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writes:I'm 13 years-old and my boyfriend is 13 too this weekend my boyfriend want's me to give him a hand job and a blow job , is it normoal for kid;s our age wannaing to do that ??? Thanks i hope some one can help me with my Question xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2010): it's normal to want it, but please don't do it
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reader, one girl, thousands of questions.  +, writes (10 October 2010):
 i agree with most of these answers here, play around but dont do anything you would regret. i am 13 too and my boyfriend is 15 and know how it feels. its normal. go for it girl :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): ii amm 13 me and my boyfriend have had sex and done alot , it has to feel right you dont want to regret it long run , my boyfriend is 15 it felt right so we tried it
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reader, fordyboy +, writes (1 October 2010):
 3 little words
"DONT DO IT"
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reader, sunnycomet  +, writes (1 October 2010):
 Yes, it is normal to want it. However like the others have said, performing the action at 13 is not. In the long run it will end up hurting you and you will regret it. My advice is to listen to everyone and do not do anything that makes you feel even a little uneasy. Also I would really think about your bf......he doesn't seem to be thinking about you at all. Are you sure you even want a bf right now? Seems like more trouble and drama then you need right now. Goodluck!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (30 September 2010):
 Its is quite normal to want to do it, especially for boys that is. I do think though that 13 is a bit too young for it, and since you are already asking yourself the same question it is probably for the best that you wait with anything sexually until you feel ready for it.
Boys that age think about sex all the time. But that is why they masturbate... don't do anything you don't want to. He is fully capable to take care of himself.
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reader, sinkorswim +, writes (30 September 2010):
 Its totally normal at 13 to want to experiment with the other sex. I guess you're in a school full of other kids saying what they got up to at the weekend?? Think about it, bet you hear stories of your mates... Do you want that to be you being talked about? Thats what boys of 13 are like. We as females are much more mature in body and mind at your age than them. To them its a game of points and scoring, to us it always seems so much more..
You're 13 and will do what you want whatever anyone says, I was 13 once so I know this.. Just be very careful and think about what you're going to do before you do anything.
And please please remember if he asks you for sex, say the word Condom..
Good luck
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reader, sinkorswim +, writes (30 September 2010):
Its totally normal at 13 to want to experiment with the other sex. I guess you're in a school full of other kids saying what they got up to at the weekend?? Think about it, bet you hear stories of your mates... Do you want that to be you being talked about? Thats what boys of 13 are like. We as females are much more mature in body and mind at your age than them. To them its a game of points and scoring, to us it always seems so much more..
You're 13 and will do what you want whatever anyone says, I was 13 once so I know this.. Just be very careful and think about what you're going to do before you do anything.
And please please remember if he asks you for sex, say the word Condom..
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2010): No its not normal I was 14 when I started n I wish I never did. Wait till u find a guy u want be with your whole life first. If you don't you will get a bad reputation n you will lose your friends n your boyfriend will knock u up n leave u. Take my advice be a teen not a mother.
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reader, DenimandLace44  +, writes (30 September 2010):
 I agree totally with the others. :)
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (30 September 2010):
 Adolescent/puberty males, I think, beings wanting all things sexual a little earlier then girls. So yes, it's "normal" that he wants it, but it's not "normal" to demand it of his girlfriend.
You may be physically able to have sex at 13, but most 13-15 year old girls bodies are not ready for a pregnancy for instance, nor are they ready for the whole emotional aspect.
Just because you CAN do something doesn't mean you SHOULD. Just as because he WANTS you to do something doesn't mean you HAVE to.
Don't do anything if you don't want to, and certainly NEVER let yourself be pressured into anything, be it of a sexual nature or not.
If he has a sexual "itch" tell him to go scratch it himself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2010): It is very normal to want to have sex but it might not be a very good idea. Be careful what you do and think well about it. Nobody can tell you do it or dont do it - after all it's entirely up to you- -but make sure that you are not being forced into doing something which you will one day regret. And just in case you haven't noticed it, don't you think he is being a bit too selfish in this? He wants a hand job and a blow job - did he even bother to mention what he can offer you. Anyway, my advice would be to hold on a bit more. If he is really worth it, he will wait too, if he has real love towards you that is! Good luck and either way, please please please use protection if you decide to do it. Yes even for a blowjob, you don't know if he has had any sexual experiences leading to sexually transmitted diseases in the past (nobody admits to his girlfriend that he had sex at that age!) Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2010): It's fine and perfectly normal for you to 'want' sex at your age. Your hormones are particularly high right now and will stay that way now you're in your teens. However, actually doing it, is a different thing. You're still not physically or mentally ready for sex.
About the blow job/hand job thing, I'd still say you were too young. Your boyfriend is asking for a little too much. How long have you been going out with him? Are you 100% comfortable with him? Most of all, can you TRUST him? I know how young boys are -- and you can never be too careful. Your idea of doing such may be 'oh I'll do it because he asked and I love him', he's idea may be 'great! I can't believe she's actually done it, I'll tell all my friends this'. Then before you know it everyone at your school knows about it.
Just, be careful. Don't do anything because 'he's asked you to'. I'd wait a little older until you do stuff like this, especially blow jobs. Stick to kissing. Remember to always be careful and sensible. Also remember, if you respect YOURSELF, others will.
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reader, sunnycomet +, writes (30 September 2010):
Yes, it is normal to want it. However like the others have said, performing the action at 13 is not. In the long run it will end up hurting you and you will regret it. My advice is to listen to everyone and do not do anything that makes you feel even a little uneasy. Also I would really think about your bf......he doesn't seem to be thinking about you at all. Are you sure you even want a bf right now? Seems like more trouble and drama then you need right now. Goodluck!
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (30 September 2010):
 Normal yes since you are both in puberty. But, it's not a good thing to have sex at your age. 13 is much too young. Your body is going through the changes it needs to become mature but your mind isn't catching up to your body yet. The mind has to be ready for sex too. Your boyfriend is pushing you too hard. What he wants is for you to throw yourself into something you're not ready for. So what, next weekend he's going to ask for sex and a baby? Gimme a break :p He's also at an age where he'll want to tell his friends what happens between you too and just like that, your reputation is ruined. Even if he promises not to tell anyone, hold on and don't give in. You have to make it known that you are NOT easy. The fact that you came here to ask tells me you're a thoughtful young woman, stay that way :)
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reader, C. Grant +, writes (30 September 2010):
 It's perfectly normal to *want* it -- there are some seriously raging hormones happening, after all. It's not a good idea to *do* it. Your body is ready for sex before your emotions are, and before you're able to cope with the consequences. He's pushing too far too fast, and it's up to you to set limits. Tell him to go have a wank.
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