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writes:i'm quite upset. i went to the hairdressers today, and i didnt like some comments that my hairdresser made. she said my colour had faded( i had my hair dyed blonde, but the person who dyed it didnt put much blonde in ) and i didnt even think it looked faded, although it doesnt look as noticeable as it did when i first had it done. she said it was probably because i kept having my hair cut. i said actually it hasnt been cut since the end of september. she did say though that she said she thought i suited short hair ( it's in a pixie style ) but she said that's because it looks better than being long because i have fine hair. she made me feel self conscious with some things she said, and i have anxiety, so that doesn't help, and i feel self conscious enough as it is without people making comments like that. i'm supposed to be going for a night out this weekend too, but i'm not sure that i want to go now. also, she usually styles my hair really well ( she's the hairdresser i usually go to , but i have my hair done by other people there when she's not available ) but i'm not that happy with how she's done it this time. it doesn't look too bad, but it's just not as good as when how she usually does it. i'm going to make sure that she does my colour next time though, as she usually does my colours better than the person who did it last time did it, but in a way, i'm not sure whether i should still let her do my hair. what do you think ?. this isnt as bad as another hairdresser i used to go to though. he used to do my hair last sometimes, even though we had an appointment arranged, and even though some people came into the salon after me !. Reply to this Question
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reader, blahblahblahh +, writes (29 October 2010):
 I think the bigger picture is being missed here, I don't mean to offend or upset you by saying this, but I think you really need to get help for your anxiety issues. If your hairdresser telling you that you have fine hair upsets you that much that you don't want to go on your night out, then I think you need to talk to someone professional about these anxiety problems you're having. It's just hair, when you go to the salon your hairdresser gives you an opinion and advice on what they think would suit you. I went to the hairdresser's a few years ago and the lady cutting my hair told me I had frizzy damaged hair that needed serious work, and I didn't in the slightest feel upset. Why do you care what a woman in a salon thinks about your hair?! No offense but seriously, if you are offended by someone telling you your hair dye has faded then you should start getting some help because this is very overly sensitive in my opinion, and in life people are going to throw much worse at you from time to time.
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reader, Nithyanala  +, writes (29 October 2010):
 She expressed her opnion honestly. You may not have agreed but it wasn't anything to her hurt about. If you trust her with your hair and have had a good experience in the past you should go back to her.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (29 October 2010):
 CindyCares pretty much said it..I'm going to add hair dressers such as her are ones who like to offer their opinion when you already come in knowing what you want. Her saying your hair faded it true because usually it fades in 3+ months..She also made a suggestion you can rock a pixie cut, which is actually a compliment because not everyone with fine hair can. You have to have sharp features and great bone structure to pull that off. Kinda like Twiggy..
So in all reality she was being a professional and giving her your opinion and I agree at times it's not needed. It's all about pleasing the customer. So in no way did she offend you and if you think she did a so-so job this time then switch to another hair dresser. Ask your friends who they go to, and if they can recommend place or a hairdresser.
P.S. I have fine hair too! It does suck.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (29 October 2010):
 If you are basically satisfied with her work, I think you should keep going to the same hair stylist. She may have said something that you did not like, but ,as long as she was neither rude nor arrogant, - try to keep your cool and not feel what she said as a put down or as a personal attack.
A hairstylist is just that, a hairstylist- not a diplomat or a psychologist, it would be nice if hairstylists could always take into account their client's personality and sensitivities when expressing a professional opinion, but we can't really demand it. She WAS giving her professional opinion, - hair dye DOES fade, shampoo after shampoo, it's not an insult , it's just something that happens, -she notices more because she has a trained eye.
Fine hair are best suited for short cuts- and fine hair is just... a type of hair, not some shameful secret that must never be uttered :)
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (28 October 2010):
 I have pretty long hair, and don't go to the hairdresser very often. It honestly takes alot for me to go, I have to be in just the right mood. I really don't look as going to the hairdresser as a fun experience, just becasue I've had so many mishaps in the past, so I understand what you are saying. If you really felt uncomfortable with her comments, then I wouldn't go back to her. To me, you're already feeling very vulnerable getting your hair cut, and you don't need the hairdresser making you feel worse! Perhaps though you were just feeling really sensitive that day, and took her comments the wrong way? Honestly, it doesn't sound like she said anything really bad. If you like the majority of her work, isn't it a shame to have to start all over again trying to find someone else? I have fine hair too, and I've been told repeatedly that I shouldn't grow it too long, but who cares? You wear your hair the way you want to. Mainly, you have to trust your hairdresser. Do you trust her? It sounds like you do, you just didn't care for what she said. Why not let her color your hair and see how it goes? You know she'll do a good job, it might be worth it.
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