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writes:i am 30 years old man and one of my best friend's sister likes me. she is very hot sexy and her figure is very attractive. i also like her and i want to be married with her but she does not want. she want to have sexual living relationship and nothing else. many times she has shown her nude figure. i was not agreed with her. most of the time my friend lived abroad and her sister lives here alone. i discussed one of my another friend about my situation and he advised me to start the living relationship and it may be possible she will accept you.so i started sexual relationship with her. she did not like condom or other thing to prevent pregnancy.so after few month later she was pregnant. again i tried to marry with her but she is not. so i disclose everything to her brother and request him to convince her. first he shouted on me and then he also tried but she is not agreed. i discussed again with her asked the reason and then she disclosed me that she like sex only with different male partners. so can not marry.i am very fed up and i do not have any idea to convince her. if any reader has some idea or solution please guide us. thanks
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reader, charlie p  +, writes (6 October 2009):
No need for an abortion, you guys can sort this out. It's your child too, and you have as much right to be involved with it as she does.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2009): She was honest from the beginning with you! She said she only wanted sex, so why are you so surprised that she doesn't want to marry you?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2009): HIWow!! For many men, you have actually achieved the dream, you know, a girl that wants a man for sex only!! But honey, this is India we are talking about! How is the girl in question and your child supposed to adjust? With the society and all that? Besides, who is going to get the custody of the kid? I mean, hey, with a mother that likes a lot of sex with a lot of different men, the child is going to have no sense of security at all!So, you must try to convince her of that! what kind of a girl is she, btw, to be so irresponsible and I cannot believe that you gave in to her! But now it is too late, however, had you been from any country but India, I would have thought that her behavior was normal, but since you are from India, so I think that your girl might have a psychological issue! Besides, I think that she is too thoughtless to be a mother! If there is time, get her to get an abortion! And tell her brother that perhaps his sister needs counselling! She seems to be either a nymphomaniac or a sex addict! It is not healthy!!! As for your choice of a female, I mean, dude, that was truly sleazy! What kind of a man starts a sex only relationship with his brother's sister! That too unprotected???
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reader, Heartbroken in love  +, writes (6 October 2009):
this girl is crazy. I'm sorry you got her pregnant. I agree you need to get a paternity test. in fact without suggesting nething just ask her if she has been sleeping with other men. it is very important that you ask her without suggesting anything though. if she says she has then you know that you must get the paternity test. if she just don't want to get married then dang man count your blessings
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reader, charlie p +, writes (6 October 2009):
Uncle Phil actually makes a good point. Paternity test is an excellent idea.
And in the future, use a condom. However, if the baby is yours and she doesn't want to marry you, you must still be a father to the child, and give whatever financial support you can.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2009): My first thought was that you were lucky in some ways. You got the milk without having to buy the cow and she got the sausage without buying the pig, if you see what I mean.
Then I got to the bit where she gets pregnant. That's where everything goes different. I think, given that she likes sleeping with different men, that you'd do well to get a DNA paternity test done to see if the baby is yours, but you won't be able to do that until the baby arrives.
If you are the father then you need to face up to the fact that you're morally and financially responsible for the maintenance of the child. In other words you have to offer your services as a responsible father. She may or may not want that though.
Use a condom in future, which will avoid all this sort of nonsense.
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reader, charlie p +, writes (6 October 2009):
This sounds difficult. But you've asked, and so far she seems to think that marriage isn't what she wants (although it would be sensible for her to marry you now she's pregnant)
I don't think that there is anything you can do, but I wish there was. You've done the honourable thing, but she has to accept it to work.
I'm very sorry, I really am.
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