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writes:ok, i met this guy a couple years ago, he is my uncle's girlfriend's son. We just recently got introduced again about 4 months ago. We hang out here and there he helped me move and helps me a lot. Anyways, we went out Saturday for his birthday and drank. We went back to my house and talked forever and ended up admitting we liked each other and had feelings for each other. And have both had them for a couple of months now. He said he's very shy when it comes to this stuff, and I said so am i so it was all up to him. He then kissed me and things continued. We ended up starting to have sex, then he wanted to do something else to me and i kept saying no. We stopped and he said he felt insecure about it and we kissed some more and went to sleep. When he left my house the next day(my mom came and got him) he just left and didn't say goodbye. I went to my mom's later(where he lives) and hung out for the day, we talked just casually though. Then he went to the movies with me and my kids on Monday, went back to my house after to watch another movie, and he asked for a ride home at about 1:00 AM. Does he still like me? Did he mean what he said. Is he just really shy, or was it just a show. I don't want to keep being the one asking him to do things. And be the only one to do so, problem is he doesn't have a phone, still looking for a job, and no car and his license is expired. So I'm the only one with money, car, and means of transportation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk, so he finally spilled his guts to my friend. He says he isn't looking for a relationship right now, because he does not have a job or a stable place to live. If he was to be in a relationship, he would want to help out financially. But he is not putting a hold on the future. (what does that mean?) He loves being with me and my kids, and he cares about me and my kids. He wishes we werent drunk. He says the time he spends with me and my kids is his "sanity" I am still not sure if he is genuine or not. I want to believe him, but I don't want to get hurt in the end. What should I do? Continue hanging out and being "friends" or just forget about him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMaybe I should've explained a little more. He just moved up here from oregon in February. He is staying at my moms, actively looking for a job so he can pay off his fine and get his license back. In the meantime, he does odd jobs. Also when he admitted he liked me he said he would never intentionally mess with anyones feelings. When I dropped him off after the movies, he said goodnight and thanks for the movie. And I said no problem. I'm just confused, maybe we things went to far Saturday, and he wants to take it slow, or was he just talking a bunch of crap to get what he wanted? I need your help.
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reader, cindy888 +, writes (11 June 2009):
I think he meant what he said and it does sound like he likes you. He doesn't have much to offer you though and I think you being a single mom, you'd want to date a guy that is more stable. I'm not being shallow, just thinking of you and the kids and you don't want a guy that's going to be more of a drain on you! I think you'd be better off with someone that has something to offer you and your kids because being a single mom is hard enough and if you are with a guy that you have to provide transportation for and that uses up your electricity and food and water, you will end up resentful. Picture a guy that has a good position in life and imagine him being able to take you and your kids out to dinner and buying them presents on their birthday and maybe even taking small vacations. That's what I would picture for you. It doesn't have to be someone rich, just someone you can get ahold of when you need him, pick up your kids if you have an emergency or even just surprise you guys by bringing dinner over.
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