Husband has many female friends. They don't want to be friends with me, just him. Am I overreacting in being upset?
Q. My husband got a lot of female friends that called him at least 5 times a day for advice and to talk, he told me to talked to them cause they are nice and he wants us to be friends too but when I tried to reach out for them (add them on Facebook) ...
A. 18 February 2014: I agree with k_c100. The only way I can think of to solve this is to meet them in person.
If alot of females were contacting my husband I would demand to meet every single one of them. Of course when you ask your husband to meet them you're b... (read in full...)
I have an aching feeling and sadness after seeing him again
Q. I just want to know if anybody can make sense of this and why I felt that feeling after over a year of being broken up and having not seen him in that time! I dated this guy over a year ago, we dated for a few months, not long. But he was the f...
A. 12 January 2014: I think it is normal that you felt that way. However I wouldn't get back together with him. He's an EX for a reason.
Try to find peace in the fact you can be on polite terms to each other and move on. You'll be much happier if you do.
Good Lu... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend but want to have sex with his sister!
Q. I am 25yrs girl who dating guys bt also like girls I do have a BF and his caring and lovely eccidentally he have also a sister who like girls too I love my BF and I also atractive to his sister one day me and her sister go out together and endup ...
A. 20 December 2013: You are in a difficult situation because they are family. If he doesn't take your break-up well then it could cause problems for you because you want to be with his sister. Would other siblings, parents, or aunts and uncles get involved?
I wou... (read in full...)
I always feel I'm annoying my FWB when I text him
Q. So, it started back in 2010 when I met this boy and we were just friends with benefits.. I started to really like him and he said he didn't want anything more and then he just randomly got a girlfriend with this girl I disliked at the time. So, ...
A. 18 November 2013: The reason why you feel like you are annoying him when you text him is because you really ARE annoying him. FWB means using each other for sex without a relationship. It's very clear that he only wants you for sex. From his actions he doesn... (read in full...)
How do we improve our sex life after 3 years and a child together?
Q. This is a bit of an embarrassing problem to ask but hopefully maybe one of you can help me. I have been with the bf for nearly 3 years. We have a child together who is nearly 2. Before the child, our sex life was normal and grand - no problems - no ...
A. 16 September 2013: I can understand your desire for comfort food but try picking healthier options to snack on. Like carrots sticks or a banana. Take care of yourself and pamper yourself. Style your hair in a way that flatters your face and wear clothes that mak... (read in full...)
Is it too late to tell him about my miscarriage?
Q. when i was 14 i lost my virginity to my then boyfriend Johnny, the following year he dumped me in november a week later i found out i was pregnant around 5 weeks gone, NOONE knew i told noone i was soo scared and was not ready to be a mother i ...
A. 13 September 2013: I wouldn't if I were you. It would only open up a big can of worms.
Are you able to go to counseling? You really shouldn't keep it bottled up inside and you would feel much better talking about your feelings.
Take care and try to find some... (read in full...)
Is it just the distance or are my instincts right that he's two-timing me?
Q. I met a guy a few months ago while on vacation, he lives 6 hours away, but we exchanged numbers, and agreed on being friends, which obviously didn't last long. I feel very drawn to him, which doesn't happen very often, and never so quickly. I can ...
A. 8 September 2013: I myself really don't like texting and can take a while to reply to a text. I never reply right away even when I am having a conversation with someone because I am always doing something else.
This can easily be the same situation. Unless s... (read in full...)
Why would you women wear a ring on your wedding ring finger if you aren't married?
Q. Totally confused over here right about now......... I like a woman who I thought was married because she wore what looked like a wedding ring on her wedding ring finger. At first I thought it wasn't, it looked too plain not a band type ring then I...
A. 8 September 2013: You can always ask her on a date and see how that goes.
How long have you known her for?
Have you considered asking her why she wears a ring on her wedding finger?... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's adult son moved in, uses my car, doesn't contribute
Q. My boyfriend let his 23 year old son move in with us 3 days a week. He has a place with his girlfriend but instead of going to junior college near where they live he picked a college that is 25 miles north of us. We live 70 miles north of them. The ...
