My dad molests me in my sleep. What should I do?
Q. It started when i was 12 (atleast i think). I am now 14 and going into highschool. I moved in with my dad and step-mom when i was 7. And we moved to another house when i was 8. It started after my grandfather killed himself after my cousin now 16, ...
A. 1 August 2010: It's absolutely vital that you tell your step mother. It's understandable that you might be worried about doing this, but you must. If you do, you will be amazed at how well she will protect you. You mustn't worry about 'hurting you dads feelings... (read in full...)
The ex... can't get over her...
Q. My ex contacted me last week looking to see me again, then called me a few times afterwards, thats tues past and ive texed her a couple of times and she hasnt replied and i havent heard from her again. She told me about 2 weeks ago never to contact ...
A. 1 August 2010: Yeah, best not see more of her. If possible, find someone else for a very relaxed, slow paced relationship, it will help you shift focus from the past to the future. Also keep a small list of the bad points of the relationship, keep looking ... (read in full...)
We like each other but he won't ask me out!
Q. I have a guy friend whom I am interested in and who I believe is interested in me. We get along great and we flirt with each other alot of the time. I'm wondering why he hasn't asked me out on a date. Now I know one reason could be that maybe he is ...
A. 1 August 2010: Ask him out, no question about it. He may just be nervous because being rejected when you ask out a mate would be worse then normal rejection.... (read in full...)
Why does he masterbate at every opportunity???
Q. Mod note: Your title you chose is already in use. My bf masterbates every chance he gets. Evertime I leave the house even if I just go to the store.. We arnt haveing alot of sex right now. Its really starting to piss me off. I have told him how it m...
A. 28 July 2010: Dispite what feminism may have to say, men's sex drive is much much stronger than women's, as exemplified by this case. Young men especially so.
Why does his masturbating offend you? If you aren't having much sex and he's masturbating maybe it's... (read in full...)
Worried that feelings for my ex may affect future relationships...
Q. I was with my ex girlfriend for two years in university, we finished after the end of it as we grew apart. She was my first major girlfriend, it was love and it was all entirely genuine, although its all finished now, and has been for maybe 10 ...
A. 14 June 2010: Thanks for both of your answers guys, I do feel better in knowing its not just me. I think the thing to do is stay busy and look ahead not back. Thanks!... (read in full...)
I'm 15, he's 18 and we want to "explore"
Q. Heei, im sophie and im 15 i have a bf thats 18 weve been going out for a year now, we are very much in love. But we have a problem he really wants to explore with me, but we are both very worried about the age difference, could someone please give ...
A. 13 June 2010: He can go right ahead and wait. You're obviously not ready, so there's your answer. Don't do it, as people say who were in your position they ended up regretting it. ... (read in full...)
Videotapes of wife with ex....
Q. I found a video of my wife with an ex, she says she thought they had been erased. I knew they had sex and that my wife wasn't a virgin, so I am not so disappointed by that, but rather in the video he finished by giving her a facial. I always ...
A. 30 April 2010: I'm impressed you watched the tape! Not only that but finished it too. Lord knows I couldn't see my girlfriend with an Ex.
That's not sarcasm, genuinely you've got a solid relationship there, well done.... (read in full...)
How do I tell him I don't like how he's changed?
Q. Hey all, i have a huge problem: I've had a boyfriend for almost a year now. When we began to go out, he was really smart, funny, kind and fun to be around. That has since changed. He's starting to hang out with the wrong people, and i'm paying f...
A. 30 April 2010: Without hurting him? If I'm honest that's not where youre priority should be. It sounds like he's being an idiot with his life at the moment, it's not the end of the world, all teenage guys go through a phases like that, but the thing is I think ... (read in full...)
How do I go about meeting the right girl?
Q. Hi, I've been single for a while (about 6 months), and now I'd like to get back out there and get a girlfriend. I'm a nice fella, about average looks, and what i'd really like is a woman who's funny smart and can take things easy. how do i...
A. 27 December 2009: Thanks for all your resposnses! i used to enjoy the party girl, but its not much fun anymore...and then i got with my ex, my first serious relationship, and it was infinitely more interesting and fulfilling than doing the same old routine on some ... (read in full...)
