself just cause society tells you too, your special someone is out there. I'm still skinny wishing I was larger or could be accepted as larger lol :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2011): Ok, so a a bigger girl being only 26, some of these posts i just read well, to be honest make me feel lilke shit right now, like seriously counciling just because you like bigger girls??? thats just rude as shit so dont llisten to that, these are clearly people who are living as society tells them too trying to get thin girls, thats bullshit, do you and tell the resst of the people who dont like it to kiss your ass! if they love you they will accept your choices and if they dont they arent worth your time, oh there is so muc i cld go on saying but point being, you have the unusaual ability to make girls feel sexy, and wanted. comfortable! thats really hard to do being bigger. veryone has things that makes them nervous about themselves but thats natural. dont try to change yourself just be the best you, you can and you will be happy!
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reader, antoniodamian +, writes (29 June 2011):
You know what? I also have the exact same problem. And I'm not going to give you bull crap on "accepting yourself" because I know you don't want to, neither do I, see I like fat women too and find them very attractive, basically have the same fetish you do, but I would advise trying to fix the problem, my problem is though that right now I have the opportunity to change it, since I can force myself to like thinner women, and I believe you can too, you just need to try, and I also believe that pornography got you into this problem, because the more and more you would look up fat and fattening porn the more you would find it attractive, so you can try therapy, or you could try to see what they do to change sexual orientation for gay people to become straight people, or you can try really hard to make yourself aroused to thinner women, this is going to sound perverted but start "looking up" thinner and thinner girls on your computer until you find them arousing, I would really like to break this thing myself, I don't hate fat women, I just hate the fact that I am attracted to them, and I want a thin girl so my family won't make fun of me for liking bigger girls, and I don't want to hear my friends ridicule me over the subject, I want to like thinner girls! and I know you do to, so you don't have to accept yourself or any bullshit, just look for help if that is what you want. and by the way, I made an account solely to help you with this problem!
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reader, zulu1 +, writes (17 February 2011):
i am a black male who is 30 and i have been with over 20 women of all races and sizes but not until my last relationship was it that i noticed that i had a type of woman. my girl at the time wasnt my type but i didnt know it, i guess i knew it deep inside but my mind found a way to completely block it, as a matter of fact she is the one that pointed it out and she used cruel words to express her feelings about larger women. needless to say i broke up with her to pursue my happiness s#*t im 30 i dont care what people think i love hott curvy women and one day i will marry one .theres nothing in the world like looking over at the one you are with and just getting lost in lust for that person i didnt have that with my ex. going back to me being black i hate it when i hear that all black men or most like fat girls cause i know plenty of brothas who like the skinny type and im glad to see that men from all around the globe are coming out and keepin it real...real manly
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2010): Well, if you want sex go find a chubby gal. If you want a long term relationship you must see her as a person and not a sex object. Many men wanted Marilyn Monroe but, just had "the girl next door" and learned to love her... not her body. I am wondering was your MOM fat? Was your MOM pregnant when you were 2 or 3 years old? Perhaps you are looking for your mom in your mate and remember her as very very big from your little child memory..they say we look for our parents in our mates. In the end after years of life it is who you are that matters not who people currently in your life think you should be.
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reader, ArsenalFC87 +, writes (30 November 2010):
 I can definitely relate to this article. While Im not into the deal of larger women getting larger or "gaining" and struggling with the weight (i.e. having trouble with clothes), and not into the feeding thing, i can definitely understand the humiliation of having lust for larger women and the internal ambivalence invovled.
Ive reflected on why i have these lustful feelings toward larger women and i think it has to do with the unabbreviated amount of femininity they physically exude and the ideology behind this. A woman's body to begin with is quite beautiful, but to have it physically amplified, especially with the more "curvy" parts, is something so arousing to some, that it seems to come directly from an intrinsic, animalistic sexual desire that few comprehend. To have your body uncontrollably dominated physically in the "feel good dept." by being engorged in female flesh is something so sexually stimulating that I often wonder why more guys arent into it. In my case I also become aroused when the woman is both larger in weight and in height. I have dubbed this an "Amazon Fetish".
Having these lustful thoughts about larger women makes me feel like such a perv and a complete tool. I am far too embarrassed to let anyone close to me know about these feelings because i fear the social repercussions would be grave. Im going to be honest, i am too an extent super-ficial, and i do care about what others think. Sue me.
