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writes: Up until 2 months ago i hadnt had a girlfriend in a long time. So in order to relieve sexual tension i masturbated. Me and my girlfriend only started to have sex a couple of weeks ago and ive found it hard to feel it when my enter her. I heard that if you've been masturbating for so long that your penis becomes accustomed to your hand and that a vagina wouldnt be tight enough for you to reach orgasm.........it makes sense. I dont wanna upset my girlfriend coz she now thinks that she doesnt do it for me, but she really does, all i gotta do is think about her and i get hot. To fix this should i just abstain from masturbating completely? How long will it take b4 i "resensitise" my penis so that i'll feel it like im meant during sex?
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reader, scared16 +, writes (18 December 2006):
 try entering her more slowly this may help. also more forepley specifically her using her hands x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2006): I think you should sustain from masturbaton completely for awhile, and when having sex, be sure and have her stimualte you first with her hand or her mouth and concentrate on the sensations that brings for you.
During intercourse tell her what feels good, like maybe tightening her vaginal muscles when you are thrusting and movintg in a rhythmic manner....it takes some time for couples to learn how to pleasure each other, so just be patient and it will happen for you.
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reader, forgetmenot +, writes (18 December 2006):
 honestly if I was your gf and worryinging that I didn't do it for you, if you told me in the honest plain language that you've just told us here, I would be more likely to understand and not feel rejected and want to do whatever I can to make sex rock for you than if I didn't know that it was a sensation thing. Until you talk to her openly she'll think the problem is with her and hinting at "trying new things" might make her feel like you're bored with things. Being honest with her is the best way so long as you approach it with confidence and advoid acusative statements like "your not tight enough for me". Even just showing her exactly what you wrote could be good.
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reader, guylostinlove +, writes (17 December 2006):
The answer to this would be: foreplay! Foreplay is a mental and physical stimulation. If you prep enough during foreplay, regardless of if you feel it's not 'tight' enough .. the mental stimulation you've gotten beforehand will help bring you to orgasm. On the days that you know you're going to be having sex with her .. you might want to get some stimulation in during the day ... nothing that will bring you to a full orgasm. But, what it does is that when you do commence in the act with her, it will be easier to help you induce an orgasm because you've had the feeling/load build up prior.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2006): Buddy, I know what you mean. I would recomend trying a few diffrent positions instead of the missionary. Women come in all diffrent shapes and sizes and no two vaginas are the same so you would feel diffrent in different women.As for her not thinking that she does it for you, just hint about trying "new things" and I'm sure she'll get you "sorted" some way. I don't know if I would tell her that you don't get that feeling when having sex. Women are very conscientious about that area and she may think that your calling her a (excuse the term) "Bucket". Hope this can be of some help to you, the last bit is your choice depending on how sensative your lady is.Good luck
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