I'm 17 and a virgin. Is it true older women are attracted to young men?
Q. I'm 17 and a virgin.I'm looking to lose my virginity and heard that MILFs are very suitable for and attracted to the average young man.Is this true? I am overweight and not very socially experienced with women and quite anxious hence my virgini...
A. 12 June 2009: Most MILFs only want hot younger guys, sorry. What's the point of having sex with an unexperienced guy that doesn't look like a stud if you are an older woman? Older women make jokes about the "pool guy" so they are usually picturing young men ... (read in full...)
PLEASE HELP! Should I stay or should I go!!
Q. i am with my fiance of 10 years, we have three wonderful kids together however, for a while now i cant help but think we just aren't meant to be together, he is not a romantic man and i love to be romanced, we don't do things together, he gets to go ...
A. 12 June 2009: You have 3 kids together and he's not abusive and a good father. You sound a little bored like you need some hobbies or interests in your life. So he's not the most romantic but he provides for you and your family and doesn't cheat and you want to ... (read in full...)
If he cared wouldn't he say something?
Q. Today i was on the bus and my friend wasn't on so I was quiet the whole ride home. My old guy friend who I'm not talking to because he was ignoring me. Today he had his feet faced in my direction and he was looking at me. Do you think he might care ...
A. 12 June 2009: you must be very bored if you are thinking so much about so little. If he liked you he'd be talking to you. I don't think he cares yet I don't think he doesn't care either way if that makes sense. He's not ignoring you because I don't think he ... (read in full...)
I want to run away with my teacher and start a new life!
Q. Okay last year when I was 15 i had this really hot teacher I didn't like her at first but she grew on me. Now I can't stop thinking about her. I mean I think about her so much that I can't stand it. Every day and night she is always on my mind.I ...
A. 12 June 2009: Lol, you'll grow weary of not being able to have someone that you can spend time with that returns your affections. you are obsessed and maybe you have an obsessive personality and then you will find yourself obsessed with someone new. I don't ... (read in full...)
What should I do if my boyfriend believes my sister and not me?
Q. Okay, I really hope this makes sense because I am still trying to figure out what is going on! So here goes, my boyfriend of 6 months lives with my sister and her husband, where I basically used to live. My brother in law has never liked me and him ...
A. 12 June 2009: Are you the needy type? You said the brother in law didn't like it that you and your boyfriend hung out all the time so maybe he convinced your boyfriend that you are too clingy and they all made a joke about it how you'd die if you couldn't see ... (read in full...)
Can I get him back? Do men change their opinion on somebody?
Q. Hi there! First of all thanks for the answer I can have :) I have known this guy for 2 months already, we went out at the beggining for a couple of days (have sex, being public together) and after a week of being intimate he dissapear. From ...
A. 12 June 2009: Why would you want him back? He just wanted sex and then treated you like dirt. Be glad you can't get him back. ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to exclude her?
Q. I told my friend I was going to a social event this weekend. She asked if I wanted her to go with me and I made a joke about her cramping my style as I am going with 2 men friends. They asked me and they dont know her and I'm just a bit conscious ...
A. 12 June 2009: she's wrong to invite herself! Tell her maybe next time but the three of you need to catch up and you don't want her to feel excluded, hint hint. If she doesn't take that hint then she's just being rude. ... (read in full...)
We're complete opposites, can this relationship work?
Q. I know that opposites attract, but can two opposites really work in a relationship? My bf and I are so different and sometimes it scares me because I fear that he will want to change me to be more like him. He is a big drinker, and I dont dri...
A. 12 June 2009: My good friend thats a guy broke up with his girlfriend because he's a drinker and she wasn't and he loved to go out and party with his friends and it took a toll on their relationship. I don't know how old he is but if its a big part of his life ... (read in full...)
Why won't he throw out these momentos from his past relationship?
Q. What is everyone's opinion about a partner who holds onto things from their previous relationships? My boyfriend has a picture of his ex girlfriend and in it she's naked. It's an artsy sort of pic, and she is all blurred out, but still. Also, he has ...