I am in my last year of college and i wish i could start openly dating larger women without being hassled by friends and laughed at by people on campus, but unfortunately i live in the United States and that wont happen. Ive taken Cialis so many times or have pictured larger women, when ive hooked up with girls, just so that im able to stay physically aroused in order to perform up to par. There are times when i wish i could share these feelings with friends, but im afraid they'll look at me as some kind of neanderthal pervert and immediately judge me.
I definitely feel like some kind of closet freak and often wonder what's wrong with me. I also think about all the larger girls, whose feelings ive hurt because of my refusal to be openly exclusive with them. Im also afraid that if i do reach a point of being exclusive with a larger girl, and i convey to her that i have a thing for bigger women, she'll become totally insulted and creeped out at the same time. Its not like i would be with her strictly for the curves, i do have some depth to me believe it or not lol, but i feel like the curves would be an added bonus and if i shared that with her she'd be like " um eww, wtf is wrong with you" ya know?
What on earth should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2010): dude my bf is the same it didnt scare me AT ALL i like that he likes it because i feel hot , usually us fat girls feel like crap and guys like you make us feel hot :D. just go slowly with it and i think she'll be ok.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2010): I'm 19 from chicago.
I don't think there is anything wrong with the type of girls you like. I personally probably wouldn't gain weight for a boyfriend but would I let him enjoy my existing curves? totally. I'm not what most would consider fat. I'm not thin either. I'm thick and curvy and I've never really had trouble finding a date. Up until maybe about 3 years ago I was extremely self conscious. Starving myself, exercising too much, freaking out every time I went into a dressing room and something didn't fit. But yeah I gained weight since then since I don't starve myself anymore, but I feel I needed to just stop giving a fuck what others think. I think you should do the same. So what if your friends tease you about the kind of girls you like. As long as its teasing and doesn't cross the line into them being a flat out jerk, then they aren't you're real friends. If you'd like, keep the fetish about women gaining to yourself. Thats a secret for the bedroom anyway, no one except your partner needs to know that much. But the simple fact that you like full figured girls shouldn't matter. If they really freak out and don't want to be your friend, then why would you want them as your friend anyway? That action right there proves they weren't a true friend to begin with if it took something as small as that to convince them they couldn't be around you. I feel that girls that are bigger are more self conscious not only because of the distorted self image they have of themselves, but because they feel they have to hide themselves from the opposite sex. Give a pretty, thick girl that you like confidence, don't be afraid to show her off in front of family and friends, as long as your happy and not causing any sort of danger to yourself or her, then nothing else should matter. And fyi there are tons of men like you. All over myspace and all over free websites. Although I would never put on weight purposely, I can admit the idea arouses me. I don't think I'd enjoy the long term aspect of it. Once you gain alot of weight its just flat out hard to lose it all. And I don't know if I personally would like being bigger than my existing size because I'm pretty happy with my body. If you'd like to ask me anything about this kind of stuff feel free to email me [email address blocked].
I hope you find happiness within yourself and within the girl of your dreams :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2010): I am totally attracted to fat men. I have tried the average gym body and it does nothing for me. My problem is these men believe i am on games and not truly interested and i often get my heart broken. I have size but i am not fat per say. I often get the comments like, " What a beautiful woman like you will want with me and i am truly into these guys, but can i come out and say i love fat men without them being offended. I think not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2010): I can relate to the whole fat fetish thing; I am a slim, attractive female but get turned on by fat and used to fantasize about one of my friends (female) getting fatter and struggling to get into her clothes. I really like big bottoms and big bellies! I'm turned on by pregnancy too and the thought of being pregnant. Anyway- basically I think it's to do with an extreme form of femininity-and that's what men (and um lezzas) are attracted to-it's all about the curves and it's a sort of bondage type thing too- i.e. losing control of your body- not being able to stop it growing- so pregnancy and not being able to get into clothes, getting stuck in chairs- I think people are turned on (some people) by other people losing control- which I suppose is linked to rape in a way- albeit in a sort less extreme way. So it's about control and exploitation and for some people it's just about the curves- the shape the rotundity- so the opposite of male- which when fit and not overweight is angular.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2010): Men who are "feeders" get a sexual kick out of controlling fat women and also get a huge kick out of knowing that while they are getting fatter they are also harming themselves physically in a potentially life-threatening way... and it is this power which turns the feeder on. Also the bigger the woman the more dependent they will become on the "feeder". V different to someone who just likes fat women. Def needs therapy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2010): I have the same problem, I'm a young man who finds myself heavily attracted to women bigger bodies, but I want to get rid of this fetish. The thing is, I KNOW myself well enough that I WOULDN'T force a woman to gain weight for me, that I care more about character more then bodies, I wouldn't try to look at fat women naked and I know that it's just a preference, and it shouldn't matter. However, all the same, it bothers me. This makes me feel horrible and strange, and I don't like the feeling one bit.
