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writes:Hey everyone. Hope everyone is good. I posted on here a couple of months ago about having problems with my boyfriends female friend who constantly kept flirting with him. I got mixed opinions about the whole situation and what I should do. I'm unfortunately still having this problem so I'm back to ask for help.My boyfriend has been friends with this girl for several months. I've been with him for 2 years. She's known to be a huge and natural flirt and he knows she flirts with everyone. When she found out he was in a relationship with me, she actually started flirting with him more. I can see that she makes him laugh a lot and makes him happy, and I do think he likes her in a friendly type of way and likes her flirty attention. She tells him he's so sexy and puts hearts at everything she says to him. She's even said she wants to cuddle with him.To be completely honest, I think I'm going crazy over this girl, and I know it's not healthy. I always worry when I'm not around my boyfriend, what is going on and what she is talking about with him and how much he is actually enjoying it. I have several questions.If she knows he's with me, why does she flirt with him?Has anyone else went through this? Am I being crazy?Do you think my boyfriend likes this girl?I don't know what to do. I've been dealing with this for months.
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (15 May 2013):
What has your boyfriend said about the ordeal?
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reader, babyzbird +, writes (15 May 2013):
 If she knows he's with me, why does she flirt with him?Because it makes her feel good to know that he allows her to flirt with him knowing he has you. It's a big boost to her ego. She probably is having difficulty finding a boyfriend (no wonder with they way she has been behaving...) and has low self-esteem because of that. Has anyone else went through this? Am I being crazy?Yes, I actually have. I wanted to choke the girl and hated her. No hon, you are not crazy. Do you think my boyfriend likes this girl?Of course, he lets her get away with it doesn't he? If he didn't like her he would have told her to bug off. (My ex allowed the girl to flirt with him to. Actually he let her do many others things as well...) I don't know what to do. I've been dealing with this for months.Why don't you do what I did. Leave your disrespectful boyfriend. Even if he isn't cheating on you allowing her to flirt with him is unacceptable. It hurts...it was agony for me. I healed though and am now married to a faithful husband who would never disrespect me like that. The thing is hon, that girl is not the problem. It's YOUR boyfriend who is the problem. A good boyfriend would never put you through this. I think either tell him to shape up or leave would be your best option. You deserve better!Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2013): No you are not crazy at all. You have very good and substantial reason to be annoyed and concerned. I think this is totally inappropriate. Guys arent "friends" with girls, no way. Guys are guys, if they are being friendly with a girl it is because there is a physical attraction. Of course he likes her. If she were a girl he was friends with before you, thats one thing, and probably not something you can say much about. But some girl he just met while he was dating you? Yeah right. Thats not cool and his intentions are not innocent. He totally digs her and has the balls to tell you she is but a friend. What to do...you gotta wake up and put your foot down. Just say straight out, I dont like this so called "friendship" with this broad. I dont believe guys and girls can be just friends and this is all rubbing me the wrong way. And Im not going to sit back and watch this unravel right in front of me, while you are both blatantly disrespecting me. Don't make him choose, let him come up with that idea, but let him know how much you dislike his "friendship" and make sure he knows that if he doesnt change it, you are not going to tolerate it. Then see what he does. If he totally dismisses your feelings and keeps "friending" around with her, dump his ass right away. If he listens and validates your feelings and starts showing you respect by cutting her out and stopping this stupidity, then give him a chance. But you gotta speak up. Let him know its unacceptable to you.
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