A. 12 June 2009: If he never looks at them then I don't see what the big deal is. I have all my exe's stuff in one big box in my attic and no one's ever asked me to throw it out or even looked through it. He doesn't want to throw it out so don't pressure him or ... (read in full...)
Problems with my best guy friend! He's ignoring me now..help!
Q. Things have got complicated with my best guy friend. We have been friends for 5 years and met at university. It all began with me liking him and flirting when we were out at partys and kissing (nothing more). However he got together with my friend ...
A. 12 June 2009: I think this was just a friends with benefits thing and he doesn't want a relationship so he's avoiding that discussion with you. You can always tell him your feelings but my experience has always been bad when I do this. Both times its been when ... (read in full...)
What should I do with my pregnancy?
Q. I just turned 17 and I'm pregnant. I'm not ready to be a mother. My boyfriend is 17 also and wants to keep the baby. I told him that I would either put it up for adoption or get an abortion if it's not too late. He told me that if I have it he ...
A. 12 June 2009: I don't think its realistic that he can take on being a full time dad as a teen. I'm also a firm believer that it's your body, your choice and if a guy doesn't believe in abortion or adoption and decides to have sex with a girl that does, then the ... (read in full...)
He left me with a pregnancy and wants to care for the baby, it is hard for me, help?
Q. Okay here is the problem I am facing currently. I have been in an almost 6 month relationship with a man whom had been with a woman (no they were not married). They had broken up, he moved out of her home but was still seeing her not sexually just ...
A. 12 June 2009: I'm sorry for your situation but you kinda new what you were getting into. He is the father and he'll have rights to see his child and that means that she'll see your child too, sorry, that's just the law. He won't be able to get full custody but ... (read in full...)
Are these same-sex fantasies normal for someone who's hetro?
Q. Is it possible to randomly switch sexual orientations against your will after 20 years of being a genuine heterosexual? I've been kinda paranoid about this because i've begun to have quite a bit of gay fantasies lately, and they interrupt my hetero ...
A. 11 June 2009: If these are just fantasies and you have no need to act out on it or wish to try them out, then they are just fantasies, not unexpressed desires it would seem. What is interesting is that the men in your fantasies resemble yourself and so this ... (read in full...)
My childhood love is now married, help!
Q. Im 20 yrs old and im dating my best friend for ever. We have been friends for 10 years already when we were younger he asked me if i wanted to be his girlfriend i said no because i was way too crazy for him and i knew i would hurt him. i left for ...
A. 11 June 2009: Having four years go by without any contact really doesn't qualify this person as a best friend so I think you are rationalizing things to make it sound more justifiable the cheating. People change so much from age 14 to age 20 and he is married so ... (read in full...)
Is it weird to hook up with girls if you're straight?
Q. Is it weird if you wanna see what its like to hook up with a girl and have a little fun.. If you know your straight and never would be bi or a lesbien ...
A. 11 June 2009: Sweetheart, your hormones are all over the place so please don't worry so much about lables. Worry more about your reputation and don't start kissing people until you are in a relationship with them. ... (read in full...)
I just can't trust my boyfriend
Q. ok me and my boyfriend have been together for 14 months and we've always had trust problems that's led us to breaking up twice, and he's getting really mad saying that i really can't trust him,and i don't know why i still can't stop worrying, just ...
A. 11 June 2009: Seems you are leaving out some big details like maybe him being unfaithful? Relationships without trust simply don't work and I know that from experience and from other peoples experiences. Getting the password doesn't do anything and you can't ... (read in full...)
Old flame seems to have a hold on me
Q. i recently found the very first guy i dated on myspace. sent him a short hello message. he responded in a very suprised way, asking wat took me sooo long to find on there. he mentioned he had tried to locate me but was unsucessful. him and i dated ...
