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writes:Okay, I really hope this makes sense because I am still trying to figure out what is going on! So here goes, my boyfriend of 6 months lives with my sister and her husband, where I basically used to live. My brother in law has never liked me and him together because I take away all of there time together since they were friends before we were together. Anyway, my family had a get together and I was informed by my mother today that my sister told my boyfriend and my family that I would "kill myself if I couldnt hang out with him. This is not true of course. I would never say that ever!!!! so, its been three days and we havent even talked at all, I havent brought up what my sister has said. Ive texted him and he doesnt write back, he says everythings fine but I know its not because its been different. What should I do if my boyfriend is believing my sister and not me? what should I do about this situation????
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (17 June 2009):
 perhaps he's hiding something from you...
you need to talk to him about this because i think what your sister said MAY have actually affected him and perhaps he's cheated? i mean your sister told him you were going to kill yourself because you couldn't see him anymore or what not and maybe he felt that was a bit of pressure and done something he probably regrets enormously and doesn't have the heart to tell you?
but you'll need to talk to him about this ask him why he's being so distant with you all of a sudden. Hope this helps. x x x x keep me updated :)
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reader, norcal32 +, writes (17 June 2009):
norcal32 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHere is my current update, I talked to my sister and she just said that she was sorry and that she wanted everything to go to normal ( this was on last sat). I finally talked to my boyfriend and he was helpin a friend move from that thursday to this last sunday. Anyway we hung out on sunday and he was being really nice, but was really hungover. anyway he said that what my sister said was nothing and he didnt believe her anyway and he never would. However, we had a good time on sunday and when I went home on monday he said that he loved me and would never hurt me. So when we hung out today he has been distant and wont even talk to me (like a plague) what should I do? He loves me one time and acts like he doesnt know me another? what does that mean???
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (12 June 2009):
no don't leave it alone you tell her you never said it and even if you did why isn't she helping you rather than blabbing to people about what you're meant to have said?no very sisterlyvery un supportive...
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reader, norcal32 +, writes (12 June 2009):
norcal32 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for your advice! All of these are seriously the best way to handle the situation!!! I am going to probaly give it another day. its been about four days since my sister told him what happened so I want to not talk to him yet that way he knows that I am fine and not going crazy since I havent seen him! As for my sister I tried to talk to her about what she said and she swears that I said it but cant give a direction answer of what I said. She just yelled at me and it didnt go anywhere. The thing is that if she realy thought I said that I would "kill myself" you would think that she would be worried about me instead of getting mad and telling everyone but not confronting me about it. What should I do with my sister?? Leave it alone?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2009): I think you need to talk to your sister. I dont know how close you are but does not seem your too close. If your boyfriend lives with them and not you. I say forget about the guy its obvious the guy wants nothing with you and if he believes her over you then he really never loved you at all. Who knows maybe he is having a affair with your sister? All I can say is blood is thicker than water and you need to resolve your sisters issue and yours first before you solve your boyfriends. Men come and go but family is suppose to be there so no matter how hard it is continue to try and talk to your sister and show them you have responsibility
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (12 June 2009):
confront your sister ask her why on earth she's being a complete ponce about ita all.
he's your boyfriend and im sure you weren't even dramatic about the whole thing.
talk to you your boyfriend in person and tell him what's going on.
surely he'll believe you.
you do need a serious talk with your sister though this is really unfair what she's doing.
Hope this helps.
x best of luck hun.
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reader, cindy888 +, writes (12 June 2009):
Are you the needy type? You said the brother in law didn't like it that you and your boyfriend hung out all the time so maybe he convinced your boyfriend that you are too clingy and they all made a joke about it how you'd die if you couldn't see him for a few days. That's what I think happened and then your boyfriend got embarrassed and thought there was an element of truth to it and maybe thinks you are a bit much? Give him space and let them all know you can survive without him.
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