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*harlie p
writes:I was with my ex girlfriend for two years in university, we finished after the end of it as we grew apart. She was my first major girlfriend, it was love and it was all entirely genuine, although its all finished now, and has been for maybe 10 months or so. Since then I've obviously thought of her from time to time like anyone would, but I've had a few things with other girls since and I thought I'd moved on. So here's the problem; I saw her recently and all the old feelings came right back. I've got a general rule not to have much contact with her beyond a brief facebook message every three or four months or so, just as a catch up, but seeing her again took me right back to old times. What does this mean? Have I moved on, do I still love her, and is this ok? I don't want to rekindle the old romance, but I'm worried that it may affect future relationships.
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reader, charlie p +, writes (14 June 2010):
charlie p is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for both of your answers guys, I do feel better in knowing its not just me. I think the thing to do is stay busy and look ahead not back. Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2010): the only advice i can give you is that you have to try blocking out memories of your ex. I was worried that my ex may affect my future relationships but thankfully she provided more negative parts of the romance than positive parts so i just thought about them and eventually i was able to convince myself that was wayyy better off without her. I hope i helped dude
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2010): Look man, when i broke up with my ex ( it`s 3 years now and in another relationship for 2.5 years) it was like that from the begnning i`d see her and something just started to light up inside me and wanted back, but you know i just told her not to contact me again for whatever reason. Why? Because I remebered why we split, that`s why, and if it has happened once it`ll happen again, and it`s absolutely not worth it. When you meet like that it`s one thing and it`s all nice and positive, but when in a relationship-thing always get ugly sooner or later. You finished - good. My advice is stay that way, never look back, get on with your life and be happy. There is always another girl right behind the corner that can make you feel twice as good as the old one, just be aware and seize the moment when it comes.
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