A. 11 June 2009: Don't mess up what you have now over some ex that cheated on you. That's why he has a hold on you because he hurt you and that kind of betrayal leaves you feeling like they robbed you of something but it's not something you can get back from them. ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid to meet him in the RW because I don't find him physically attractive
Q. I’m on an online dating website and recently responded to an email from a guy who lives locally. He was very nice and down to earth in his email and unlike the rest of emails I get he didn’t ask for a photo (I don’t have one on my profile) but asked ...
A. 11 June 2009: Meet him because sometimes pictures don't really capture the full person. You don't get chemistry over photos either or mannerisms. I'm thinking of all my ex boyfriends and if I had just seen a photo of them off the bat, I would never have guessed ... (read in full...)
He isn't ready to be with me but I like him so much!
Q. well.....i have a crush on Miguel n I told him that i liked him and he didnt say anything to me...k so the next day he starts sending me text messages n i respond I started talking about pop and then he said that its bad for you n i told him yeah i ...
A. 11 June 2009: Talk about pressuring a guy into a relationship! No No No! You don't even know if he likes you and you are telling him that you want to be his girl and that he needs to get over his ex and that he needs to stop playing games. Honey, you NEED to ... (read in full...)
He wooed me but now he seems to be distancing himself
Q. Dear readers, I'm a 36 year old female in a 2 year relationship with a 40 year old male. The only reason we are together is because he persued me and I eventually fell hook line and sinker for him! The first year I was showered in flattering texts ...
A. 11 June 2009: The only time this has happened to me was when I found out my boyfriend of a year and a half met someone else and started dating her but wasn't sure about her yet. He started altering the times we usually spent together and would see her on those ... (read in full...)
Should I pursue a relationship with an older man?
Q. Hi i'm 21 years old and a 43 year old man is interested in me. I like him because he is the opposite of me. We have nothing in common duh!. We have already kissed and It was nice. I am not naive to the fact that it is just about sex but should I ...
A. 11 June 2009: I don't see anything wrong with it as long as it's healthy and consensual. I think he should be taking you out though and showing you a good time so it's just not all about sex. Make sure he's not married!... (read in full...)
He was leaving his wife, but found out she needs an operation
Q. we r both married, both 30yrs, been dating for one year, love each other, want build a family togethr and move on with our lives. i am separated, he is going thru separation now moving stuff out and all. last week his wife got news that she ...
A. 11 June 2009: I think his obligations are clear and it may alter your future plans together because this tragic event may make him realize what he could really lose so I don't think you can do much except go on with your divorce and stay on track with your other ... (read in full...)
Guys: Does it bother you if your girl uses a vibrator?
Q. This is a little embarrassing. I have enjoyed masturbation for many years, and then for my seventeenth birthday my weird but lovely best friend bought me a vibrator. Ever since then I have loved using them on a daily basis. I was quite a late ...
A. 11 June 2009: I really agree with Emilyanswers and be sensitive to his feelings. When your first dating they want to feel like they are the ones bringing you to orgasm but if you can't have an orgasm without a toy then they should be mature enough to understand ... (read in full...)
B/f into tranny sex..is he really gay?
Q. Hi, I had been dating my boyfriend for about 6 months now. All this while, we only had sex like 3-4 times and he never ejacuates. He is also not into showing his affection like kissing or hugging. Lately, I found out that he is into tranny porn and ...
A. 11 June 2009: This is not a relationship you should be in right now. He is going through too much and there are too many freaky things and irregular sex to even think of this as having potential. There are far better ways to spend your time, even if it's alone ... (read in full...)
Want to hire my teacher as a tutor, but I have a bit of a crush on him
Q. Should i ask my former teacher to tutor me? i'm planning on taking a standardized test in his subject next year, and i'm having some difficulty. i'd like him to tutor me because he's a very good teacher; i also developed a wee bit of a crush over ...
A. 11 June 2009: Looks like you've already made your mind up so why even ask? You are just worried that your easy to read and that he'll know you like him. He probably already does know. It'll be even more obvious when you ask him to tutor you! ... (read in full...)
I think she should move on, what do you think?