I can't confess it to my family... that would be embarrassing for me and them, and I don't want to put them through emotional turmoil. I can't confess it to my friends, I might lose them if I did. I can't even talk on an anomynous help line, cause it'd be hard to talk about. so I've had to deal with it myself.
From one man to another, here's my advice: there's nothing wrong with liking fat women, but don't let your obsession control you. Don't be devoting much brain space to fat women, try not to fatten up a girlfriend because you think it looks sexy and don't go online searching up pictures for eye candy. Control your obsession, and don't let it take over your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2010): Maybe you like big women because you think that your family and friends don't like them? Similar to why teens like alcohol? Because it's the taboo thing to do. When your family and friends accept you dating a "fat" girl, you won't like them anymore. And before anyone gets offended, I'm a fat girl.
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reader, JBPat +, writes (2 June 2010):
Therapy? Hypnosis? I'm like you- I realized that fatter girls are incredibly more sexy in comparison to thin girls- and I love seeing a girl get fatter. I'm a very nice person, and respect women completely and would never force something on them- that would technically be rape. Ever since I was a child I loved the idea of getting... Bigger... Only recently I realized that I like fatter women.
Relax and don't become obsessed. Don't become obsessed over weight gain- and certainly don't become obsessed with your 'problem'. Take all the medication, hypnosis, and therapy you want- but it won't change who you are. You and your sexual attractions are there for good. Get used to it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2010): There's alot of fat girls out there,that think they can't get dates because they are fat, that might appreciate a guy that likes fat girls. My daughter is overweight, and so is her husband, but he told her he didn't care if she was fat. Of course, being too heavy causes health problems, such as high blood pressure, diabetes, varicose veins, knee problems dure to the extra weight,etc..etc...Everyone has their preferences. I like men who look like Elvis. From Michele
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2010): I have a fetish for Ukrainian and Russian women but you don't see me flying there all the time trying to get one (although I admit to going on dating sites and actually met someone there). If you like fat chicks and you picture them doing weird things(like getting fatter and fatter), that's ok. I picture myself in a Russian porn movie. I'ts all about following through. If you don't "force feed" a woman aka acting out your fetish in that manner you're ok. Just don't let it interfere with your normal life you freak! lol you're fine dude. I would'nt worry about it.
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reader, someguy041 +, writes (25 February 2010):
Im sorry to say your have a very serious problem. You inability to accept who u r will destroy your life, living a lie to stop your friends and family from thinking your weird or w.e the fact that you want to hypnotise yourself because your not mainstream is insane and ridiculous. Get over it be an adult and date a woman your attracted to i would like a women to gain for me but you cant ask that of them because its their body and its just wrong to expect someone to change their body for anyone but themselves. Im curious if the people during the renaissance had something wrong with their way of thinking, if u lived then and preffered skinny women would u want to hypnotise yourself to like bigger women? Ill bet u would. Its not your interests that bother you its how other people will react to your deviance that bothers you so much you need to not care about what people you know or society think about things that are just part of who u r. The only way of thinking you need to lose is how much you should affect the opinions of others run your life. Wake up. I remember feeling similiar to how you felt in 5th grade when i noticed this in myself and i dealt with it in 5th grade the longer you try to conceal yourself the harder your going to make it for yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010): it might help you to date someone slightly overweight, but not huge? You could find a balance between your day to day life and the opinions of your friends and family, and your fetish in the bedroom. I doubt you could get rid of it, these things are hard to run away from (lots of people accept as a society that gay people can't just turn straight, how could you just turn into someone turned on by skinny girls?). I think the best thing you can do is accept that you have the fetish, and try to balance your wants outside of the bedroom with the wants in.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2010): I wish there were more men who are into big girls. I'm a big girl, not humungus but not skinny at all. and I wish men who were into big girls would embrace it and come find me.
