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writes:I am pregnant im am 13 my boyfriend is 14 we have been together for almost a year now I love him so so much but i have no idea how to tell my mom and their is no way to tell my dad trust me...I just need to know im not alone and i need advise on how to tell my mom too.adoption or abortion is not a answer it will not happen do not suggest.I will love and raise my baby.now i am about 5 weeks pregnant please help thank Rhea-Rhea
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2010): You sound incredibly selfish and immature by saying that "abortion and adoption are off the table".
Do you really think you are able to raise a baby?
Why do you assume that your parents are able to cope with another child in the family? You will love and raise your baby? How will you raise your baby? You're too young to get a job or get any kind of benefit until you are 16. Taking care of a baby involves a lot more than love. Go and take a look at how much nappies, wipes, food, buggies and cribs cost.
You need to be realistic.
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reader, Lissa Marie +, writes (2 October 2010):
i am 16 and pregnant. I never onced planned to have a baby this early but i am. This is such a harsh world that we're being brought up in. i feel so sorry for you, but at the same time i feel so much respect because at 13.....you are still a child yourself! im not saying u cant do it, im saying its gna be hard! when i told my mom she was mad, and still is. but shes getting over it. FInd your mom when shes alone and just tell her. it'll be best for you and your baby.
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reader, NalaTili +, writes (30 September 2010):
 Telling your parents and i will not lie is the hardest part..im only 14 and i can only imagine whats going on throught your mind..tell them before they find out by themselves..dont lie to them at all...like always after the fury your mom will be more understanding..and with the dad trust me i couldnt tell my dad either but hes mustly upset that his little girl has to go through this and theres nothing in his power that he can do..im happy that you decieded to rais your own baby and i hope ur boyfriend will stay with you and raise him her also.( i only say hope becuase i dont know him) i know this is strange becuase u dont know me and i not you..if you want to talk im all ears..im always happy to help anyone..and im not one of those phyco (i think i spelled it right) freaks on the internet i am acually who i say i am...hope this goes well..be calm when you tell them also.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2010): What a tragedy on so many levels. You need to think about what's best for your child. A 14 year old girl can not raise a child. You need to stay in school, get an education, a career and earn enough money to support yourself and significant other and then consider bringing a life on this planet.
You have no idea how difficult it is to raise a child. You child will be denied so many important things - don't be selfish, and please learn to not get knocked up again.
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (30 September 2010):
 Wait until she is alone, or ask for some private time with her. Then, tell her bluntly. She will be angry, dissapointed, and may cry but she's your mother and no matter what, she's there to love and protect you. Don't hold off on this. You need to see a doctor as soon as possible. At thirteen, your body isn't formed enough yet to handle a baby. This will be extremely hard and you need to make sure you get proper treatment to prepare. I can't say I agree with your actions or decision, but best of luckm
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reader, helpme7 +, writes (30 September 2010):
I want you to ask yourself a couple of questions. I want you to answer them truthfully.
You do not know what your situation will be like in the future. If your parents kick you out, and your boyfriend breaks up with you and your friends desert you, would you be able to take care of a baby and yourself? It costs at least $136,000 to raise a child to 18 years. That's $7,555 every year, not including yourself.
Even if your parents agree to help you with your baby, do you think it is fair to them? Would you want your daughter to expect you to foot the $136,000 bill for her mistake?
I encourage you to go to this website to calculate the approximate cost of raising your child: http://www.babycenter.com/cost-of-raising-child-calculator
Are you ready to commit at least 18 years of your life to raising a child that only you may want?
Will you, yourself be able to give your baby all the things you want to give it? Like clothes, and food, and diapers? If you cannot, it is considered abuse and your child will be taken into the foster system, which is not a nice way to grow up.
Would your baby look back upon your decision to have it and be thankful? Or would it look back and wonder why you hadn't waited until you were financially stable enough to raise a child, or selfless enough to give it up for adoption?
I want you to think about these questions and your answers to them really hard. You may think you are capable, but you yourself are still a child. You have so much growing still to do. I am 21 and am still realizing new things about myself. You need to focus on yourself so that you can be a strong and supportive mother someday. You can always have another child, even with your present boyfriend, if you are still with him. The child you have will be so much happier if he or she is brought into a supportive world. Do not bring suffering on a human child if you can help it. And right now, I think you can help it.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (30 September 2010):
 Mothers have unlimited capacity for loving their children so she will still love you through this. She may be angry and dissappointed but she will still love you and she will support your through it. I would suggest asking to go out with her for morning tea just you and her and tell her you have something very difficult to tell her. Then just say Mum I'm pregnant. There's no sense beating round the bush with it cause it's happening and the sooner you get the support of your family the better.
Good luck sweetie you've taken on quite a load.
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reader, fordyboy  +, writes (30 September 2010):
 OK, firstly your old enough to get pregnant so your old enough to take the consequences and a sharp tongue. You stupid girl!! There telling off over, because whats done is done and now you gotta look to the future. Right, first of all tell your parents because you are going to need their support. There is not an easy way of doing this really but perhaps for your comfort and ease you may like to consider talking together with your doctor or a school teacher you trust. There is help there. The sooner you get your parents on board the sooner your going to start getting the right antenatal care and support you need. 5 weeks is very early. I assume you've confirmed this with a pregnancy test? Don't worry too much, its going to be a difficult time for you and all concerned but your not the first and wont be the last. You will get through this. GOOD LUCK
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