I have a plan! What do you think? Should I tell him?
Q. ok i'm 16 and well i like this guy in my grade. he's really awesome and i really really like him. i've never liked any guy more then i've liked him. anyway he still likes his ex-girlfriend. everyone knows i like him, even he knows and well i've ...
A. 26 November 2009: Dont tell him. Like you say he only likes you as a friend, and hes still in love with his ex. so whats the best that can happen if you do tell him?
as for getting over him, well, thats tricky, and i guess only time is the way. sorry about that... (read in full...)
My boyfriend physically and mentally drains me... I'm so unhappy...
Q. Hello to everyone that responds to my question. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. The relationship started out ok, and its been alright since. I enjoy his company sometimes, but half of the time he mentally exhausts me. Once upon a t...
A. 26 November 2009: Agreed. Also, as a recent student, my advice is don't ever move in with u your partner regardless of how well/badly it's going. if you break up you cant move out, you're stuck and will see them bringing girls/guys home and it will be unbearable. ... (read in full...)
My Bisexual Secret
Q. Okay, so, I'm bisexual. Ive known it for a while, and I share everything with my boyfriend, but is it the right thing to tell him this? Hes already worried about other guys trying to make a move, letalone a girl. Should I tell him and risk him ...
A. 26 November 2009: I'm not sure. It's possible he may not find it so threatening? also he'll find out sooner or later, if he thinks you werent honest about it, he may draw unpleasant assumptions.... (read in full...)
In love with my best friend, she's getting engaged. Do I tell her or not?
Q. hi there everyone..first of all, i'd like to thank all the people who actually take time in reading these posts. Your answers are usually very helpful and much appreciated. Ok so here goes. I'm in a real messed up situation. I'm in love with my best ...
A. 26 November 2009: I do have a suggestion actually, sorry but don't tell her. It won't end well for you (or her). ... (read in full...)
Should "hot and heavy" turn to "cool" in just a year?
Q. Okay Uncles(would like a male opinion) and Aunts here's one that I really need advice on quick! My man and I have been together for about 1 year and I'm noticing a few things that are Greek to me, I have no idea why. I understand when it's "ne...
A. 6 October 2009: No worries, glad to help.
Best of luck, have a great time with him!... (read in full...)
How can I drop hints I might be pregnant
Q. how can i drop hints to my mam i might be pregnant because i think i am because i am late on my period and my stomach is growing also i am going to the loo alot please help i have no one i get home schooled and the nearest town is 50 miles away...
A. 6 October 2009: U gotta just come out and say it. Maybe just do it now? Just take a deep breath, go to her room and say it. There isnt much you can do to tell her in such a way as to make it easy. Just do it quick, so its done. Then you'll feel better because your ... (read in full...)
Why haven't I had a boyfriend yet. Is there something wrong with me?
Q. hey :) i am 15 and i would say i am kind bubbely and chatty.But my freinds say i am stuuning i dont think that though and they say i have everything eg the looks,the body and the persanality but i dont agree! Becouse i have never had a boyfriend ...
A. 6 October 2009: Don't worry. It's not a race. Do you know many boys socially?... (read in full...)
She just wants sex, but I want marriage!
Q. i am 30 years old man and one of my best friend's sister likes me. she is very hot sexy and her figure is very attractive. i also like her and i want to be married with her but she does not want. she want to have sexual living relationship and ...
A. 6 October 2009: No need for an abortion, you guys can sort this out. It's your child too, and you have as much right to be involved with it as she does.... (read in full...)
I can't stand his ex!
Q. I am obsessed with my partners ex girlfriend. I keep on looking at her web site, her facebook and myspace account. I call her on private number and text her pretending to be someone else to try and get information and to make her think that i don't ...
A. 6 October 2009: Riiiight...I suppose that's all ok then? I think that now is definatly the time to move on, and never speak to that girl again. Don't worry about her pain. You've got your fella back, so move on. ... (read in full...)
I need motivation, and he just doesn't seem enough.
