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writes:i recently found the very first guy i dated on myspace. sent him a short hello message. he responded in a very suprised way, asking wat took me sooo long to find on there. he mentioned he had tried to locate me but was unsucessful. him and i dated when we were 15 then three years later hooked back up for a short time..until he was unfaithful. we hooked up one nite a few months after our break up and until recently hadnt had any contact. i often though about him and wondered where his life took him. he now has a baby and a girlfriend.. i myself am also in a relationship. i mentioned meetin up to chat and catch up. he responded maybe we will meet up for drinks. it seems that we always end up finding each other no matter how long we have been out of contact (until the recent "find" it had been about 4 yrs) althugh i am extremly happy in my relationship i find myself being obsessive over him responding to my messages and hangin onto his every word, its like he has always had a hold on me and still does. i am lost .. and dont want my heart to lead me in the wrong direction to regretful actions. what should i do? thanks in advance.
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reader, cindy888 +, writes (11 June 2009):
Don't mess up what you have now over some ex that cheated on you. That's why he has a hold on you because he hurt you and that kind of betrayal leaves you feeling like they robbed you of something but it's not something you can get back from them. Your boyfriend now gives you all that love. Think of his girlfriend and their little family and how you are planning to tear that apart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): Be strong, trust yourself more, and don't lead your heart in the wrong direction. I think it's time to stop clinging to the past, I guess first loves are hard to let go...I can verify that myself. But I wouldn't want to cause my first love trouble and pain (yes i still talk to her to this day), she may have a hold on me or a part of me...but that's about it.
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