A. 29 August 2013: I honestly don't see this working out for you. The more you stay the more resentment is going to build up. What kind of a future is that?
I would just leave. You've been with him for 6 years and yet he hasn't even proposed. I think he is just usi... (read in full...)
Think he's a got a old crush to keep an eye on! Insecure and need advice!
Q. Hi guys! I have a great long term BF (4yrs) who treats me right, but I can’t help the fact that he really only makes friends with girls. He says his friendships are plutonic and harmless, but another girl has re-entered the picture who seems to ...
A. 27 August 2013: It's definitely not normal the amount of attention he is giving her.
I would talk to him about it and tell him to tone it down as it makes you feel uncomfortable.
If he refuses then you might just be better off ending things with him.
Go... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's adult son moved in, uses my car, doesn't contribute
Q. My boyfriend let his 23 year old son move in with us 3 days a week. He has a place with his girlfriend but instead of going to junior college near where they live he picked a college that is 25 miles north of us. We live 70 miles north of them. The ...
A. 27 August 2013: I hate to say it....but your stuck between a rock and a wall.
As the others have already said; legally you have no rights to your boyfriend's money, transportation, or who lives with him.
You can take the public transportation just as much as ... (read in full...)
How do I get my friend to stop liking me?
Q. Hello dear aunts and uncles :) I go to college and I have a best guy friend there, we understand each other really well, he's nice and one of the best friends in general I've ever had. I suspected he might be into me and recently he confirmed he ...
A. 24 August 2013: You can't make him get over you. The best thing would be to give him some space to sort out his feelings. He's probably in alot of pain from your rejection. I would leave him alone for a little bit and let him cope.
Good luck... (read in full...)
How to tell your boyfriend he's starting to look unattractive?!?
Q. My long term boyfriend (29) has really changed his appearance. He used to have gorgeous hair, wear good clothes and look his age. Recently however, he's started to look older and older! He now cuts his hair so short he's nearly bald looking and says ...
A. 24 August 2013: You've already tried talking to him about it and nothing happened.
Perhaps take it to the next level? Suggest that the two of you have a break from each other and see what happens.
In the end if he still doesn't do anything then I would con... (read in full...)
How can I go swimming when I'm having my period and can't use tampons?
Q. Please help. My friends mum is taking me, her and her 8 year old sister on holiday tomorrow we'll be going swimming in a really cool pool too but I started my period 2 days ago I can't cancel as she already paid. I can't use tampons. I tried but it ...
A. 22 August 2013: I'm sorry hon but using a pad in a pool is not going to work.
I remember feeling embarrassed and upset because I couldn't use tampons either and my siblings would end up swimming without me.
I know it's embarrassing but your friend's Mom ha... (read in full...)
Would it be alright to date a former teacher that I now work with?
Q. I have just recently become a teacher and one of my ex teachers is working at the same school I am and he is older then me and taught me for a year. However we have become friends and are getting to know each other but I was thinking would it be ...
A. 22 August 2013: I personally don't think it's a good idea. How does your school feel about co-workers dating? Would you have to hide it from your boss and other co-workers?
Usually when you date a co-worker it turns out messy in the end.
However there... (read in full...)
Does anyone have any insight into the communication (or lack of) in this relationship?
Q. I met a man through my brother in law. My father recently died and this man is selling the house I inherited. We started communicating through facebook for a week. Last week , he drove three hours to meet me. We had a pleasant time. The weather was ...
A. 22 August 2013: He is either not interested or is caught up in life at the moment. Perhaps he is struggling with something and he doesn't have the time to respond to you. It's happened to me before.
Keep the communication simple until he shows you a sign he is mo... (read in full...)
My ex moved to another town and is trying to befriend my friends. Is he trying to make me jealous and get under my skin?