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reader, rebecca112345  +, writes (11 February 2010):
OK, while it's probably not likely you can revert a truly foundational sexual neurosis, I will make one thing clear. Men are aroused to fat women for one of two reasons 1. it makes them feel in control of another human being (because of the taboo against finding obese women attractive) 2. they get off on the humiliating aspect of obesity and are sadists. Not to be so simplistic as to suggest that either of these conditions are 'bad' or 'good' or even 'curable', I do want to point out (to the women who think they are being 'admired') that they are only plugging into a set of anxieties and psychological pathologies, not some 'new age' sort of think where they're like 'hey, I've just jettisoned all of society's mores and now I have a truly independent aesthetic (not possible' its a fantasy they are usign to escape low-self esteem or to indulge sadistic impulses. Again, not bad or good, but certainly not merely unproblematically 'celebrating' fat women.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2009): I know exactly what you meen i am the same way i think that it is something that you may have to try and get over yourself their may be the choice of hipnosis i dont know im not a professional, but its the way you feel, are yousure u want to change
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reader, lola1773 +, writes (18 June 2009):
I have an even bigger problem. I am a woman, who likes other obese women. I've only ever had sex with one fat girl, and it was amazing. I masturbate frequentley over 'fat porn', only women though. But I also have a normal sized boyfriend who I find attractive! I don't understand.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2009): i am the same i watch fat girl porn and i want to have sex with a fat gril and i don't feel bad about it love takes you any where
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reader, spitdat843 +, writes (28 January 2009):
i am in the same situation and i think the fear of mines is the level of obesity i am attracted to i am lucky to have a woman that agreed to gain weight but loose soon as she is uncomfortable but she also allows us to involve the fetsih in out sex life she massages me there and gives me oral sex while im watching videos of woman eating which if u can find someone like that it would be recommended also admiting to the fact that u like the size woman that u like to a woman is hard but it helps before she finds out see if shes open minded if not that fuck it yall aint gonna be happy anyway together ive realized that there isnt anything i can do but succum to this i personally know that i like woman that are huge and my wife sort of understands but she wants to learn more we pan to buy fetish literature which i recommend learn more about whatu are going thru
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reader, HHare +, writes (12 December 2008):
Wow! I love the web! Yeah dude I have the same feelings about big girls... I met a big girl on a net dating site and I bought her chocolates and ice cream and every date was a dinner-and-a-movie and then.... I realized I was gonna kill this poor girl! I loved the sex- all the motion in the ocean is awesome- but I had to come to terms with the fact that my feelings were not completely normal. Now I just like a girl who's about 10 lbs overweight. Maybe 15 lol.
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reader, shaolin36  +, writes (25 April 2008):
Buddy..
There's nothing wrong with having a "fetish" for fat women. They conducted a study in South Africa where "fat" women are preferred (like many other places) and they've found correlation that relate to fertility, health, and even how hungry a guy is, due to evolutionary instincts. That's just the way you are. It's not a fetish, it's just a preference. That's like wondering how you can stop liking women. There are guys out there that have "fetishes" for those skinny top model creatures. There are guys who have "fetishes" for muscular women. What's to set you apart from them, their not fetishes, their just preferences. That's like a women trying to find out how she can stop being attracted to men who are taller than her. On the other hand, about the humiliation thing and what not, I think that just requires some good old fashion mind control. I say you find yourself a woman of your preference and just go with the flow. And if she ever talks about losing weight for the sole purpose of aesthetics, let her firmly know that you love her just the way she is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): If you're looking at porn of fat women - stop. Get meds for OCD. Get into therapy. If you still want a fat woman for sex, make sure it's someone who either just wants to use you for sex or someone with whom you're truly compatible and can build a relationship with based on mutual love and trust. For heaven's sake, don't get into relationships with "normal-sized" women if you don't, in reality, find them sexually attractive, as it's tantamount to perpetrating a romantic fraud.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2008): Dude, you sound just like me. I've never told anyone about my fetish either. I'm a sucker for thick thighs in short shorts but I digress. While I believe saving one's self from persecution is good for your self-esteem, I think you should keep it. I bet you have no idea how many guys are in the same boat you're in. We are a minority, but we're here. What I want to know is, if you're old enough to make you're own decisions in life and can date who you want and such, why do you care what everyone else has to say? You're a grown man and it's your life! Just think about it...
