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writes:Heei, im sophie and im 15 i have a bf thats 18 weve been going out for a year now, we are very much in love. But we have a problem he really wants to explore with me, but we are both very worried about the age difference, could someone please give us advice ?Thank you xx Reply to this Question
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (14 June 2010):
 Ok, as you are in the UK, the LAW states that it is ILLEGAL for anyone under the age of 16 to have sex.
That includes, fingering, handjobs, oral sex, blow jobs, or vaginal or anal penetration. Basically ANYTHING sexual is ILLEGAL.
At 15, you are unable to give consent to any of these acts, and it would be classed as RAPE.
As your boyfriend is 18, he is technically an ADULT. This means ANY sexual act he carries out on you, or you on him, could be classed as child abuse. He could be punished, be sent to jail for 2 years, and put on the sex offenders register.
Because he is an adult, and you are still technically (whether you like it or not) a CHILD.
These laws are put in place to protect children - there are many adults out there who would easily take advantage of a girl your age. So dont rebel against them. The are there for a purpose.
If your boyfriend truly loves you, then he will wait until you are 16, and legal. Once you reach that age, NO ONE can stop you pursuing a sexual relationship, and neither of you will get into trouble.
It's up to you. The grown up and mature thing to do is wait until you are legally old enough. That shows you are mature enough to understand the consequences of having sex.
http://www.bbc.co.uk/switch/surgery/advice/sex_relationships/sex/age_of_consent/
http://www.opsi.gov.uk/acts/acts2003/ukpga_20030042_en_2#pt1-pb5-l1g9
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reader, tijean +, writes (13 June 2010):
it will be classed as under age sex and he could very well get into trouble,dont do anything,please wait,you will know when the time is right for you
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reader, tmisty777  +, writes (13 June 2010):
 I lost my virginty at age 15 and the age of when I did idn't bother me, it was with the person I was with. Hince the word, WAS with. He was young too, jut one to two years older than me, but sex wasn't the only thing on his mind, not all guys are that way. You guys made it a year, and if you are ready than you guys do what you believe is right in your relationship. The thing is, you guys are still young, and there is way more time for breakups and new relationships- make sure you now you are wit the right persn and that he truely does love you before you give him something that i a once-in-a-life time promise, because your body is a very special thing.
Many guys do just think about sex only, but not all. What will happen if he does leave you after yo "do more"? You would feel violated and not trust men much anymore- be careful what you do hun, and good luck.
If you feel like you're ready and that it's a good decision, go for it- ONLY IF YOURE READY!
Age difference doesn' matter much, I'm 18 and my man is 26-we are deeply in love. I just wish I would have waited to give my body to him only instead of my ex.
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reader, charlie p +, writes (13 June 2010):
He can go right ahead and wait. You're obviously not ready, so there's your answer. Don't do it, as people say who were in your position they ended up regretting it.
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reader, MrIncredible +, writes (13 June 2010):
 In my opinion to explore it fine, just make sure that after this "exploring" he doesn't dump you. Some guys at that age ( me myself ) are not interested in a serious relationship, even though to you it might look like we are. To tell you the straight truth, guys at that age are looking for sex only. That's all we think about, all we talk about with our buddies over beer when you aren't there. Think about your choice, and make sure that you won't regret it in the future.
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (13 June 2010):
Wait untill your 16 and then think about it more. If you feel ready at 16 then i cant see any reason not to if your sure you want to. If he loves you then he will wait.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2010): When I was 15 I lost my virginity to a guy that was 18, now
I'm his age I realise how much difference there was, I wouldn't do it if I was you, I'd wait.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (13 June 2010):
 If he's a decent guy who is intrested in more than just having sex, then he can damn well wait untill you are 16 and legal..
There are many ways to show your affection apart from sexual intercourse.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (13 June 2010):
 Sophie, nobody here can tell you if you are ready for the next step in your relationship as that decision is yours alone. However I would say that the fact you have posted on this website suggests that you don't feel ready and I have to say that is OK. I think you should wait until you don't feel worried about it - focusing on the age gap is probably easier than looking at the real issue which is you just don't feel emotionally ready for that sort of relationship. You may love this boy but if he respects you then he won't make you feel bad about saying no.
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (13 June 2010):
 when i was younger i was in a similar situation, we did have fun and explore and we let it go to far and i wish i hadnt now. your best to wait till your 16 its not long away and if he love syou he will wait. then maybe have a little fun but sex wait till you get older and wiser and be safe!
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