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writes:ok me and my boyfriend have been together for 14 months and we've always had trust problems that's led us to breaking up twice, and he's getting really mad saying that i really can't trust him,and i don't know why i still can't stop worrying, just now i'm upset and don't know what to do, i know he's talking to girls over messages and i don't have his password anymore, and i'm worried he might just be too nice to another girl, if i say something i know he's just going to break up with me,i really need help. Is it something i should tell him,is it wrong if i ask him for his password again?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): He's getting angry you don't trust him while giving you reasons not to trust him. He is keeping you in a state of fear and you are not happy. Find someone who makes you happy, because trust is one of the most important things in a relationship.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (11 June 2009):
 well you've said you've had 14 months together but with trust issues...you say you can't trust him you've broken up twice already due to these trust issues i am guessing...if you really feel he's messaging girls and being overly friendly with them then talk to him about it.i think it is about time you guys addressed the issues of trust here when you clearly can't trust him because you're going out your mind with worry about whom he's talking too what they're saying to eachother how friendly they're being... all these questions are going to be in your mind.the only way you'll find that answer is if you address the problem face on and talk to him about it.ask him to show the messages as PROOF he's not being overly friendly if he refuses then maybe he is and doesn't want you to see if that is the case then maybe you guys are better off apart i mean he messages other girls in an "over" friendly way then he's not the guy for you!you should be able to be relaxed about your man talking to other girls and trust him not to make anything of this situation but if you feel he will then you need a serious talk and tell him how it makes you feel and that what he is doing is unfair on you because it's causing an atmosphere and friction between your relationship.Anyways i hope this helps sorry it's long lol.Best of luck hunx
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reader, cindy888 +, writes (11 June 2009):
Seems you are leaving out some big details like maybe him being unfaithful? Relationships without trust simply don't work and I know that from experience and from other peoples experiences. Getting the password doesn't do anything and you can't always watch him. I think you must have a very good idea why you worry and you probably have every reason to worry. Why you stay is your problem. You leave and poof! no more trust issues to worry about and no more stress and misery in your life.
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