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writes:Hello dear aunts and uncles :)I go to college and I have a best guy friend there, we understand each other really well, he's nice and one of the best friends in general I've ever had. I suspected he might be into me and recently he confirmed he liked me.The problem is, I don't think of him that way and I don't want him to have feelings for me. I have a boyfriend (I love him and he makes me the happiest of all)Me and my friend would never work even I didn't have a boyfriend. How do I get him to stop these feelings? I already told him to get over it, because I'm not breaking up with my bf. I really want him to stop this so we can be friends again (without the awkwardness), but I don't know how!Does anyone have any tips for me?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (26 August 2013):
 the problem is if you give him SOME space it may backfire and make him want you all the more.
IF you want to be friends and he refuses to accept that and it's uncomfortable for you, then I think the only thing you can do is accept that the friendship is not going to survive.
People stay friends with folks they like more than a friend in the hopes that the friend will change their mind and will want more than friendship. since that's not going to happen for you, and you've told him and he does not back down, you have no choice but to walk away from him due to your awkward feelings.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (24 August 2013):
 Dear Anon,
You asked "I really want him to stop this so we can be friends again (without the awkwardness), but I don't know how!"
Sorry you can't have that. He is a man and not homosexual. You will just have to learn how to get by without his friendship. Your boyfriend will appreciate his absence. Being friends again will be very painful for him. Do the kind thing and cut him off completely.
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reader, babyzbird  +, writes (24 August 2013):
 You can't make him get over you. The best thing would be to give him some space to sort out his feelings. He's probably in alot of pain from your rejection. I would leave him alone for a little bit and let him cope.
Good luck
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