Q. Well here goes.... I'm a bit confused... When i was about 6 years younger i want a good life, a life were i could look after myself and be me, be rich before 20 and know what i want. Then things changed, i met a guy that messed me around, i then was ...
A. 6 October 2009: New Zealand looks like a nice place, and I love the Lord of the Rings, but wouldn't somewhere a bit more heavily polulated give you more chance of 'making it big'?
London's good. New York? Even a city in South Africa? ... (read in full...)
I can't stand his ex!
Q. I am obsessed with my partners ex girlfriend. I keep on looking at her web site, her facebook and myspace account. I call her on private number and text her pretending to be someone else to try and get information and to make her think that i don't ...
A. 6 October 2009: I think actually you might try to get some counciling. At least try speaking to a professional about this.... (read in full...)
I need motivation, and he just doesn't seem enough.
Q. Well here goes.... I'm a bit confused... When i was about 6 years younger i want a good life, a life were i could look after myself and be me, be rich before 20 and know what i want. Then things changed, i met a guy that messed me around, i then was ...
A. 6 October 2009: I see. Well, your ex is clearly busy with his own buisness, he'll look at it eventually! In the mean time, start your buisness. Get the stock in and sell it, or whatever your buisness needs. Another option is to get a job in the area your buisness... (read in full...)
I can't get over his dirty magazine habits!
Q. Hi All, i cant believe im am writing and asking for advice, ive always been the one giving out advice and never needed any before. I am one of these that tackle any problems i have had in my life and then just get on with it. But im at a loose en...
A. 6 October 2009: I think it's perfectly normal for men in a relationship to get dirty magazines. Don't feel threatened...most of them (FHM,Nuts,Zoo) are just male equivilents to heat or cosmopolitan. Unless of course it's hardcore. In either case, the magazine... (read in full...)
Should "hot and heavy" turn to "cool" in just a year?
Q. Okay Uncles(would like a male opinion) and Aunts here's one that I really need advice on quick! My man and I have been together for about 1 year and I'm noticing a few things that are Greek to me, I have no idea why. I understand when it's "ne...
A. 6 October 2009: Well, the honeymoon period is over. Is that an expression you have in the US? There's nothing wrong with alone time. The fact that he's not sure about marriage is, in a way, positive. He isn't rushing into things. It's not a 180, he's just adjustin... (read in full...)
She just wants sex, but I want marriage!
Q. i am 30 years old man and one of my best friend's sister likes me. she is very hot sexy and her figure is very attractive. i also like her and i want to be married with her but she does not want. she want to have sexual living relationship and ...
A. 6 October 2009: Uncle Phil actually makes a good point. Paternity test is an excellent idea.
And in the future, use a condom. However, if the baby is yours and she doesn't want to marry you, you must still be a father to the child, and give whatever financial supp... (read in full...)
I need motivation, and he just doesn't seem enough.
Q. Well here goes.... I'm a bit confused... When i was about 6 years younger i want a good life, a life were i could look after myself and be me, be rich before 20 and know what i want. Then things changed, i met a guy that messed me around, i then was ...
A. 6 October 2009: It's often a shock when fantasy and reality colide. But don't give up! I know I'm not much older but 20 is very very young indeed.
Make it big in what sense/field? Is there a specific career you want? One way is to not aim for the job you want... (read in full...)
How do I get over losing the girl of my dreams?
Q. Hi Everybody sorry for the long story but, I am desperately looking for your help, please answer and please don't pull any punches, I have just recently split up with my girl friend of a year and and half, we have had major trust problems in the ...
A. 6 October 2009: I'm sorry to hear this, mate. I really am! I'm going through a similar problem myself, and it's not easy. There are some things to say though.
First, elpigaro is right; you are worth something! You have a life, friends, and plenty of time ahea... (read in full...)
Is it normal to have a period and then start spotting once back on the pill?
Q. Hi there, I've been on the pill for years, and came off the pill for a week to allow my period to turn up. However a week later of being back on it again im having another period- it was spotting to start with and now its heavy? is thi...
A. 6 October 2009: My ex, after taking the pill and not having a period, would have a massive one as soon as she stopped taking the pill when it was time, so on the basis of that I'd say it was normal.
