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writes:Hi there! First of all thanks for the answer I can have :) I have known this guy for 2 months already, we went out at the beggining for a couple of days (have sex, being public together) and after a week of being intimate he dissapear. From time to time we chatted over the internet or he texted me, but did not see him anymore. Anyway we are together at school, so now that both are back at class he is ok with me, doing jokes and everything, but I can tell we are not in the same stage, it is awckard the situation sometimes and he even ask me the other day if I bring ppl at home sometimes or stuff like that, what I do in my days off, etc. And he even flirts with the girls at school in front of me. I know we weren't nothing, but I really like him, is he doing everything just to prove me that he doesn't care? I am trying my best not to act like resentful or anything, I am just being cool with him, but with distance. 'Cause even if we werent nothing, he dissapeared, so he was an ass!!!Is there anyway to get him back? I know to have sex early is not good, but if I put my distance now and I prove him that I am not only a couple of nights stand. Can man change their point of view of somebody?
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reader, cindy888  +, writes (12 June 2009):
Why would you want him back? He just wanted sex and then treated you like dirt. Be glad you can't get him back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2009): Can you get him back? Maybe, if you really want to.
Do men change their opinion on somebody? Of course.
But you are dealing with a very immature guy. He is acting as if he is still in high school. So, if you want to be on that level you will have to play by high school rules (16-17 year old children). You probably left all that behind, but he didn't. It worked for him in high school. Occasionally there is a girl your age who sort of missed out on high school fun and they choose to relive it later with a guy like this one. But you don't sound like that.
Some guys don't mature until they are almost 30, some never do.
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reader, nancyhasglasses +, writes (11 June 2009):
If he was into you, he'd be with you. The more you push at a person the more they want to get away. Why would you want to be with someone who treated you (or any woman) that way? Get some self-respect and find a man who will treat you right.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (11 June 2009):
 Sadly he probably wont ever come back to you. It seems, by the way he's been treating you that he just used you for sex. It's a man thing and millions of women fall for it, even though they know having sex too early in a new relationship will ruin things.
You have acknowledged yourself that he's a jerk, but the insecure part of you that enjoyed the attention yearns to have him back. Don't give into it, just accept it was a mistake and try to move on.
Regards
Aunty Em xxx
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