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writes:i am 23 years old guy and going to be 24 this December......and i am still a virgin....i masturbate when i feel turning on, but about sex with a girl(i feel like is it right to have sex with any girl who likes me, or to whom i like?)....doesn't she deserve better then sex? is sex is an answer to every love relationship? why every time people think being a virgin (for a guy like me at this age)is like being a loser??? have i did anything wrong as being a virgin? i want to have sex after marriage as i am a one woman man....
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2010): I'm 24 and still a virgin, I prefer to lose it with a virgin woman 18+, win-win for both
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reader, blackdelihla  +, writes (16 October 2010):
Dude that awesome! A guy who is still a virgin is like finding a needle in hay stack. I'm a virgin too, I'lkl be 24 in March. You have your values and there's nothing wrong with that. I'm the same way. I want to stay prue until marriage, no worries that way. no unplanned pregancies, STI's or HIV. Fromw what I hear sex is just hormones, without emotion, feelings to tie it together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2010): Im 25 and still holdin the v card pal and Ive known plenty of women, my expectations arent high, and I have MET that right girl...but I didnt do it with her for a few personal reasons and I do not regret it as it upheld my values. However, now, because of my age, it has depresssed me that Ive never slept with a woman so i underwent counseling and made a HUGE decision. Gonna lose it in one week.
For you, youre def not a loser like myself. Women do not care but men are idiots and can easily pressure you and depending on what type of society you live in, that can be worse. Being yourself and maintaining who you are in an open environment is a tremendous accomplishment. be patient and try to wait for the right girl. You'll know when everything clicks. Good luck.
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reader, monkey friend +, writes (7 October 2010):
Im 21 and a vigin and have will never have sex until I am married, which I'd like to think I will be one day.
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reader, fordyboy  +, writes (7 October 2010):
 Don't worry. I was a virgin until 24 years of age. And ive only had one sexual partner. I ve had sex less than 20 times in my life so dont worry. there is no rush!!
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (7 October 2010):
Hi there. There is nothing at all wrong with being a virgin at 23 years.
No, it certainly does not mean you are deficient in any way or a "loser" as you said. That's totally not true.
All it means, is that you probably have not met a girl who you liked enough to feel that way about, so far.
Sex alone, is definitely not the answer to relationships. A relationship should always come first. Sex without any feelings towards that person, is very shallow and empty - compared to making love to someone you sincerely care about. It then becomes very special.
For sex to be the most fulfilling it can be, these things need to happen:-
(1) Meeting a nice young lady, who you have a lot in common with.
(2) Getting to know each other really well, and what makes you both tick.
(3) Feeling completely comfortable in each other's company and be able to be yourself without the need to hold back in any way.
(4) Feeling a mutual respect for each other.
(5) Genuinely liking each other, and accepting each other completely.
(6) When you both decide you like each other enough, and have got to know each other really well.
(7) Both being on the same page about being ready to take that extra step. You both need to talk about this when the time is right.
(8) When you follow all these steps, you will know when it feels right (with someone special), to take that step.
You can't rush into feeling this way with every girl you meet. It can't be forced. Besides, some of the girls you go out with on a date, you might find that during conversation, that you can't see eye to eye on a lot of things. So obviously, to have sex with someone you couldn't get along with generally, would be a waste of time. You would just end up arguing all the time. Even if you had fantastic sex, you wouldn't be able to talk about things and life afterwards. It would leave a hollow feeling in your soul.
Hope this helps you. Take care and best wishes.
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reader, sweetkisses-143 +, writes (7 October 2010):
 Forget all those people. If you were a girl then no one would be acting that way.
There is no difference whether you are a boy or a girl. Saving yourself means just as much. I applaud you for waiting. Don't give up your virginity off of peer pressure.
IF you feel you are ready to give up something so meaningful and it happens to be before you are married, thats one thing. It has to be YOUR decision. Not because of pressure from others.
I don't think theres anything wrong with you. I think you waiting is romantic and sweet. I wish you the best of luck that you find a girl out there for you.
Don't rush it your still young. Your only a year older than me :P
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reader, Moonknight +, writes (7 October 2010):
 I think some women and men make out being a male virgin is bad because a male virgin lack the experience to satisfy a woman virgin or not, it may seem like this.
If you want to be a virgin tll marriage then it is of course not a bad, it's bad to a guy if he is a virgin when he doesn't want to be, some insecure thoughts comes from that... thoughts of not being wanted... hence the loser believe, this isn't true though, our life style, child hood and friends we live amoung have alot to do with when we lose our virginity
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