Q. My ex boyfriend and I broke up three months ago and he moved immediately afterwards to another town where my best friend lives with her boyfriend and all their friends. In three months I have noticed on his facebook that the only people he has added ...
A. 22 August 2013: I suggest you block him and if you haven't already delete him. I would trust your friends that they haven't seen him.
The only reason I can see for him to be doing this is to hurt you. Of course you care because you are still healing from the brea... (read in full...)
I've been involved with a guy from work who also has a girlfriend. Things were great but I feel like he's backing off. How can I keep him interested?
Q. I've been seeing a guy from work for a while, i started there in April and I've had so much fun working with him and flirting away. We get on great! The flirting increased about two months ago and we started sending dirty texts and pics, which ...
A. 22 August 2013: Honestly I can't give you any suggestions to keep him interested nor do I even want to. The best way to handle this situation is to accept the facts and move on. I know you don't want to despite the consequences but nothing you do or say will k... (read in full...)
I'm very concerned that my boyfriend is getting a female roommate
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and I've always trusted him. I've known him for years and he was never a cheater with girls and was always well behaved. We've done long distance for the last few months and it's still ...
A. 22 August 2013: I can completely understand where you are coming from. I would never ever feel comfortable with my husband living with another women if I wasn't there. I don't care how innocent the circumstances are. At the same time you unfortunately ne... (read in full...)
What's the difference between pushing for a date and glorified stalking?
Q. I'm not the best with women. I'm OK but not great. One thing I just can't seem to do is be persistent in pursuing a girl I really like because I don't want to be seen as a glorified stalker. If I ask a girl out and she says no, I leave it at that ...
A. 20 August 2013: When a girl says no then that means no and pushing it further is not romantic at all.
I agree with Honeypie; try getting to know them before asking them out.
Good Luck!... (read in full...)
Trying to read guys and see what path I should walk down!
Q. Ok so, Am very confused about guys actions and where I think everythign is going to be in the future (and I mean this time next year not 5 years from now) And just trying to read guys and see what path I should walk down. In my life right now I have ...
A. 20 August 2013: Hello, I'm not a guy but I will share my opinions anyway. I'm shocked that you call it lazy for not wanting to be with someone in a long distance relationship. Long distance relationships are not only painful and costly; they rarely work out... (read in full...)
Has porn ruined the rest of my life?
Q. Hi there, I started watching porn from a young age (11 years old) and stopped when I was thirteen and was wondering now, has porn ruined my life? I feel like it's disturbed me from a young age, I only realised when I was about 12 years old; I knew ...
A. 20 August 2013: No, porn has not ruined your life. I use to masturbate at a very young age myself.
Like janniepeg suggested; try to focus on other things. Maybe focus on nature or animals? I always loved horses and as a child would often think about them.
... (read in full...)
I have feelings for a man who is out of my reach, how can I get over him?
Q. I have feelings for a man but he is out of my reach. I know we can't be together as he is just starting his career as a doctor and I am much younger than him. He will be leaving to another city to continue his residency in seven months and I ...
A. 20 August 2013: I agree with Intrigued3000; you should ask for his contact information and give your's in return so at least you can remain friends.
As for getting over him I suggest keeping busy, try to keep your thoughts about anything else then him, and spen... (read in full...)
How do I get my clingy, overbearing and unwilling-to-change-that boyfriend to calm down while I'm visiting my parents?
Q. Hello all, I am wondering what you guys would consider normal boundaries and communication frequency in a relationship. Me and my boyfriend live together near our college, but I came back home for a couple of weeks to visit my family. He hates it ...
A. 8 July 2013: Wow...your boyfriend would drive me nuts!!
Try to talk to him and tell him that he is smothering you. Remind him that you love him but he is driving you crazy. Give him a limit to the amount of calls, texts and e-mails that you are comforta... (read in full...)
How do I deal with a woman with a low self esteem who keeps telling me to leave her alone?
Q. I need some help.. 8 days ago this woman pushed me away. Saying I wanna be alone I hv no feelings for you. Something I do not buy based on all her feedback our intimacy dates n her body language. I told her I love her. She says move on im not inte...