Q. My sister in law has been divorced from her disfunctial ex- husband for 8 years. She has been dating a Doctor who takes care of his daughter after his ex wife had to be put into alcohol rehab hospital for years. His life revolves arround his ...
A. 11 June 2009: There may be a reason she stays and her needs may not be the same as what you think her needs should be, you know? What you think and what we think isn't really relevent because it's up to her to do the thinking if she wants to. I've learned to ... (read in full...)
Will it hurt when I have sex, even when I can stick my finger inside?
Q. So if i can stick my fingers in my vagina does that mean that I don't have a hymen anymore? I just wanna know cause im so scared that it's gonna hurt when i have sex. Thanx ...
A. 11 June 2009: It's hard to know if your hymen has been broken. I broke mine and didn't even know it but my doctor said I didn't have it anymore when I got my first female checkup as a teen. I was a virgin. Sex might hurt depending on how nervous you are. When ... (read in full...)
Lacking in communication, sexless marriage, what should I do?
Q. I am a 37 year old man. I have been married for 8 years with one 3 year old girl. My question revolves around sex. for the last few years i am lucky to get lucky once every 3 months to 6 months, and then i have to almost beg for it. when i try ...
A. 11 June 2009: That's the thing about toys and women and in this case the toys took over your role. Will she give them up? I think that's something she'll have to do before you can get your sex life and marriage back on track. Give up her toy boyfriend and make ... (read in full...)
Did he mean what he said or is it all a show?
Q. ok, i met this guy a couple years ago, he is my uncle's girlfriend's son. We just recently got introduced again about 4 months ago. We hang out here and there he helped me move and helps me a lot. Anyways, we went out Saturday for his birthday...
A. 11 June 2009: I think he meant what he said and it does sound like he likes you. He doesn't have much to offer you though and I think you being a single mom, you'd want to date a guy that is more stable. I'm not being shallow, just thinking of you and the kids ... (read in full...)
I want to be sure that he's not going to leave me for her... but how can I?
Q. ok... I'm not sure how to do this...so i'll just keep rambling till my question comes to mind. =) i'm 16, and i'm in my first relationship. it's been three months, and i swear on my life i've never been happier! the boy i'm with is amazing in ev...
A. 11 June 2009: You know calling you at 4am is a booty call? Not very respectful of him. You've stepped into a situation that is unresolved between them and setting yourself up for a lot of heartache. I'm afraid for you and I know you love him but this isn't ... (read in full...)
My lack of trust in him is damaging our relationship.
Q. I am in a long-distance relationship with my boyfriend. I have known him since two years ago. Around February of last year we became boyfriend and girl friend. Then though, a job transfer happened and i had to move about 300 miles away. Given aro...
A. 11 June 2009: I don't think an LDR will work for you two. Relationships without trust don't last anyway. I think you should find someone in your local area to be in a relationship with.... (read in full...)
Is she having an "emotional affair?"
Q. This is what is going on: She speaks and stares at me all of the time. She sometimes flirts with me. She sometimes sticks her tongue out at me. She sometimes pretends that she is upset. She doesn’t come directly at me and tell what her ...
A. 11 June 2009: "An emotional affair happens when you put the bulk of your emotions into the hands of somebody outside of your marriage," explains psychotherapist M. Gary Neuman, author of Emotional Infidelity. It's not so much that you're not talking with your ... (read in full...)
Can't feel anything during sex. Am I too wet?
Q. I have this problem with my new boyfriend. We have been having sex and I just can't feel anything and its very frustrating for both of us. It's not his size, he's completely normal, but I think I may be getting too wet or something. Is this ...
A. 7 June 2009: male reader, thank you for that and I was thinknig it might be psychologicial b/c its been awhile, thanks... (read in full...)
Can't feel anything during sex. Am I too wet?
Q. I have this problem with my new boyfriend. We have been having sex and I just can't feel anything and its very frustrating for both of us. It's not his size, he's completely normal, but I think I may be getting too wet or something. Is this ...
A. 7 June 2009: Yes, I am numb while we are having sex and I have not been able to reach an orgasm... (read in full...)
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