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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I split up from my boyfriend at the start of June. We went out for 6 months during which me and my friends think he treated me badly, it was both our first relationship and we had been building up to it for years and are both 16 years old. we had been friends for years and had big plans, but as soon as we were in a relationship, things changed...He never acknowledged I was there the majority of the time, very rarely messaged me and whenever I asked him if he wanted to do something he was always busy, but then the next day I would find out that he had been out alone with some other girl this happened numerous times and one time I actually saw them together (there where a number of girls). He didn't understand that I was frustrated and had very little trust in him and this made me very insecure, this brought my self confidence down dramatically.So I asked to meet up with him and as soon as we sat down he dumped me, because I was an insecure, boring, not good enough for him, and I was too different from him. Supposedly his friends said he could do way better and he really let rip at me and really damaged me. And when I tried to voice my opinion he got really angry saying how dare i make him out to be the bad one and he walked off and wouldn't come back. This at first made me soooooooooo upset but then it made me angry and I thought I don't need someone messsing me around. I am a young girl I can find someone way way way better. So I moved on it was hard and checked his facebook wall and things a ridiculous number of times a day, but after a while I found I liked a different lad, and he actually wanted to talk and showed an interest in me.At a party, two days ago, my ex and all my friends where together. I drank far too much and it all went to my head. After some friends that I do not fully trust egged me on to ring this lad I liked and as you can expect this went disasterously wrong as I was drunk, he couldn't understand what I was saying and I broke down. Now he thinks I am a complete freak and won't reply to my text messages or e-mails :| I have really blown it!A few days previous my ex had said that he missed me (it has been nearly 3 month since we split up) and I said we would talk eventually but kept putting it off because I was worried that the wild feelings I had just managed to suppress for him would reappear. Because I still am in love with the old him where our happy memories occured, when we were friends and the early stages of the relationship. My parents are very against him and my friends support me in my decisions, but willed me to end it for my own sake. One person who I trust dearly said that she believed that my ex was gay because of his mannerisms (and i agreed with her) the fact he grew up with girl friends and not boys, and his camp attitude and voice. She believed I was just a smoke screen because he had claimed to like me for years that when I did go out with him he lost interest in me, because he didn't like girls in general, thats why he acted the way he did and would not get intimate.Now there are no girls that fancy him so he is trying to relight the flame we had to continue this facade.After this distasterous phone conversation at this party and the terrible thought this new lad didn't like me. My ex wanted to talk and confessed he still loved me and he wanted a second chance, and no one is the same as me and he hates himself for ever thinking that. Uncontrollable at this point I ended up in a small downstairs toilet snogging his face off. And he certainly didn't refuse. We never got as close as that when we went out. This happened continuosly throughout the night in this bathroom and against the wall in the back garden. It was ok but it wasn't brilliant and if I could relive it without the consequences I wouldn't hesitate for one second to do more with him and enjoy it more. I admit I missed him, but I don't know if I missed HIM or just lads in general and the thought of having a boyfriend, or I just fell into his arms as I had been rejected and I felt like he was the only one who liked me. My ex keeps wanting to talk and wants to go out again, but I am really really uncertain about it :/He hurt me so bad before I don't know if I can trust him to not hurt me again. What do you think? :)
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reader, fordyboy +, writes (29 September 2010):
 Don't even go there. Move on and get youself a guy who will treat you the way all ldies truly deserve. This guy is using you and has hurt you. He will do it again. Your young, enjoy your youth and let mr right find you. Stop looking!! he'll come to you.
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