A. 7 July 2013: "How do I deal with her low self esteem! I'm doing something wrong here." You don't deal with her low self esteem. She clearly wants you to leave her alone. The best thing would be to just let her go. Yes, you are doing something wrong. Your'... (read in full...)
He's my boyfriend, but he's posting pictures of some other beach beauty. Am I overreacting?
Q. My boyfriend recently took a series of 3 pictures of a girl on the beach that he posted to his blog. When I saw them, it made me really angry. I told him I didn't like the photos and thought it was being creepy and inconsiderate of my feelings. He ...
A. 7 July 2013: I'm sorry he verbally abused you. You didn't deserve that. In a weird way it's a good thing because now you know what kind of person he is and better off you are free from him! If he wants you back don't do it. He doesn't deserve to be on the gro... (read in full...)
How do you ask to have an open relationship
Q. What is the best way to go about asking your boyfriend to allow the relationship to become an open relatonship?...
A. 4 July 2013: Try asking what he thinks about open relationships and go from there.
Are you sure you really want to stay in a relationship where you are thinking of dating other people? It might be time to end it and move on.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a married woman. Her husband knows and she broke it off saying she can't live with the lies!
Q. well were to start really, Actually I am rather a pathetic person and very weak I think. In January this year I met a very beautiful woman on a site for language exchange we got talking I knew she was married but unhappy. he is from Ukraine and...
A. 4 July 2013: Hello James, You're making a big mistake. Chasing after married women is asking for drama, stress, and heart-break. OK, let's just say (even though she will NOT) she ended the marriage with her husband and you two became a couple. What makes ... (read in full...)
Am I using him? Am I worthless?
Q. I want to know if I am out of line. My husband and I have been married for 6 years now he has three kids and I have three . We only have four of the kids living with us because his two older children are adults. I work four months of t...
A. 21 June 2013: Your Husband is out of line! How dare he...any other women would leave him so fast he wouldn't have time to blink.
When your husband married you he took responsibility of your children. It's unheard of for a husband to NOT take responsi... (read in full...)
Should I give this jerk who dumped me a piece of my mind or not give him the satisfaction?
Q. I would love your opinion about this. I was dumped today by a low life, cheating prick. He came to my house to tell me. I am really upset by not only the fact he did it but by how he did it and how unfeeling and cold he was about it. He came t...
A. 21 June 2013: I'm not surprised that he ignored your e-mail. He probably deleted it before he could have a chance to opened it.
I know it hurts, the pain is almost unbearable at times. Try to keep calm and spend time with your friends.
The whole point of w... (read in full...)
He confessed he was married then deleted his email account! How do I get over the shock and heartbreak?
Q. How do I forget this guy?! He emailed me yesterday confessing that he was married and hadn't been fair with me the past 6 mos. He then deleted his email acct so I can't reply to him. I have his cell number but don't want to appear desperate so ...
A. 21 June 2013: I'm so sorry this happened to you. What a horrible man he is! Try to feel relieved that he finally showed his true colors.
If he contacts you ignore him. Treat him like you would any other break-up. No contact, keep busy, and rely on friends.... (read in full...)
Should I give this jerk who dumped me a piece of my mind or not give him the satisfaction?
Q. I would love your opinion about this. I was dumped today by a low life, cheating prick. He came to my house to tell me. I am really upset by not only the fact he did it but by how he did it and how unfeeling and cold he was about it. He came t...
A. 21 June 2013: I think you should do what you want to. If telling him off in an e-mail will make you feel better...then go for it.
Honestly there is no nice way to break-up. It doesn't matter how someone handles it because in the end they are breaking someone'... (read in full...)
Was I wrong because I asked my g/f to let me know what's going on rather than making me wait for hours to find out?
Q. I had plans with my gf last night, that we had made weeks in advance, to meet up at ten pm as i was winding down from work. I'm a bartender and Thursday nights are crazy. And she was going to come when she knew we were going to exchange shifts and I ...