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2007): Hey MartyI am sorry to hear the fetish is such a problem for you. I have a fetish for big men, and fantasize about them getting bigger and bursting their clothes. But I don't force it on anyone - or even share it with anyone (other than anonymously!). I had a chubby lover for a while and absolutely loved it! I told him how sexy he was, but I never encouraged him to gain more. I just let him be. I don't think he's very attractive to others, but who cares?From where I sit, the main things that would help you are (i) challenging your need for your friends and family to approve the look of someone you decide to be with and (ii) allowing your fetish to stay in the realm of fantasy. Best wishes!
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reader, forgetmenot +, writes (23 February 2007):
 Sorry Marty but it doesn't look like any of us here have much wisdom to share on this one. I hope you find the courage to talk this over with a therapist and can come to a soloution that makes you happy and comfortable with yourself :)
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reader, MartyFA +, writes (13 February 2007):
MartyFA is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe thing is I don't want to treat girls bad at all. I just look on at all my friends happily dating the kind of girl men are supposed to like and feel incredibly jealous, while I struggle to deal with these bizzare feelings.It isn't that I feel there is something wrong with fancying fat girls, it's just as a very shy guy I'd find it difficult enough to come out and admit to fancying any girl, let alone one which my family/friends might frown upon. As for me being a feeder, I would say that unless I am actively feeding someone, then I'm not a feeder, I just have some of the same urges. I would never actually fatten a girl unless I knew it was something she found to be a turn-on too. I am a very liberal person and the idea of controlling a girl really isn't me at all.I got into the early stages of a relationship with a fat girl and the feelings/urges remained, which scared me and forced me to back out; how do I stop this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2007): You sound like a guy who is a 'feeder' and this is a dangerous fetish. Check out the below link. It gives you a perspective from a large woman's point of view. I think counseling will help you.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-fiance-wont-marry-me-until-im-clinically.html
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reader, Dr. John +, writes (12 February 2007):
 There may be an underlying reason for this.
You may want to seek counceling and perhaps this will take care of the problem. Doc.
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reader, forgetmenot +, writes (12 February 2007):
Hey there :)
I think you're on the right track with the therapy idea. You're obviously bothered by your fetish and want to get a handle on it so it's not taking over your love/sex life so much. It'd be uncomfortable at first but once you find a therapist that suits you you'll be able to start understanding what's going on in your head and what's the best course of action for you personally. I don't know that hypnotherapy is neccisarily your best bet though. If you could bring yourself to do so, talking to your GP might be a good idea because they'd be able to put you in touch with the right type of therapist for your problem. Best of luck
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reader, Carina  +, writes (12 February 2007):
 Well, I'm speaking as a large woman and it's lovely when you find men out there who really appreciate us! You're right though that wanting them to get fatter and fatter is a bit of a fetish. It seems that you are turned on by the idea of controlling and slightly humiliating them. I think part of the problem is that you feel there is something wrong with fancying fat women and that's probably why you feel a need to treat them 'badly'. I suggest that you ignore what other people think and be yourself. There are many men who feel as you do. Check out the dating sites for larger women on the internet. There are lots! Go with your feelings and relax about it. Get into a relationship with a gorgeous bigger woman and enjoy it! Think of all the wonderful big women out there for you to love. I'm certain the obsessions will fade if you stop worrying about it, or at least they will be channelled into a comfortable fun sex life.
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reader, CarrieMagdelene +, writes (12 February 2007):
 I actually find this a little refreshing, lol. My boyfriend just told me he wouldn't stop me if I wanted to be bulimic or anorexic again, since I have gained ten pounds in the past three months due to my birth control. I sat there horrified, and I asked him if he was kidding. Nope, he said, I'd be worried, but it wouldn't bother me much.
As it being a fetish, this sounds a lot like a fetish to me! Fetishes aren't aways bad things. Just as long as you don't force feed her Ding Dongs and Ho Ho's all day until she gets stuck in your door trying to flee for Trim-Spa, baby, lol, you seem pretty safe. You could try seeing a therapist. He/she will decide what's right for you.
It's up to YOU, though. Remember that.
Loove! -Carrie
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