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writes:I'm a 31yr old woman, with a extremely high sex drive. I'm with an older guy, well 7 month older....6 months into the relationship he is no longer getting morning wood....he thinks this is a problem. So this means no sex for me. He is not even willing to try to have sex..unless I cry and bitch about it. I'm lucky if I get it once a week, this is after I have stressed to him that daily works for me. He is not even willing to try. Not sure what to do...I need the affection and intimacy sex brings to a relationship. What do i do....I can't accept this is the way my sex life will be...but I love him!
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reader, Momoe  +, writes (18 November 2010):
i think i have the same problem with my boyfriend too. We sometimes do a lot of heavy petting and after that in stead of having sex he just turns away and fall asleep. Sometimes i feel like he doesnt want and sometimes i think he has some medical problem or anxiety or something.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2010): The guy might be feeling pressure to perform constantly and given he doesnt want to disappoint maybe this is why he's lost his callaway big bertha (wood). I know Id feel nervous and be full of anxiety if I was with a sexual woman even I am myself. Its part of our male egos to keep up and we put pressure on ourselves to keep with you ladies. That can be hard (no pun intended). Talk to him about this when youre not being sexual as that will remove pressure from him to answer in a certain way and it will also make the conversation maybe go easier. Good luck.
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reader, Tbosse  +, writes (29 September 2010):
 Talk to him to find out whats wrong with him.i think the doctor can help too, goodluck
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reader, Ldu +, writes (29 September 2010):
The worst thing you can do at this point is being in his ear all day asking for sex, dont pressure him into having sex right now especially if there might be a problem with his buddy...He might just feel embarrassed ....how would you feel if one day your vagina just wouldnt accept a penis...very bad im guessing. Sit down talk to him , ask him to see a doctor , go with him be encouraging
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reader, Cupid Boy +, writes (29 September 2010):
 If morning wood never appears anymore, it IS a problem. It suggests that it's more than just him being unwilling to please you. It means he literally can't. Perhaps knowing his organ isn't reliable makes him avoid sex with you. You might ask him to see the doctor and get checked.
Other than that, I'll tell you what I'd say to a guy who demanded daily sex but his wife wasn't able. You can't force that on someone, you have to just suck it up and respect their wishes. Once a week is the minimum recommended. Of course I'd hope that he would do his best and you say he's not even trying. But don't condemn him before you know exactly what the problem is (mental, physical, etc.).
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reader, fordyboy  +, writes (29 September 2010):
 Ok, so your not getting daily sex. is that really important to make a relationship, because i dont think it is. I havent had sex for 7 years and i'm your age so it's no the end of the world. Morning wood is not a sig of sexual arousal, infact it is the result of needing to urinate emptying the bladder and relieving pressure on the prostate gland thus causing the erection. I know i would not want sex every morning or every day if i felt i was being forced because you were going to cry and bitch about it. What a turn off. I think you need to try and experiment a little, try different times of the day, try being more spontainious about sex, try adding different quirky things into your sex life. It sound to me like your persistance for sex has become boring and off putting to him. Incidently affection and intimacy do not happen in a relationship just because of sex. there is far more to it than that. My solution is work on making it more fun, settle for 3-4 times per week without having it to structured and buy yourself a good toy for the times when he's not interested. Who knows the toys might help him too!! GOOD LUCK
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2010): i am going threw the samething exsepted my boyfriend is your age and i am 20 and me and him has only been together for 6 months 2! but what normaly works for me is when i waight till he starts to go to sleep then i get on top of him, start kissing his neck very gently and then move slowly down to his lower parts and when i get down there i tease him a lil bit then i start giving him a bj and that normaly works for me!!! but for him to stat it IDK because i have been trying to figer that one out my self!!
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