A. 1 June 2013: I don't think you are being selfish. I would want to know if my girlfriend/boyfriend had to cancel plans.
I'm sure her brother wouldn't mind her using his phone to send you one little text. While this happens a lot it's not an emergency either. ... (read in full...)
How do I get the courage to ask a coworker out (on a date)?
Q. I'm attracted to a girl I work with and have seen her out of work socially a few times and we get along great, have a lot of fun and seem to genuinely enjoy each other's company. Anyway I've decided after a lot of deliberation that I'd like to at ...
A. 30 May 2013: The best way to get past your fear and ask her is to just ask her. As soon as your alone with her and she is in a friendly mood go for it. If you hesitate or say you'll do it next time it will never happen. Kinda like swimming...you'll never find ... (read in full...)
His friend flirts with him big time -- why does she do it when she knows he's in a relationship?
Q. Hey everyone. Hope everyone is good. I posted on here a couple of months ago about having problems with my boyfriends female friend who constantly kept flirting with him. I got mixed opinions about the whole situation and what I should do. I'm ...
A. 15 May 2013: If she knows he's with me, why does she flirt with him? Because it makes her feel good to know that he allows her to flirt with him knowing he has you. It's a big boost to her ego. She probably is having difficulty finding a boyfriend (no wonder w... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's behavior has shaken me to my wounded, abandonment-fearing core. Am I the one who needs to work on my issues? Or is his behavior unacceptable?
Q. Can I trust my boyfriend? I have trust issues stemming from childhood (parental divorce, alcoholic parent, stressed out parent, etc). I've improved in the trust department, but still have a long ways to go. I live with my boyfriend of 2.5...
A. 13 May 2013: Hello,
If your boyfriend goes on a date with another women (even if it didn't work out) that is still considered cheating.
However you invaded his privacy which is not acceptable either.
To be honest with you I don't think you can be h... (read in full...)
How do I handle this unwanted breakup? And yet he still says he wants to be my 'friend.' Help!
Q. Hi i have had terrible times with my guy friend. we have been really good friends ever since 2011. We have been very close and had intimate sex. But every-time he tells me he doesnt feel for me more than a friend. So finally in the month of Nov...
A. 29 April 2013: Hello, I honestly think that you should end things with him. You have no future with him and he is in a middle of a crisis. To expect him to give you affection and love right now is not fair. HE is the one that needs affection and help. You should... (read in full...)
He says he loves me, but the way he treats me, it doesn't feel like it!
Q. My boyfriend tells me he loves me but his behavior suggests otherwise to me. About 2 weeks ago we got into an argument and he told me he had been wanting to break up with me since I miscarried 4 years ago. We have been together for 6 years, living ...
A. 29 April 2013: Good for you! I'm glad you are taken action! You deserve it!
Good Luck and don't let him bring you down or suck you back into staying with him. Sometimes when they realize you are leaving they tend to become the world's biggest sweethea... (read in full...)
He says he loves me, but the way he treats me, it doesn't feel like it!
Q. My boyfriend tells me he loves me but his behavior suggests otherwise to me. About 2 weeks ago we got into an argument and he told me he had been wanting to break up with me since I miscarried 4 years ago. We have been together for 6 years, living ...
A. 24 April 2013: I think your best option is to leave him. He is using you and you know that. Why stay with someone who treats you this way?
You deserve better and because you are not married you can just walk away.
Right now I would start preparing on... (read in full...)
Does she like me as a friend, or is she curious about more?
Q. I've been seperated for two years. I have two dogs, and about eight months ago I met a lady at the dog park. Our dogs really liked each other, and played constantly. Over the next couple months, I'd encounter her once-twice a week at t...
A. 23 April 2013: Hello, I think she really enjoys spending time with you. However only she knows how she would feel about being in a relationship with you. I think your playing with fire. She's taken and is not available. Things tend to turn ugly when so... (read in full...)
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