But what do I know, I'm a guy! If you're worried make an appo... (read in full...)
I can't stand his ex!
Q. I am obsessed with my partners ex girlfriend. I keep on looking at her web site, her facebook and myspace account. I call her on private number and text her pretending to be someone else to try and get information and to make her think that i don't ...
A. 6 October 2009: I think that this stems from your self esteem, if you want my honest opinion. But that's only to be expected, your trust and confidence was horribly betrayed!
One thing to remember at all times, is that he left her and now he's with you! Maybe you'... (read in full...)
She just wants sex, but I want marriage!
Q. i am 30 years old man and one of my best friend's sister likes me. she is very hot sexy and her figure is very attractive. i also like her and i want to be married with her but she does not want. she want to have sexual living relationship and ...
A. 6 October 2009: This sounds difficult. But you've asked, and so far she seems to think that marriage isn't what she wants (although it would be sensible for her to marry you now she's pregnant)
I don't think that there is anything you can do, but I wish there was.... (read in full...)
Is this girl playing me?
Q. Hello everyone. After months of no contact, my ex called me and said she missed me. I still have feelings for her, but I feel strange because she can't just come back to me right? When I think of it, she's way higher class than me, and I get ...
A. 6 October 2009: I think you're more or less sure of what's going on already, mate. And that said I think you're spot on! Don't let her use you as a comfort blanket, as the emphasis will be heavily on use, if you get my drift.... (read in full...)
How can I drop hints I might be pregnant
Q. how can i drop hints to my mam i might be pregnant because i think i am because i am late on my period and my stomach is growing also i am going to the loo alot please help i have no one i get home schooled and the nearest town is 50 miles away...
A. 5 October 2009: She's going to find out sooner or later, so it's best to tell her. But don't worry, she may not react as badly as you suspect!
Many girls are reluctant to tell their mothers that they're pregnant, as they think that they'll get into trouble. But ... (read in full...)
He always needs sex but I need help with our son!
Q. im 19 years old...i got married when i was 17.My husband is 26 years old, we have our first son together he is 6 months old.We been having problems for about 3 months i dont know if its my fault because we argue but i have to keep telling him to ...
A. 5 October 2009: Right, don't resort to anything drastic like leaving him, try to make him understand how serious the problem is.
Be careful when you do this, however, make a real effort not to let it deteriorate into a shouting match. ... (read in full...)
What's the best way to react when he calls me and I'm already out?
Q. The man i used to date last year doesn't give me a lot of interest and as he says he isn't eager for a serious relationship. However i like to go out with him and when he asks me we usually arrange to meet each other. Sometimes he calls me when i ...
A. 5 October 2009: Making him jealous may not be the way to go from here...it sounds like he's jealous enough!
Next time he calls, maybe it's time for you to ask him out? This is the 21st century after all! Or, when he calls tell him you're busy that night, but make... (read in full...)
My cousin and I have lots in common - should I take things further?
Q. I really like my cousin an she is 17 an i am 15 and we started hanging out more lately an she comes over once or twice a week. An we like the same stuff an we will just sit an watch scary movies for like 6 hours at a time, an just talk an we have a ...
A. 5 October 2009: To be honest, although the gap in the family is wider and you haven't grown up together, it's not ideal. My reservations come mainly from the families view of this, so it depends on your family...and I won't be able to help you guess their views on ... (read in full...)
Could my fantasy happen or is it just wishful thinking?
Q. Thanks for taking the time to help. Ok so at my center of work there's a woman who fancy's me, I think... I am woman and I have only been with men, the thought of another woman turns me on but I have never acted on it.. I am dating a nice fe...
A. 5 October 2009: I'd like to very respectfully disagree with the poster who advised you to not persue a homosexual relationship in order to avoid complications.
It's an entirely new, and quite possibly wonderful, side to life that you have not experienced, yet are ... (read in full...)
Should the guy always lead?
Q. I've been taught that on dates, the guy does all the leading. Leading toward sex, cool. But do girls (the types who can get any guy) have to have the guy leading everything else too? I guess it's not as attractive if the guy doesn't feel like the ...
