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writes:i have rencently got involved wit a 16year old boy... i have only been seeing him a few days and he is so old for his age. i have alot of feeling for him and he is such a gentleman and makes me feel good about my self. the only problem is i am getting abuse from everyone.. ive just turned 22 so there isnt too much of a age gap between us.i need advice if this is wrong because im a woman that is 6 year older than him??? Reply to this Question
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reader, Sayda  +, writes (5 October 2009):
I experienced the same thing except, he lied about his age, personally I can't be with a 16yr old as he's still a child, but if you two feel it's gud and you're not violating the law then I wish you the best of luck. As Charlie P stated, it's really up to you to make the choice. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2009): Hi. You arent wrong. The idiots abusing you are wrong. They arent treating you right or making you happy. If he is, then stick with him and dont worry about what others think. They will get bored eventually. Just ignore them or tell them to mind their own business! All the best.
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reader, BBQ_chicken  +, writes (5 October 2009):
6 years is not much of an age gap, but only when both of you are mature. If you're 34 dating a 28 year old man, that is fine because both of you are at the same level of maturity mentally. A gap of 6 years is huge when he's only 16 and you're 22. By 22, you're almost out of college, whereas he has just started highschool. I can't imagine a 16 year guy taking good care of you or establishing a deep mental connection with you. Dating is fine, just keep in mind that this will likely be something casual.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2009): Check the law in your community and make sure that you're not violating it. There are women sitting in jails in the US for dating someone a year too young - it's tragic, but it's happended.
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reader, charlie p +, writes (4 October 2009):
Yes, your happiness is important. But that's not to say if you like him go for it, and that's that. The reality is that people's opinions do affect your happiness massively, and if you feel that overall when you're dating this young man you're unhappy due to whatever factor then it may not be worth it. The problem has strong arguments both ways, but no objectively right answer unfortunately. The right answer is whichever you decide, as long as you're happy. I'm sorry if it appears that I'm avoiding the question, but the answer really can only be given by you.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (4 October 2009):
Well I'm a male and I'm seeing an older woman. If you're happy with this guy, then I don't think it matters. Everything is legal and he makes you feel good. So who cares!? :) Have a good time.
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