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writes: Hey, I like this guy, we get on well, he's hot we're dating... but....he really likes me. This may seem like an odd "problem" but it kinda freaks me out that he's just so open about it. He's always overdramatically going on to people about how great i am (both when im there and when im not) ...etc. It makes me feel uncomfortable i suppose, im more of a "play it cool" kinda girl. He's also quite clingy and we've only been dating a month. Why is he like that? Am i wrong to think that such words can't possibly be genuine?Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, I Dont Lie +, writes (12 January 2007):
 No i totally see where you're coming from. Its good to be sweet and nice to your partner, but when you'r overdoing it, it gets old really quickly. Now Im not condoning men who mistreat theyre partners, all Im saying is that too nice and too many compliments give off a too clingy, needy, unattractive vibe! A nice guy doesnt have to tell you he loves you every two seconds, calls you every minute, etc. However, as Jovial said, you should savour this as much as possible because he might be smitten by you now (initial stages of the relationship), but as time goes by, it'll die off more, which at that time, you will be posting us a question about why you arent getting enough attention from your guy who used to be so into you!
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reader, forgetmenot +, writes (12 January 2007):
 just take it slow and be careful. Guys who are really full on before they've had a chance to know you properly can be frivolous with their emotions. It could be genuine but only time will tell. Take things slow and don't get in too deep too soon and if he turns out to be full of it at least you won't get too hurt.
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (12 January 2007):
 let me answer this pessimistically although i do wish he was mine, please dont tell my beau i said that. just make sure he is for real, because i know most real guys if not all they are not that complementary. if a compliment was for sale my beau's was gonna be very expensive anyway enough of that.
the complementary guys i met in my time were all players and they were always available on call and always having plans for us when the rship was still new so i dont know how long u guys had been together if its new be very cautious it might end soon and you will wonder what did u do wrong. so enjoy it while it last i mean all this attention is good just be honest.
well, if he is for real, wow girl i dont know where you got him and if there are still some left many sisters will want to go there. so enjoy your fortune and make it work. irish is right follow her advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2007): wow! you don't like it..I would love it lol..really I wish my ex would have been like that..always talking about me..but I can put myself in your position and I can see what your saying..like it get's annoying sometimes..yea I see what ur saying well just tell him that you know you like how he talks about you to everyone because he adores you but let him know that you kno..it's kind of too much..it won't hurt his feelings..well I'm not sure because I don't know him but It shouldn't unless he's like really sensitive...but just let him know..talk to him..I'm sure he'll understand!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2007): Why is he like this? We really don't know for sure, dear but I am guessing, you got your hands on a genuine nice guy who knows how to treat a woman. He's open, honest and he's really, really into you. This site gets letters from so many woman who are heartbroken over the way they are being treated by the man in their life and would likely give their 'eyeteeth' to have a guy like this.
Why don't you give this guy some time. Contrary to popular belief, men are very interested in successful relationships. Many men will never pass up the chance to date the woman of their dreams. And so when a man does meet a great gal like you, his passion and zest for life, gets the better of him. He likes you, dear... a lot. Don't analyze and over react to his niceness. Sit back and enjoy what he's offering. I bet he's thinking 'this woman is pure quality.. I'm going to treat her right and do all I can to make her happy'. Wow! Give this time and keep getting to know him. You may never, ever regret it.
Good luck and remember...relax and enjoy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2007): wow, you women are never happy are you, complain if hes distant and say you dont get enough love, then you moan if he addores you and say you feel caged in.
maybe he has a past of rejection or bad relationships and is just so happy to be with you, maybe hes just enthusiatic, it might even be his first real relationship...maybe your just a great person. take the compliments. its when he starts following your everywhere is when you really worry.
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