A. 4 October 2009: In my (albeit fairly limited) experience, romance starts initially with the guy taking the lead...he asks her out, pays (you would hope), leans in for the first kiss etc.
Then, courtship being over, the relationship starts. Then, my friend, ther... (read in full...)
Could my fantasy happen or is it just wishful thinking?
Q. Thanks for taking the time to help. Ok so at my center of work there's a woman who fancy's me, I think... I am woman and I have only been with men, the thought of another woman turns me on but I have never acted on it.. I am dating a nice fe...
A. 4 October 2009: Well, this depends. From what I've heard it does sound like she is attracted to you. You mention that you are dating a man at your work, would he mind if you made a move on another woman? Let's assume from this point that there is mutual attracti... (read in full...)
I am getting abuse for dating a younger guy!
Q. i have rencently got involved wit a 16year old boy... i have only been seeing him a few days and he is so old for his age. i have alot of feeling for him and he is such a gentleman and makes me feel good about my self. the only problem is i am get...
A. 4 October 2009: Yes, your happiness is important. But that's not to say if you like him go for it, and that's that. The reality is that people's opinions do affect your happiness massively, and if you feel that overall when you're dating this young man you're ... (read in full...)
Cant he find himself with me IN his life?
Q. Long story here, but I'll try to make it as short as possible. Hi everyone, I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years now. We met online, and were great friends, he always had a crush on me, we were friends for about 2 years before we really started ...
A. 4 October 2009: This is extremely difficult...and this man is far from simple it seems. Again I can only stress that I really don't envy you this one!
I think that there may be an element of him using you as a comfort blanket, but I wonder if that's all there is t... (read in full...)
All this chemistry but never been out on a date!
Q. Ok, I need some perspective on this, as I am in far too deep emotionally, and I have fallen for him hook line and sinker. I really like him, I think he is an incredible man, but am I just bashing my head against a wall with this?: We ema...
A. 4 October 2009: If you rejected him before, that's probably why he isn't asking again. Not that I'm saying he blames you, but he probably assumes you'll reject him again so you can't really blame him for it!
So lay all your cards on the table, and see what happ... (read in full...)
Cant he find himself with me IN his life?
Q. Long story here, but I'll try to make it as short as possible. Hi everyone, I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years now. We met online, and were great friends, he always had a crush on me, we were friends for about 2 years before we really started ...
A. 4 October 2009: Hmmm...tricky! I don't envy you this problem, that's for sure!!!
But, there are signs that he still wants you. Inviting you up for a visit is extremely positive. And I appreciate how difficult it must be to go 'cold turkey' but I'm sure he just... (read in full...)
My cousin and I have lots in common - should I take things further?
Q. I really like my cousin an she is 17 an i am 15 and we started hanging out more lately an she comes over once or twice a week. An we like the same stuff an we will just sit an watch scary movies for like 6 hours at a time, an just talk an we have a ...
A. 4 October 2009: Yeah, I gotta say that it's probably not a great idea to take things further. Cousins dating cousins is controvertial, but to be honest although it's legal it's probably not ok...but that's no disrespect to you, or any judgement on you for feeling ... (read in full...)
In love with my best friend, she's getting engaged. Do I tell her or not?
Q. hi there everyone..first of all, i'd like to thank all the people who actually take time in reading these posts. Your answers are usually very helpful and much appreciated. Ok so here goes. I'm in a real messed up situation. I'm in love with my best ...
A. 4 October 2009: You also have to remember how this would impact on her bf, if he heard you loved her and always hung around massaging her etc. It would drive him crazy and he's done nothing to deserve that. I'm sure with their wedding coming up they're both nervous ... (read in full...)
In love with my best friend, she's getting engaged. Do I tell her or not?
Q. hi there everyone..first of all, i'd like to thank all the people who actually take time in reading these posts. Your answers are usually very helpful and much appreciated. Ok so here goes. I'm in a real messed up situation. I'm in love with my best ...
A. 3 October 2009: Yeah, dont tell her. it wont be ideal for you, to say the least, but then its not an ideal situation. imagine if you did tell her, she wouldnt leave her bf, but she would change her feelings toward you. its just best that you dont.... (read in full...)
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